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BF(29) constantly talks about work!


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Im 25 and my bf is 29. Weve been together 2 years and live together. 

Hes had other jobs but since hes started this job a few months ago, he can not stop talking about every single detail!!!!!! As soon as he starts talking i zone out. 

He comes home on lunch and speaks about the people at work the whole time hes back. Whem he gets home from work, guess what, he starts talkinf about his work friends life stories or telling me about the mechanical parts inside a lorry which i have no idea about or any interest in lorries. 95% of what comes out of his mouth is work related and of no interest to me. I dont know about the parts on a car and its so boring i dont want him to come home and basically teach me. I know details of about 20 of the warehouse workers and their families even their pets. I know their schedules. Its so unbareable now. He does this when im trying to work or comes up to me while im cooking something complicated or i have to turn the hoover off half way through because 'guess what this guy at work bla bla bla'. 

I used to love hearing about his day, it was like a 15 min convo and quite general without all the irrellivent stuff. Now its like he doesnt talk about anything else. Playing a game? Out for dinner? Visiting friends or family? Perfect time to talk about work. Half way through MY conversation? Thats a perfect time too.

So my question is, how in the politest possible way do i either tell him to stop it, or to hint it without actually saying it. I dont want to be mean, he is like glass i could say something and he will start crying(maybe emotional blackmail). 

I know its such a small silly thing but if i was to click a timer everytime he would speak about work, id say id be close to 3 hours out of the 5 he is at home with me. Every day.

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Don't be home when he gets home from work. Find a nice coffee shop where you can sit and enjoy a few hours of peace and quiet.

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Haha yea ^ avoid him the whole relationship.  But keep in mind if it’s a new job? Maybe it will cool down. Regardless, I think you should sit down and communicate. Explain to him it’s not healthy to be preoccupied with work and you’re worried about him. 

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I would tell him...Honey lets make a new rule! No talk about work after 8 pm! 

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Umm, you say to him "PLEASE stop talking about work.  Can we talk about something else?"

I don't know how you could be with someone for two years and not feel comfortable saying that to them.

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