mortensorchid Posted August 8, 2021 Posted August 8, 2021 I connected with this guy on Instagram, turns out we were chatting on a dating app about a year and a half ago. We were to meet today, he said he would be free after 4pm. He texted me at 4 in the afternoon and said he went to a street festival that day. He originally said he was going to be running errands, maybe he did as well but he didn't mention the street fest. So I said "where do you want to meet and what time?". He said he ate at the fest. What? We were supposed to meet up for dinner and he ate already? He asked what else is going on tonight and I said "not much". Which is the truth. He said next weekendwas this other thing and I said I had plans for next weekend. And then he never responded to anything. So I went out for ice cream by myself.
Happy Lemming Posted August 8, 2021 Posted August 8, 2021 That is the whole "Let's do something" non-committal type of date. If he wanted to ask you out he should have said "I would like to go to dinner with you on Saturday night at ABC restaurant at 7:30pm. Does that time/date work for you?" "I'm free after 4:00pm" is not setting up a date. I don't know why you wasted your time on this Bozo when he didn't ask you out on a proper date. He should have called on Wednesday or Thursday and set up the date (Time/place/activity). If he can't do the basic task of setting up a date, then why would you agree to go out with him?? 1
Weezy1973 Posted August 8, 2021 Posted August 8, 2021 @mortensorchid you seem to have a type. The type that isn’t worth dating. And the cycle continues…. 5 1
chillii Posted August 8, 2021 Posted August 8, 2021 (edited) Don't know why he even made like he would like in the first place , he sounded totally uninterested and looking for excuses later. Sorry he wasted if your time. Edited August 8, 2021 by chillii
Alvi Posted August 8, 2021 Posted August 8, 2021 (edited) 12 hours ago, mortensorchid said: We were to meet today, he said he would be free after 4pm. Sorry to hear that. But unless a guy sets up a specific date, place, time for a date, I would not assume that we are actually meeting. I would not automatically assume that we would be meeting after 4pm unless a date was arranged in advance. He said that he is free after 4pm, so what? It doesn't mean that he wants to take you out on a date. Saying that maybe we should do something this evening is very indefinite. I would not even bother with that. I would make other plans for myself unless the date was arranged in advance. 12 hours ago, mortensorchid said: So I said "where do you want to meet and what time?" It was really up to him to come up with something if he actually wanted to meet you. Don't ask this a guy next time. If he wants to meet, he would be happy to arrange something in advance. Sounds like he had zero desire to actually meet. 12 hours ago, mortensorchid said: He said next weekendwas this other thing and I said I had plans for next weekend. Low or no interest on his part. Sounds like a time-waster. I wonder how do you filter guys? He should not probably be on your dating radar. When he actually failed to set a specific date for Saturday, it should be: "Good bye." Edited August 8, 2021 by Alvi 3
smackie9 Posted August 11, 2021 Posted August 11, 2021 Ya a guy did that to me one time. He already ate and he was also later for our date. He said he couldn't say no to him mom...I thought what? really? Put on your big boy pants and say "hey sorry I have a date with this nice girl" what mom would force a grown man to stay and eat if a date was pending? Not one IMO, I figured he was with his GF he didn't want me to know about....boot to the curb he went. 2
glows Posted August 11, 2021 Posted August 11, 2021 On 8/7/2021 at 7:48 PM, mortensorchid said: I connected with this guy on Instagram, turns out we were chatting on a dating app about a year and a half ago. We were to meet today, he said he would be free after 4pm. He texted me at 4 in the afternoon and said he went to a street festival that day. He originally said he was going to be running errands, maybe he did as well but he didn't mention the street fest. So I said "where do you want to meet and what time?". He said he ate at the fest. What? We were supposed to meet up for dinner and he ate already? He asked what else is going on tonight and I said "not much". Which is the truth. He said next weekendwas this other thing and I said I had plans for next weekend. And then he never responded to anything. So I went out for ice cream by myself. You connected on a dating app a year and a half ago - how did that lose steam? 1
spiderowl Posted August 12, 2021 Posted August 12, 2021 He sounds a bit useless to me. I wouldn't go on a date with a guy who kept switching like this. It's all about what he is doing/wants not what matters to you. 2
Shining One Posted August 13, 2021 Posted August 13, 2021 On 8/11/2021 at 10:59 AM, smackie9 said: Put on your big boy pants and say "hey sorry I have a date with this nice girl" what mom would force a grown man to stay and eat if a date was pending? Not one IMO, I can think of moms from several cultures that would do exactly this. My mom wouldn't, but many Indian moms would. 1
Miss Spider Posted August 13, 2021 Posted August 13, 2021 On 8/11/2021 at 10:59 AM, smackie9 said: Ya a guy did that to me one time. He already ate and he was also later for our date. He said he couldn't say no to him mom...I thought what? really? Put on your big boy pants and say "hey sorry I have a date with this nice girl" what mom would force a grown man to stay and eat if a date was pending? Not one IMO, I figured he was with his GF he didn't want me to know about....boot to the curb he went. A lot of guys can’t say no to their mom lol I think it’s a good thing, within reason. I’d think that was totally sweet if I didn’t have any reason to assume it’s not legit, but I love mommas boys
Alvi Posted August 13, 2021 Posted August 13, 2021 (edited) On 8/11/2021 at 8:59 AM, smackie9 said: " what mom would force a grown man to stay and eat if a date was pending? Not one You would be surprised. lol My ex for sure would never say no to his mother. One time, when we just started dating, he was driving me home and we got stuck in the traffic. He started to cry that he was going to be late for the dinner at his mother's house. Apparently, he had to be there at her house 7pm sharp. That was 39-year-old guy by the way. There were plenty of other issues with him as I found out later. But him being attached to his mother and listening to her and not me, his fiancé, was one of the main problems that we (or rather I) had. Edited August 13, 2021 by Alvi 1
Interstellar Posted August 13, 2021 Posted August 13, 2021 (edited) On 8/11/2021 at 10:59 AM, smackie9 said: Ya a guy did that to me one time. He already ate and he was also later for our date. He said he couldn't say no to him mom...I thought what? really? Put on your big boy pants and say "hey sorry I have a date with this nice girl" what mom would force a grown man to stay and eat if a date was pending? Not one IMO, I figured he was with his GF he didn't want me to know about....boot to the curb he went. hah, when you become a mom you’ll understand why a son would never be able to say no to his mom’s cooking. my mom’s been cooking probably since she can open her eyes. she’s an absolute master. Edited August 13, 2021 by Interstellar 1
Dis Posted August 13, 2021 Posted August 13, 2021 Your first flag was that you met on an app before and it didn't go anywhere IME, when it doesn't get off the ground the first time, it won't the second 1
smackie9 Posted August 13, 2021 Posted August 13, 2021 13 hours ago, Alvi said: You would be surprised. lol My ex for sure would never say no to his mother. One time, when we just started dating, he was driving me home and we got stuck in the traffic. He started to cry that he was going to be late for the dinner at his mother's house. Apparently, he had to be there at her house 7pm sharp. That was 39-year-old guy by the way. There were plenty of other issues with him as I found out later. But him being attached to his mother and listening to her and not me, his fiancé, was one of the main problems that we (or rather I) had. This just shows where their priorities lie right?
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