Met Another Man Today.

[poppyfields]

Hey guys, I've been seeing someone for almost two months, we haven't talked about being exclusive, I thought we would last night but didn't.   That's because I'm not even sure I want to, some things have come up recently, long story short, he is still grieving his late wife.

He is still in love with her, or more accurately, her memory.  I don't see how I could possibly compete with that, nor should I have to, again it's been less than two months.  And tbh I don't think I'm into it anymore as much as I was anyway.  I didn't even want to spend the night last night, so I am pretty sure he knows something's up (or off).

Anyway, so today I met a man while waiting on line at the supermarket.  It was a long line!!  Lol  Around 30 minutes or thereabouts. I was buying food and drink (sparkling wine), and he was buying scotch (we actually discussed this believe it or not, lol).

Anyway, we just started chatting, he started it.  I swear it was like we knew each other for years!  That's how comfortable it was right from the beginning, no me being tense and nervous like I typically am when I feel an attraction.

Turns out he is a marine biologist, and we started talking about that; I told him I loved Jaws 3 about the marine biologists and he was like "No!! that was the worst!!  Lol  A total misrepresentation of what we do or how the fish behave," and we were laughing out loud (literally) because I was like "What?  That was my favorite Jaws film!" 

Then we started talking about my old job as a paralegal, well still am sort of (part time), and how I was planning to attend law school but changed my purpose, and he was so fascinated, it was just so fun talking to him, I could have talked to him forever!

So, now to the good part.  As I was leaving he said "you are way too pretty for me (which I'm not, HE is super good looking!), but I'd like to take you out anyway, for a drink, a bite to eat?" and I'm teasing him saying "I am too pretty? Is that a line that typically works for you, haha" in my own girly girl way lol and he totally got my humor!  I dunno, you had to be there I guess.

So he asked for my number, but I said "would you mind if I took yours instead, I'd be more comfortable with that." He understood, didn't push it and put his number in my phone.

Physically, he is very handsome, some grays, he's shorter, my guess is  5' 7"ish, but in great shape from what I could tell.  I was wearing my pink sneaks, so with heels, I will no doubt be taller, but don't care.  That's assuming we begin dating of course.

Ladies, do not rule out shorter guys, I don't get that at all, this guy is hot! 

Anyway, I cannot stop thinking about our interaction now and want to text him, I just thought he was really cool!   

No question really, just wanted to share my news.  A bit sad about the guy I've been seeing, but as the saying goes "when one door closes, another opens," I totally believe in that!

[Ami1uwant]

Why wearing heels for food shopping?

[poppyfields]

2 minutes ago, Ami1uwant said:

Why wearing heels for food shopping?

LOL I wasn't wearing heels, I was wearing my sneaks, I wrote when wearing heels (like if we ever go out on a date) I will be taller.

>>I was wearing my pink sneaks, so with heels, I will no doubt be taller, but don't care.  That's assuming we begin dating of course.

Edited August 18, 2021 by poppyfields

[introverted1]

Go, Poppy!  I've had surprisingly good luck in the supermarket. If nothing else, you had a nice flirtation.  But my vote is for you to text him!

[basil67]

Oh, this sounds exciting!

I'm with you there on the height thing.  I'm about 5'7 and was taller in heels than the far majority of men I've dated/had relationships with.  A guy who's confident (and isn't a confident man the one we love!) doesn't care.

[poppyfields]

Thanks guys, yeah I doubt he gave the height thing much thought, I didn't until I started thinking about it afterwards. He just seemed super confident overall, which goes to show ya, it's NOT the height that is a turn off, but a man's insecurity about his height!   

Anyway, I am going to text him but I'd feel better if I end things with the guy I have been seeing first.  Not sure why, like I said we never discussed exclusivity, but I'd feel better anyway.

Soon, probably tonight.  And I will text new guy tomorrow, and will let you know.

It's funny, I have NEVER texted a man first before!   Not even sure what to say -- "hey, this is poppy from the market yesterday"?

Any ideas would be welcome!

Edited August 19, 2021 by poppyfields

[Ami1uwant]

1 hour ago, poppyfields said:

LOL I wasn't wearing heels, I was wearing my sneaks, I wrote when wearing heels (like if we ever go out on a date) I will be taller.

>>I was wearing my pink sneaks, so with heels, I will no doubt be taller, but don't care.  That's assuming we begin dating of course.

Misread….

 

how often does thus happen for you like thus?  
 

this has been very rare for me. When it has I at least try to see if there is something.  You might not bea good match or one is already taken

[Alpacalia]

That's cute.

Wine and scotch, huh?

I guess that's better than reaching for that last container of tahini humus.

 

 

[Gaeta]

I had a series of dates with shorter men that were confident therefore hot. I usually wear flats, there is so much variety and l feel as sexy in them as in high heels.

Sorry for lawyer guy. You were both meant to learn something and move on to something better.

I'm standing by for your update

[poppyfields]

15 minutes ago, Ami1uwant said:

Misread….

 

how often does thus happen for you like thus?  
 

this has been very rare for me. When it has I at least try to see if there is something.  You might not bea good match or one is already taken

You mean how often do I meet men in supermarkets to whom I am attracted?  NEVER.

I meet men (people) all the time though, just out and about.  I can be quite friendly when I want to be.

I have had men ask for my number, but I typically won't give it.  Just never felt that "pull."

But with this man, I dunno, I felt differently.  Like super comfy, not sure if that's good or bad.  But I would like to find out, so will text him, tomorrow most likely.

What do you mean by I might not be a good match or one is already taken?  Apologies, I have trouble understanding your posts sometimes.

 

Edited August 19, 2021 by poppyfields

[poppyfields]

3 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

Sorry for lawyer guy. You were both meant to learn something and move on to something better.

I'm standing by for your update

Thanks G, and yeah that's how I view all my dating experiences, that we came into each other's lives to learn something from each other, even if/when it doesn't work out ultimately.  And from there move on to something better, not a better "person" necessarily because he is a very good person, but a better match for each of us. 

Zero regrets. 

[Miss Spider]

Ohhhh snap , look at you guys slaying it at the supermarket lol . 1/2 an hour line, I’d nope out of that so quick. But you go girl!! That sounds like a cute story. 
 

sorry it’s not working out with ole dude, man you seemed super into him s few days ago . Feelings are so fickle like that I guess 

[Happy Lemming]

1 hour ago, poppyfields said:

It's funny, I have NEVER texted a man first before!   Not even sure what to say -- "hey, this is poppy from the market yesterday"?

 

Not that you would open with this... but you could ask him if he a "single malt" or "blended" scotch guy??  It would show you remembered he was buying scotch.

Your opening line sounds good... It's an invitation to start a conversation.  After a few texts, ask if its OK to talk on the phone vs. text... let him hear your voice. 

Have your schedule handy, so you can answer him right away if he asks you out.

As a side note... I am sorry things didn't work out with the previous guy. 

[Miss Spider]

Sorry I misread that you still like the guy a little but you’re just disappointed he’s hung up on his late wife. That sucks, poppy. But I think you got the right attitude. 
 

Sorry I didn’t read thoroughly enough. I’m actually love shack in while I’m on a date rofl I got a problem 

[poppyfields]

14 minutes ago, Happy Lemming said:

Not that you would open with this... but you could ask him if he a "single malt" or "blended" scotch guy??  It would show you remembered he was buying scotch.

Your opening line sounds good... It's an invitation to start a conversation.  After a few texts, ask if its OK to talk on the phone vs. text... let him hear your voice. 

Have your schedule handy, so you can answer him right away if he asks you out.

As a side note... I am sorry things didn't work out with the previous guy. 

Lemming he knows my voice, we met in person remember?  We talked for 30 minutes. 

But hey good suggestion about the scotch! 

But knowing me, I'll just feel it out and see how I feel at the time, I may even call!  That way I don't have to be nervous waiting for a response!  

There's a method to my madness y'all. 

Edited August 19, 2021 by poppyfields

[poppyfields]

10 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said:

Sorry I misread that you still like the guy a little but you’re just disappointed he’s hung up on his late wife. That sucks, poppy. But I think you got the right attitude. 
 

Sorry I didn’t read thoroughly enough. I’m actually love shack in while I’m on a date rofl I got a problem 

No worries, I often misread too or don't read all the posts, it happens.

You're on LS while on a date?  You're killing me sista, lol.

Edited August 19, 2021 by poppyfields

[Happy Lemming]

3 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

Lemming he knows my voice, we met in person remember?  We talked for 30 minutes.   

 

Yes... I guess I just like talking over texting, it feels more personal (in my opinion).

[poppyfields]

2 minutes ago, Happy Lemming said:

Yes... I guess I just like talking over texting, it feels more personal (in my opinion).

I may actually call, I feel like stepping out of my comfort zone. 

I mean, I have never taken a man's number before either (unless we were exchanging numbers), so may as well call and make that a first too!  lol

Edited August 19, 2021 by poppyfields

[Gaeta]

15 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said:

Sorry I didn’t read thoroughly enough. I’m actually love shack in while I’m on a date rofl I got a problem 

Ohhhh boy!! Lol

[Ami1uwant]

1 hour ago, poppyfields said:

You mean how often do I meet men in supermarkets to whom I am attracted?  NEVER.

I meet men (people) all the time though, just out and about.  I can be quite friendly when I want to be.

I have had men ask for my number, but I typically won't give it.  Just never felt that "pull."

But with this man, I dunno, I felt differently.  Like super comfy, not sure if that's good or bad.  But I would like to find out, so will text him, tomorrow most likely.

What do you mean by I might not be a good match or one is already taken?  Apologies, I have trouble understanding your posts sometimes.

 

I’m talking the situation you described where two random folks hit off a conversation easily.

[Starrs]

aww that sounds really cute, i hope it works out between you guys

Edited August 19, 2021 by Starrs

[Gaeta]

3 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

I may actually call, I feel like stepping out of my comfort zone. 

I mean, I have never taken a man's number before either (unless we were exchanging numbers), so may as well call and make that a first too!  lol

You always advise to think outside the box! Your turn

Edited August 19, 2021 by Gaeta

[poppyfields]

1 minute ago, Ami1uwant said:

I’m talking the situation you described where two random folks hit off a conversation easily.

Oh okay, yeah I think that is extremely rare, at least for me.  I wonder what the folks around us thought about it, I mean we were very clearly having fun, laughing, clicking.

Anyway, could be just a random flirtation, we shall see.

[poppyfields]

1 minute ago, Gaeta said:

You always advise to think outside the box! Your turn

Yes I do, so you're right, it's very much MY turn!  I am kinda excited about it no matter which way it goes.

[Pumpernickel]

3 hours ago, poppyfields said:

he's shorter, my guess is  5' 7"ish

I also have a thing for shorter guys. The smartest, fittest and funniest guy (omg his humor ) I’ve ever had a thing with was also the shortest out of all my BFs/flings. And a grrrrrreat luvvah on top of that.