tanyatheloser Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 i'm afraid words cant describe how im feeling right now so this message may not explain well. ive just been dumped by who i know is the love of my life, we had been together for almost a year, and had been best friends for a long time before then. weve supported eachother through so much, bad breakups with our exes, stress and work etc. everything was perfect however when it began, no problems ever, no arguments, just pure unconditional love, ive never been happier, and he seemed genuinely happy too, his friends described him as completely "besotted with me", and life was blissful. however then he became incredibly busy, stressed, and i wished i could help him through it better than i could, but he began to do what i felt was drifting away from me, he would talk less to me because he had no time spare, every minute was precious for his work because he had so much to do, but i missed him, and feared losing him like i had lost people in the past, it seemed too familliar to a previous relationship. but he assured me that everything would be ok, so i tried to cease my worries. now, it seems my worst fear has become a reality, he ended it. and i miss him so so much. whatever you may think when you read this, it is by no means his fault, nor is he a bad person, he is a wonderful, kind, generous, perfect human being who i still love with all my heart, but i am so lost and confused. i just want him back so much i really need help, i need him back so so much, he IS the other half of me, and i know i will neither find anyone else or want anyone else, any advice on how to have him back is appreciated, i just don't know what to do:( i'm also so so worried about him, i dont know how hes taking this break up
Asmera Posted October 19, 2005 Posted October 19, 2005 I understand everything you're going through! First of all, take a deep breath and take care of YOU! I will pray for you. I'd say stay away a bit but not so far away. If he truly loves you, like for me and everyone else, he'll be back. Only God knows. Hang in there kiddo!
JohnJohn Posted October 19, 2005 Posted October 19, 2005 I feel bad for you and I hope for the best. Hang in there. What did he say when he ended it? Did he give the "I have so much going on and am busy at work that I don't have time for a relationship now" reason or was it something else? It's his loss. You sound like a very caring person. Unfortunately no matter how hard you try you can't make someone love you. Hopefully he will see what he lost in time.
Author tanyatheloser Posted October 19, 2005 Author Posted October 19, 2005 thankyou both. he told me that he doesnt feel love for me anymore, he doesn't feel nothing, but he said its not the love he had for me. we hope its temporary, but he wont be with me if he doesnt love me, and i dont know what to do, surely it must be my fault if he no longer loves me? i must have done something to cause it. is there any chance of that love returning? i cant imagine life without him, and i'm still dreaming of us being together in the small amount of sleep i actually get, i cant eat or continue with my normal life, i know how pathetic it sounds, btu i just cant, i miss him so so much, i've lost my best (male) friend and the love of my life, is there really any way i can help him to love me again?
JohnJohn Posted October 19, 2005 Posted October 19, 2005 No, unfortunately there is nothing you can do to make another person love you. Love can't be forced. Could someone talk you into loving them if you really did not? I know how difficult this is, but if he doesn't love you then find someone that will. It will get better in time. Love yourself right now and take care of yourself. He may come around but he may not. Don't hold your breath. Best wishes.
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