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I recently started messaging a woman that I had met 8 years ago. We had met in church briefly after my divorce, but nothing ever came of it. Time passed and she got married and then divorced and I ended up in different relationships. We've been Facebook friends all these years, but rarely ever comment or like each other's posts. After her divorce about 2 years ago we had communicated through messaging about getting together and being friends, but even though I gave her my number she never called me. I asked her about meeting up but she never agreed to, even though she said she wanted to. Finally I gave up and everything just faded away after that. Over the last couple of days I commented on a post of hers on Facebook and we got into a great conversation and she messaged me and asked me what happened with my last relationship and if I was still engaged. She says she only wants to date and doesn't want a relationship and I agreed to that (I'm kind of sick in relationships at this point as well). We set a date to go out tomorrow night. We had a great conversation last night via messenger. This morning around 11:00am I messaged her and since it's Monday (a work day) I said, 'Work work. Hope you have a good day today'. She read it, but never responded, that is until 9:00 p.m. tonight. She asked me how my day was. Should I respond back now or should I wait till tomorrow? Maybe she waited so long not to seem over eager, but I don't want to seem over eager either.

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Meet up in person. See how that goes. This way you're not wasting time on a textbuddy when you could be dating women who are interested in you.

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Yep.....  Stop txt'ing.  You build something in your mind that doesn't exist.  Or worse... you won't have anything to talk about.  You need a spark... and sitting silent isn't the way to do it. 

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I think it's fine to wait until tomorrow (now today) to respond.   I'm glad the date was fun & the conversation enjoyable but this is not a woman who is eager to do much so keep it light & NOT daily.  

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Acknowledge her text and tell her that you are looking forward to your date...then stop texting until the day of the date confirming details.

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