Wiseman2 Posted August 31, 2021 Posted August 31, 2021 1 hour ago, Agentra said: Why do you think he is still communicating with me, even though I told him no more "funny business" in the future? Because he has nothing better to do? :') You need to block and delete him. Anyone who tells you his life is too complicated by "dating multiple women", is someone to avoid entirely. He's not your friend. Or BF. In fact hanging on is preventing you from moving forward. Get a good profile and pics on quality dating apps and start talking to and meeting men.
ExpatInItaly Posted August 31, 2021 Posted August 31, 2021 2 hours ago, Agentra said: Why do you think he is still communicating with me, even though I told him no more "funny business" in the future? Probably because he is hoping you will not stick to your word. You are not going to be able to keep in touch with this guy and move past him at the same time.
Miss Spider Posted August 31, 2021 Posted August 31, 2021 (edited) 7 hours ago, Agentra said: Why do you think he is still communicating with me, even though I told him no more "funny business" in the future? Because he has nothing better to do? :') I didn’t realize I already responded in the thread a while ago and the opinion I have is one that has been lengthily discussed. I’d reason why he is communicating with you could be because he enjoys it/nothing better to do or he could be hoping for the possibility of more sex down the line… people tend to say that they are going to do some thing, but change their mind all the time.. It’s good to keep bridges intact Just curious why you told him that? Edited August 31, 2021 by Cookiesandough
Miss Spider Posted August 31, 2021 Posted August 31, 2021 (edited) 5 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: You need to block and delete him. Anyone who tells you his life is too complicated by "dating multiple women", is someone to avoid entirely. He's not your friend. Or BF. In fact hanging on is preventing you from moving forward. Get a good profile and pics on quality dating apps and start talking to and meeting men. At least he’s being honest. It is complicated dating multiple people Edited August 31, 2021 by Cookiesandough
Author Agentra Posted September 13, 2021 Author Posted September 13, 2021 On 8/31/2021 at 6:52 PM, Cookiesandough said: Just curious why you told him that? Why I told him "no funny business"? Because I meant it and he'd done me "wrong" before. I didn't mention it in the OP but before our fling kicked off, we'd met once and he turned me down because he "actually had already met somebody else". He was merely texting me for 2 weeks, I wasn't expecting anything to come from it, then suddenly he returned full force, looking for sex and company I guess. I should've known better, but I thought I could handle it just fine and keep it casual on my end as well.
Author Agentra Posted September 13, 2021 Author Posted September 13, 2021 Random update for the hell of it. Things ended around 2 and a half weeks ago, not sure, I don't count the days anymore. We chatted the following days but then the communication suddenly dropped. He wasn't on the app, was out living his life with the new girl I suppose, according to the rest of his social media. I actually got quite mad at him after a few days and deleted him from everywhere. I blocked him on Whatsapp as well (the only social media app I use) but didn't know he'd still be able to text/call me outside of the app. I was set on just moving on, didn't think I'd hear from him anymore. Didn't check his socials, honestly didn't care anymore. When two days ago he texted me, showing me the new car he bought. I was polite with him, kept it short, while it was obvious he was trying to keep the chat going. Just weird. I think I've largely made peace with what happened, my ego got hurt but it's getting better. He just looks and sounds lost.
ExpatInItaly Posted September 13, 2021 Posted September 13, 2021 (edited) 30 minutes ago, Agentra said: He just looks and sounds lost. He's not lost, Agentra. He's multi-dating and keeping you on the back-burner for whenever he wants attention or is having a dry spell. He doesn't see a future with you but he is fine with having some fun with you in between other women. This isn't the first time either, apparently. He's just fine, trucking along and dropping into and out of your life when he wants. I am not sure why you think this means he is "lost." 30 minutes ago, Agentra said: When two days ago he texted me, showing me the new car he bought. I was polite with him May I ask why you responded at all? You should know better by now. You are going to get hurt again. Edited September 13, 2021 by ExpatInItaly
Author Agentra Posted September 13, 2021 Author Posted September 13, 2021 Just now, ExpatInItaly said: He's not lost, Agentra. He's multi-dating and keeping you on the back-burner for whenever he wants attention or is having a dry spell. He doesn't see a future with you but he is fine with having some fun with you in between other women. This isn't the first time either, apparently. He's just fine, trucking along and dropping into and out of your life when wants. May I ask why you responded at all? You should know better by now. You are going to get hurt again. You're right. I suppose I'm merely thinking too much. The only times I've personally swung between people like this has been when I've been lost and confused. But not everyone's like me. I responded because I felt quite indifferent. It flattered my ego, which sounds pitiful. I've deleted and properly blocked him once again. Properly this time :') I ran into and old girlfriend yesterday, haven't seen her in 7 years. Will be meeting up her in a cafe tonight to catch up, hopefully this will be fun and bring something good into my life!
ExpatInItaly Posted September 13, 2021 Posted September 13, 2021 1 minute ago, Agentra said: I've deleted and properly blocked him once again. Properly this time :') Good for you! This guy does not have serious intentions with you, and it's better to avoid him now. 1 minute ago, Agentra said: The only times I've personally swung between people like this has been when I've been lost and confused. But not everyone's like me. That's an important realization, too. We can't project our own expectations and experiences on to others. Plenty of people do what he's doing not because they're lost but because they're just out to have a good time with no commitments. 2 minutes ago, Agentra said: I ran into and old girlfriend yesterday, haven't seen her in 7 years. Will be meeting up her in a cafe tonight to catch up, hopefully this will be fun and bring something good into my life! Great plan. Reconnect with the people and things that make you happy. Avoid those whose objectives are perspectives are so different from yours that they only bring confusion and emotional chaos into your life. 1
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