chillii Posted August 19, 2021 Posted August 19, 2021 12 hours ago, Alpaca said: You failed to mention any of this initially and had you some of the advice would have been much different. That's what l thought. But anyway op , still way too much bs . 1
poppyfields Posted August 19, 2021 Posted August 19, 2021 (edited) Not proud to admit, but I can be 'wishy washy' at times, but like d0nnivain would never say yes when I knew for a fact it was no, and also if I knew it was no, would never suggest you contact me over the weekend to set something up. At most she's ambivalent, she may be seeing someone and keeping you on the backburner, about to end another relationship (like I'm in the process of doing), had a death in the family, whatever, so she's unsure, not ready. Of course I'm projecting my own feelings and experience, point is it could be anything. I mean it's "on line," this should be ok imo, learn to go with the flow, you haven't even met! People can be so intense on line sometimes allowing themselves to become too invested and attached to the outcome. On-line flings and interactions can be so intoxicating, the "unknown" is very powerful! But honestly, I've learned to take with a grain of salt and take nothing said too seriously until an actual meet has been planned and scheduled and even then, allow for the possibility of a flake. Have fun with it, enjoy the interaction, you might even learn something from it! And continue talking to others as well. Like I said, things are not always what they appear to be. Best to remain open and flexible. When local, people always advise to "move on" if the person doesn't want to meet within a week, two weeks, but why? It's on line for goodness sake, if you are enjoying the interaction, keep talking, why not? Anything else is becoming too attached to the outcome, best to simply enjoy it for what it is, nothing more, nothing less. You never know what might happen down the road. Until such time you actually meet in person and thus able to gauge the in-person energy/chemistry which is what's important imho! Edited August 19, 2021 by poppyfields
Gaeta Posted August 19, 2021 Posted August 19, 2021 32 minutes ago, poppyfields said: When local, people always advise to "move on" if the person doesn't want to meet within a week, two weeks, but why? Because most of us date with a goal/purpose and wasting time on wishy/washy people will only delay us on our journey toward our goal. It's also self preservation, each encounter we have a little hope, we invest a little energy into it and if we repeat that too often we're left drained. Better save our energy for someone that appears genuine. There is the odd exception that this lady has a sincere interest in Clever but why waste time with the 'odd exception' when he can move on and concentrate on those that clearly want to date him. 1 1
poppyfields Posted August 19, 2021 Posted August 19, 2021 (edited) 16 minutes ago, Gaeta said: There is the odd exception that this lady has a sincere interest in Clever but why waste time with the 'odd exception' when he can move on and concentrate on those that clearly want to date him. Personally, I consider nothing a 'waste of time,' I learn something valuable from every interaction I have, whether it leads to meeting in person or not. And he could still focus on talking and meeting with those who clearly want to date him now, no one, least of all me, said he should stop doing that. I mean why not do both? I believe in never shutting doors cause you just never know what might happen down the road, that's all. Remain open and flexible to all of it, and if he meets someone else and becomes exclusive, he can shut the other doors. JMO, I respect yours too. Just offering a different perspective. Edited August 19, 2021 by poppyfields
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