Qfan12_ Posted August 13, 2021 Posted August 13, 2021 (edited) So I have posted before in this forum about the situation in hand. Basically I was dating someone for 2 months where throughout I never knew where I stood. I finally brought up the DTR conversation (which he said was too early) and said he didn’t want a relationship, but wanted to see where things go. I stated that a relationship was what I ultimately wanted and couldn’t spend my time waiting or being anxious if I was to continue seeing him. I ended it on that basis knowing I would never be able to let me emotions grow, and how I would always feel unstable in the situation if I knew he didn’t want a relationship but still wanted to see me. He did make me doubt my own feelings and logic with his words when I ended it saying how we wanted the same thing and lost something good. I know you should always listen to your own intuition and how you feel. There were several red flags with him, how he turned blame on me a lot, couldn’t accept my best friend was a guy and slightly gaslighted me. But right now I feel sad and a bit confused. My friends say I did the right thing and I should move forward with dating others, but I feel very tentative, unsure and slightly guilty, as if I was wrong to end it. Edited August 13, 2021 by Quizfan12 Spelling
smackie9 Posted August 13, 2021 Posted August 13, 2021 I agree with your friends. Ya you had hopes, and who doesn't right? They were dashed, so of course some disappointment will set it. This will pass.
ShyViolet Posted August 13, 2021 Posted August 13, 2021 You did the right thing in ending it, absolutely. Just because you feel sad now, that doesn't mean that ending it wasn't the right decision. You are allowed to feel sad. It will pass.
Miss Spider Posted August 13, 2021 Posted August 13, 2021 (edited) Absolutely. A casual relationship that’s casual in label only .It sucks but you’ll get over it. Stay strong Edited August 13, 2021 by Cookiesandough 1
SumGuy Posted August 13, 2021 Posted August 13, 2021 48 minutes ago, Quizfan12 said: ... I know you should always listen to your own intuition and how you feel. There were several red flags with him, how he turned blame on me a lot, couldn’t accept my best friend was a guy and slightly gaslighted me. But right now I feel sad and a bit confused. My friends say I did the right thing and I should move forward with dating others, but I feel very tentative, unsure and slightly guilty, as if I was wrong to end it. I agree with your friends. I wouldn't say always listen to you intuition, rather look at his actions rather than his words (which may be just another way to say you intuition ). His words said you two wanted the same thing but his actions said the opposite.
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