Girl lied about me messaging her

[HopelessNick]

I used to like this girl at work in a different department. It's a long story, but things went pair shaped because of a prank I played and a really awkward apology (only because she misunderstood).

I overheard her saying to her colleague I was really queer, it was so obvious I had a crush on her and I was annoying her because of a couple of pranks I played. She's a really outgoing, talkative and social girl. 

I found out that recently, she told my colleague in my department that I was "deeply in love with her" and that I "constantly messaged her". 

I don't care about the love bit cause she can think what she wants. But why would she lie about the messages? (Twice in 4 months I counted).

I cant do anything cause I shouldn't know she said that. 

[elaine567]

You annoyed the hell out of her.
The way to a girl's heart is romance, care, kindness, strength, maturity, and "love", NOT stupid pranks that are designed to humiliate her.
Yes, you got her attention, but not in a good way...
Hopefully you learned a lesson.
Leave her alone now.

[ExpatInItaly]

We can't tell you why she would lie about the messages. 

But as we all told you in your last thread, you really need to leave this woman alone. She does not like your jokes and pranks anymore and she is very irritated with you. So, ignore what she says and stop interacting with her.

Period. 

[Wiseman2]

This is all gossip and hearsay.

Be more careful and professional at work. Do not message any women at work about anything other than work related topics.

The last thing you want is nonsense like this going through the rumor mill and ending up in HR as a sexual harassment situation.

 

Edited August 14, 2021 by Wiseman2

[elaine567]

41 minutes ago, HopelessNick said:

found out that recently, she told my colleague in my department that I was "deeply in love with her" and that I "constantly messaged her". 

This is office tittle tattle so ignore.
Did she actually say that? Maybe, maybe not, who knows?
Your colleague may have assumed it, or added to the story for effect.
.
However, you now need to STAY AWAY from this girl, she doesn't like you.

[HopelessNick]

I've completely ignored her for over 2 weeks now. I literally look down at the ground when I walk past her. 

[Blind-Sided]

49 minutes ago, HopelessNick said:

I've completely ignored her for over 2 weeks now. I literally look down at the ground when I walk past her. 

2 weeks isn't enough time.  Continue to ignore her... and stop "Pranking" girls.  They generally don't like it. 

[HopelessNick]

14 minutes ago, Blind-Sided said:

2 weeks isn't enough time.  Continue to ignore her... and stop "Pranking" girls.  They generally don't like it. 

I'm gonna do it forever. I have no interest in interacting with them 

Edited August 14, 2021 by HopelessNick

[smackie9]

5 hours ago, HopelessNick said:

I've completely ignored her for over 2 weeks now. I literally look down at the ground when I walk past her. 

This is no way to behave. You hold your head high and be cordial/professional. Don't be a sheepish shelp. Just say good morning, to acknowledge her and your coworkers. Be an adult about this.

[FudgeSwirl]

I agree with me @smackie9 regarding how to act. 

You shouldn't have played silly pranks on her nor should you get sucked into office talks because people enjoy drama, even if it means lying or exaggerating about something someone had said.  However in spite of what happened, just act professionally and cordially as you would with any co-worker and go about your business at work.

[Alvi]

14 hours ago, HopelessNick said:

I don't care about the love bit cause she can think what she wants. But why would she lie about the messages? (Twice in 4 months I counted).

She might have a whole different ides of what a lot is. Perhaps after your pranks it was 2 times too many for her. 

[ShyViolet]

The minute you mentioned "pranking", I remember your other threads that you posted.  In your other posts you frequently talk about "pranking".  You need to grow up and stop doing this.  It's immature and obnoxious.  You desperately need to improve your social skills and start interacting with people more appropriately.  Then you'll have better luck in dating.

[spiderowl]

16 hours ago, HopelessNick said:

I'm gonna do it forever. I have no interest in interacting with them 

But you are interacting with them if you prank them.  You are trying to get their attention and pretty much forcing them to react.  There are better ways of interacting with women, like talking with them and being a good friend.  Why have you chosen to play pranks instead?

[ExpatInItaly]

17 hours ago, HopelessNick said:

I'm gonna do it forever. I have no interest in interacting with them 

Nick, are you generally this black-and-white in your thinking? In other areas of your life?

There is a very wide margin between playing annoying pranks and never interacting with her again. You seem to struggle a lot with the in-between and understanding social cues. . 

Edited August 15, 2021 by ExpatInItaly

[ChatroomHero]

Sounds like pranking is your self defense. You are trying to get their attention but also setting an excuse for when they reject you. "She hates me because I pulled a prank she misunderstood". That way you don't have to admit if they reject you, that you were rejected for you. You tell yourself it was because they "misunderstood" or had a bad reaction to a "prank". You are pushing them away in hopes maybe one will not push you away, at the same time avoiding having to admit rejection.

Don't do that. You think it's a harmless way to interact without risk but it's not. It's really pretty pointless and won't ever work out.

[Alfano]

What sort of pranks?