DingDang Posted August 16, 2021 Posted August 16, 2021 Quote i wouldn’t give him space and would blow up his phone when i felt he was ignoring me. since then i learned my lesson i am not trying to screw things over anymore. And yet here you are, asking advice about doing it again. 3
Author Starrs Posted August 16, 2021 Author Posted August 16, 2021 7 hours ago, d0nnivain said: night he texted back, and said it’s cancelled unless i drive to him AGAIN. said his car isn’t ready, not sure what to do at this point anymore.
d0nnivain Posted August 17, 2021 Posted August 17, 2021 Well there you go. It's cancelled again. Be done. At most text him back & say something like I don't really understand why your car has been on the fritz in the shop for a month but feel free to call me back to make plans around here once you get your transportation issues sorted out. Then leave it be. I warned you he only wanted causal sex delivered . . . meaning you come to him & he doesn't have to make the effort to plan a date. That is the message you sent -- that you are OK with this -- the 2x you crawled naked into bed with him. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted August 17, 2021 Posted August 17, 2021 13 hours ago, Starrs said: he texted back, and said it’s cancelled unless i drive to him AGAIN. said his car isn’t ready, not sure what to do at this point anymore. He's showing you pretty clearly that he is just that into this anymore. Forget him. 1
Author Starrs Posted August 17, 2021 Author Posted August 17, 2021 3 hours ago, d0nnivain said: Well there you go. It's cancelled again. Be done. At most text him back & say something like I don't really understand why your car has been on the fritz in the shop for a month but feel free to call me back to make plans around here once you get your transportation issues sorted out. Then leave it be. I warned you he only wanted causal sex delivered . . . meaning you come to him & he doesn't have to make the effort to plan a date. That is the message you sent -- that you are OK with this -- the 2x you crawled naked into bed with him. we got into a huge fight last night, i called him many times and texted and snapped him got nothing back. i sent an apology text this morning telling him i should have been more understanding of his situation but i acted selfish. and i don’t think he wants sex only, but he said his car might end being totaled which is why i got really pissed off because it doesn’t make a sense for a car to be at a shop for a month and have it be totaled now? anyways, he has not responded to my apology to getting a second chance and making things work this time. i am ok with driving 1 more time but that’s it, should i block him and move on? or continue to wait.
d0nnivain Posted August 17, 2021 Posted August 17, 2021 9 minutes ago, Starrs said: we got into a huge fight last night, i called him many times and texted and snapped him got nothing back. You blew up his phone & now he has concluded that you are a psycho. I am not saying you are but you have to admit that blowing up somebody's phone was the wrong move. Until you learn patience you will destroy every relationship you try to have. You send 1 message per 24 hour period. Over the course of 72hours if you have not heard back from someone you are trying to talk to, you assume they can't be bothered & you leave them alone. After all of this. . . you chasing him while he was on vacation; him blowing you off for his friends; him now cancelling you next date the fact that you are still casing this guy screams that you are unstable & desperate. If you don't think you are either of those things, explain your behavior. Leave this man & your EX alone. Do some serious soul searching. Figure out why you act like this, why you chase men who don't give flying fig about you. Work to fix what's broken in you. Develop some self esteem. People with self respect do not debase themselves they way you have been doing. 3
Author Starrs Posted August 17, 2021 Author Posted August 17, 2021 (edited) 3 minutes ago, d0nnivain said: You blew up his phone & now he has concluded that you are a psycho. I am not saying you are but you have to admit that blowing up somebody's phone was the wrong move. Until you learn patience you will destroy every relationship you try to have. You send 1 message per 24 hour period. Over the course of 72hours if you have not heard back from someone you are trying to talk to, you assume they can't be bothered & you leave them alone. After all of this. . . you chasing him while he was on vacation; him blowing you off for his friends; him now cancelling you next date the fact that you are still casing this guy screams that you are unstable & desperate. If you don't think you are either of those things, explain your behavior. Leave this man & your EX alone. Do some serious soul searching. Figure out why you act like this, why you chase men who don't give flying fig about you. Work to fix what's broken in you. Develop some self esteem. People with self respect do not debase themselves they way you have been doing. right, and that’s why i apologized so are you saying i block him for good? since he’s clearly ignoring my apology. he just saw my story on snapchat too. and whenever i apologized to my ex he would always reply. this man doesn’t even reply to anything, he doesn’t block me either after i blew up his phone. what’s up with that? Edited August 17, 2021 by Starrs
d0nnivain Posted August 17, 2021 Posted August 17, 2021 It doesn't matter if you block him. He won't be beating down your door. He's concluded that you are too much trouble. If you need to block him so that you don't continue this self destructive pattern of chasing after him, it's OK to leverage technology to help you. Hopefully he will do you a favor & block you. In his shoes I would. 1
Author Starrs Posted August 17, 2021 Author Posted August 17, 2021 4 minutes ago, d0nnivain said: It doesn't matter if you block him. He won't be beating down your door. He's concluded that you are too much trouble. If you need to block him so that you don't continue this self destructive pattern of chasing after him, it's OK to leverage technology to help you. Hopefully he will do you a favor & block you. In his shoes I would. okay i’m just annoyed because he keeps watching my stories. so he is clearly ignoring my apology. clearly i’m not the problem here, he is. he’s playing games not me 1
d0nnivain Posted August 17, 2021 Posted August 17, 2021 3 minutes ago, Starrs said: okay i’m just annoyed because he keeps watching my stories. so he is clearly ignoring my apology. clearly i’m not the problem here, he is. he’s playing games not me He's watching you the same way people rubberneck car accident. People can't look away from the horror. He's no prize but until you recognize that yes, you ARE a big part of the problem, you will never find love. 1
Author Starrs Posted August 17, 2021 Author Posted August 17, 2021 Just now, d0nnivain said: He's watching you the same way people rubberneck car accident. People can't look away from the horror. He's no prize but until you recognize that yes, you ARE a big part of the problem, you will never find love. well i don’t have time for immature men at least my ex was straight forward he said he didn’t accept my apology and told me to find someone else. yeah i’m part of the problem but so is he. you don’t keep someone you don’t like you remove or delete. he’s weird.
d0nnivain Posted August 17, 2021 Posted August 17, 2021 If you don't have time for "immature men" you best start acting like a mature woman. Mature people do not blow up other people's phones. They are patient. 4
Daisydooks Posted August 17, 2021 Posted August 17, 2021 17 hours ago, Starrs said: he texted back, and said it’s cancelled unless i drive to him AGAIN. said his car isn’t ready, not sure what to do at this point anymore. Stop messaging and calling him. Jesus! Lol. Have some dang dignity and move on. He isnt into you. Im not even sure youre into him. Lol. Stop. Fulllll stop. Just stop talking to this guy. Stop 4
Daisydooks Posted August 17, 2021 Posted August 17, 2021 1 hour ago, Starrs said: well i don’t have time for immature men at least my ex was straight forward he said he didn’t accept my apology and told me to find someone else. yeah i’m part of the problem but so is he. you don’t keep someone you don’t like you remove or delete. he’s weird. For someone who doesn't have time for immature men, youre sure spending a lot of time on this one Why? 2
Miss Spider Posted August 17, 2021 Posted August 17, 2021 Yea.. it’s unusual for a guy into you to go radio silent even he’s on vacation. I think that rarely if ever happens. /thread
ExpatInItaly Posted August 17, 2021 Posted August 17, 2021 2 hours ago, Starrs said: clearly i’m not the problem here, he is. he’s playing games not me Says the girl who tried to get her ex back a few days ago. You are just as immature as he is. Sorry. 1
Author Starrs Posted August 17, 2021 Author Posted August 17, 2021 3 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said: Says the girl who tried to get her ex back a few days ago. You are just as immature as he is. Sorry. my ex said he wants to have sex only
ExpatInItaly Posted August 17, 2021 Posted August 17, 2021 Just now, Starrs said: my ex said he wants to have sex only What's your point? 1
Author Starrs Posted August 17, 2021 Author Posted August 17, 2021 1 minute ago, ExpatInItaly said: What's your point? point is at least my ex replies and this man never did. so clearly my ex was way better than this guy he’s weird. 1
d0nnivain Posted August 17, 2021 Posted August 17, 2021 12 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said: Yea.. it’s unusual for a guy into you to go radio silent even he’s on vacation. I think that rarely if ever happens. It's totally normal & happens all the time. They are not dating. They met 3 times. Why would somebody on vacation waste precious vacation time to pursue a stranger who they told they would see when they got home?
Miss Spider Posted August 17, 2021 Posted August 17, 2021 (edited) 6 minutes ago, d0nnivain said: Why would somebody on vacation waste precious vacation time to pursue a stranger who they told they would see when they got home? Because they’re interested in them and like talking to them. Or they just what to make sure they stay interested If he’s got time to snap and gram, not throwing her 1 text for 3 days was a huge red flag. Totally not normal, especially for the under 40 crowd that live on their phones, yes, even on vacation Edited August 17, 2021 by Cookiesandough 1
d0nnivain Posted August 17, 2021 Posted August 17, 2021 Maybe it's a generational thing but everything about this is a train wreck. The OP's behavior & refusal to see her own role in the demise of this & her last relationship are bigger concerns. Neither bode well for her future success. 1
Author Starrs Posted August 17, 2021 Author Posted August 17, 2021 14 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said: Because they’re interested in them and like talking to them. Or they just what to make sure YOU stay interested He’s snapping and gramming, not throwing her 1 text for 3 days was a huge red flag. Totally not normal, especially for the under 40 crowd that live on their phones, yes, even on vacation that’s true, i decided to block and move on he’s throwing out red flags. and i am pretty sure he only wanted sex from me. and since i didn’t give it hes ghosting.
d0nnivain Posted August 17, 2021 Posted August 17, 2021 10 minutes ago, Starrs said: i am pretty sure he only wanted sex from me. and since i didn’t give it hes ghosting. You finally figured that out, did ya? I told you that many posts ago but you insisted he was a gentleman because he was allegedly going to buy you a sleep mask 1
ExpatInItaly Posted August 17, 2021 Posted August 17, 2021 (edited) 31 minutes ago, Starrs said: point is at least my ex replies and this man never did. so clearly my ex was way better than this guy he’s weird. He's not weird. He's just not interested in you anymore. You really need to mature and learn some thing before you try dating again, OP. You don't understand guys very well. Edited August 17, 2021 by ExpatInItaly 2
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