salparadise Posted August 24, 2021 Posted August 24, 2021 (edited) On 8/19/2021 at 6:59 AM, Lifegoeson12 said: Anyway since then some of his closest friends have been contacting me. These are the friends he always kept me away from. I met them all over the course of our relationship but we never properly hung out it was more of passing meets. My ex always gave the impression that they weren't really fond of me although he never exactly said it. The only thing that seems strange to me is the fact that you think this to be something between inappropriate and downright scandalous. If it were disallowed for a man to date anyone that one of his friends once dated, it would be smart to not have friends. This isn't the way it works in the real world. Probably more of a Disney movie trope. He knew these guys were &^$%# hounds and would try to undermine him to get with you. You said closest friends, but I doubt that. There may be something of a bro code between actual close friends, but most people only have a few of those in a lifetime. Most 'friends' are more like acquaintances. The word is one of the most ambiguous in the English language. And still, many a close friendship has ended over a woman. Life is more complicated than most of us can imagine. Never hit seventeen when you play against the dealer For you know that the odds won't ride with you. Never leave your woman alone, with friends around to steal her Years are gambled and lost, like summer wages. ~From Summer Wages, by Ian Tyson, recorded by David Bromberg and others. Edited August 24, 2021 by salparadise 1
Miss Spider Posted August 24, 2021 Posted August 24, 2021 (edited) Agree completely with salparadise. But watch them be “close friends” when your ex finds out and gets bitter lol. Most likely they’re closer to acquaintances/have hung out before. If you limit your dating pool to only people who’ve never dated/talked to anyone you’ve been acquainted with you’ll cut off a ton of options . Most ppl associate with people based on shared groups/interests so you’re going see overlap source: been asked out by lots of friends acquaintances but only one time where it legit broke bro code Edited August 24, 2021 by Cookiesandough
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