flowergirl Posted October 19, 2005 Posted October 19, 2005 Hey guys, what's up? Well, I'm a little sad tonight, but glad that I did the right thing. I finally thought about someone else's needs ahead of what my heart wanted. I told the guy that I really like, someone I briefly dated, that since I could feel in his heart he wanted to be back with his ex, and she'd been calling lately, that he needed to call her back and talk to her to see if it was worth getting back together, because she'd called twice in two weeks, the first time she said she missed him when he asked her. He even asked me why I was doing that, and honest to goodness, it was because I want him to be happy, and that's the first time I've ever been able to say that about a guy. So there ya go.
JohnJohn Posted October 19, 2005 Posted October 19, 2005 That's great. I'm sure it was a lot easier to do since you briefly dated him rather than have dated him long-term? Although the heart knows no time in some respects.
Art_Critic Posted October 19, 2005 Posted October 19, 2005 Wow.. Now that is taking the bull by the horns and doing something commendable. Your an A-1 chick in my book..
Author flowergirl Posted October 19, 2005 Author Posted October 19, 2005 Ok, here's the one tiny bit of evil I'm admitting to. I don't understand why he wants to go back to this girl, because she was mean to him, (why, oh why are we always stuck on those who treat us badly). Well, not my problem, oh well.
Author flowergirl Posted October 19, 2005 Author Posted October 19, 2005 Well, good news for me thus far. (ok, my litttle halo is fading away, people). Can't believe it, maybe hope for the future. He says he talked to his ex, and he's positive that they're not getting back together. He says that there's too much that happened, they're really truly just friends. I believe him, because he's a pretty honest guy. Yet I still question why the nicest people are stuck on those that treat us like crap.
Art_Critic Posted October 19, 2005 Posted October 19, 2005 Well, good news for me thus far. Tread lightly my dear.. He still has feelings for her.. Albeit they are more resolved now but you still have an uphill battle..
Author flowergirl Posted October 19, 2005 Author Posted October 19, 2005 Yeah, he says that they still love each other but he doesn't want to get back together because too much stuff happened. I think it's good that he's telling the truth about that. I told him I truly couldn't understand why, if they still loved each other, why they didn't give it another try, even if she does live in New York. My strange little mind doesn't understand that. People make mistakes, and if someone is reaching out to you, then I think you should give them one more chance. I even told him what to say to her when he talked to her, and told him to call me back when he was done, and if they got back together, I was gonna remove myself from his life entirely, out of respect for their reconciliation. So then I talk to him, and he says they're absolutely not getting back together, despite the impression he left me with, that it was a possibility. He's insistent that it's not gonna happen, even when I told him that he could tell me otherwise without worrying about hurting my feelings, because even though I care for him, I want him to be happy. This is the first guy I've ever cared about enough to really want him to go out and get who and what he wants, and he's not doing it. Maybe he's right, that it's time for him to move on, despite his feelings. yeah, my "battle" is uphill, but there are advantages I have, but right now, we're friends, so that's the way it is right now.
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