Author Sahanna Posted August 17, 2021 Author Posted August 17, 2021 4 minutes ago, Weezy1973 said: If an isolated incident I’d say you were overreacting. Especially considering from your post, you didn’t even ask him to come help. It’s not like he refused to come, he just didn’t offer. That being said, given your history with him, this just seems like the final straw in a long string of incidents….so the reaction is understandable. Yeah, I didn't outright ask, and that is my fault. However he has had car problems before and called me saying simply "My car is overheating." All I said was, "Where are you? OK, I'm on my way." It kinda feels like......do the actual words really need to be spoken, but then again to avoid confusion I guess it's better they are spoken than making assumptions. You're right though, my reaction is based on a long history with him doing inconsiderate things and me just accepting it.
Weezy1973 Posted August 17, 2021 Posted August 17, 2021 3 hours ago, Sahanna said: However he has had car problems before and called me saying simply "My car is overheating." All I said was, "Where are you? OK, I'm on my way." It kinda feels like......do the actual words really need to be spoken, This is a very common relationship mistake. To be blunt, yes the words matter. No man is a mind reader. If you wanted him to come help you, ask him.
Beast26 Posted August 17, 2021 Posted August 17, 2021 I would have been mad if my girlfriend looked for someone in the parking lot for help! I would've immediately left wherever I was to help her! But then again I taught her how to use the portable jump box I bought her to eliminate this situation.
d0nnivain Posted August 17, 2021 Posted August 17, 2021 This parking lot incident is just the latest in a long line of things your BF did, or more specifically did not do, which leaves you wondering if he doesn't care. You need to end this relationship because it's nor working for you. My husband isn't one who rushes to my aid even when I ask for help. He's always been more of the solve your own problems type but over the years I have taught tim that it's not that I need him to solve my problem but that I need a hug & to feel supported. I can't get that from the AAA guy.
Alfano Posted August 17, 2021 Posted August 17, 2021 11 hours ago, Weezy1973 said: This is a very common relationship mistake. To be blunt, yes the words matter. No man is a mind reader. If you wanted him to come help you, ask him. Disagree. In a situation like this he should have been out the door and on his way as soon as he was made aware of the problem. That's what we do.
Weezy1973 Posted August 17, 2021 Posted August 17, 2021 1 hour ago, Alfano said: Disagree. In a situation like this he should have been out the door and on his way as soon as he was made aware of the problem. That's what we do. That’s what some people do. But everybody’s different. 1
Alfano Posted August 17, 2021 Posted August 17, 2021 6 hours ago, Weezy1973 said: That’s what some people do. But everybody’s different. Right. Some people are drug addicts and alcoholics and abusive. Others are not. Everybody's different. When I say "That's what we do" I mean "us responsible caring people".
Wiseman2 Posted August 18, 2021 Posted August 18, 2021 On 8/16/2021 at 9:21 PM, Sahanna said: I didn't outright ask, and that is my fault. That doesn't excuse him from being a thickhead about it. He was being lazy selfish and passive aggressive. You know it and he knows it. It's not your fault. Men aren't such idiots that you need a jumbotron and bullhorn to make a situation rather clear. You were stranded you called him (not AAA etc) What's not to understand? 1
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