Can we be happy without love?

[stillafool]

On 8/9/2021 at 6:03 PM, Amanda92 said:

I want a man who will treat me good and who will impress me.

What do you do to impress the men you date?

[Ami1uwant]

On 8/9/2021 at 3:03 PM, Amanda92 said:

Looking for love isn't that easy nowadays. Most people are afraid of commitment and just want to have fun, especially in the USA. People play with each other and use others.

Do you think that it's possible to be truly happy without love? I am single 5 years. I was starting using dating apps one year ago and this was just a disaster. I am quite picky - I choose good-looking and smart guys (I am pretty and very ambitious, so don't want to be again in a relationship with someone who feels "worse" than me). You may say that I have too big requirements, but I want someone similar to me. But all guys that I met are very unavailable and are singles for years. I may choose them because I need a lot of space and if someone starts showering me with attention from the first message I just got scared and overwhelmed. Currently I hate dating, I hate men and even if my life is quite good, I really want to start family. I don't want to be desperate and I am not able to be in a relationship without feelings, but guys that I choose only play with me and don't treat me seriously. I don't have a good relationship with my family, I have amazing friends, but they are married... I just want to come back home and cuddle with someone on my couch. I want a man who will treat me good and who will impress me.

Anyone is in a similar situation? I just wanted to talk.

Depends…

 

some can’t seem to survive without dating someone while others survive without a relationship.

 

problems are with how youare picking guys.

 

 

[Alpacalia]

It all comes down to you.

No?

Generally speaking, I do think so.

If your life is enriched with other things (good friends, family, work, school, health, hobbies, etc.) then romantic love can be a wonderful enhancement.

[MrMeSeeks]

I think it depends. I think I would be happier with someone but the amount of effort to find someone without success just didn't seem worth it. 

[HotRevolver93]

I honestly don’t think so. I always wondered what it is like to be in love. That mystery makes me feel like my life is incomplete even if I have other accomplishments outside of romance 

 

[FudgeSwirl]

Yes, it is absolutely possible to be happy and not have a significant other.  In fact, it is essential to be comfortable with yourself, self-love, and valuing all the good things about life that have nothing to do with relationships.

There is nothing wrong with wanting a significant other but once you truly love yourself it makes the search easier including dealing with things not working out with some people until you find a suitable partner.  There is also nothing wrong with being picky; you should never settle for someone or should be tied down to someone who isn't compatible with you down to your needs and relationship goals.