Should I tell him I want to take a step back?

[Emilyinroses]

10 minutes ago, stillafool said:

I agree.  What are you waiting for?

I’m thinking what is the best way to do it, what I should say.

I don’t wish to confront him with all that I wrote here on my previous post because is not worth it and I don’t know how he would react. 

So, probably send him a simple message saying this is not working for me, I wish you well. No explanations.

[stillafool]

2 minutes ago, Emilyinroses said:

a simple message saying this is not working for me, I wish you well. No explanations.

Yes ^this is all you have to say and then block him.

[IrinaM]

I hate to say this but I think if you just don't contact him further you're fine. He will probably send you one or two more texts, and if you don't reply he will move on.

I think this has been a lot of drama for such a short relationship (on your part) but I also think this man is not interested in a serious committed relationship with you and never was.

[Emilyinroses]

20 minutes ago, stillafool said:

Yes ^this is all you have to say and then block him.

Done. Told him exactly that and goodbye.

[Emilyinroses]

10 minutes ago, IrinaM said:

I hate to say this but I think if you just don't contact him further you're fine. He will probably send you one or two more texts, and if you don't reply he will move on.

I think this has been a lot of drama for such a short relationship (on your part) but I also think this man is not interested in a serious committed relationship with you and never was.

I agree with all you said, but I preferred to tell him I don’t wish to continue, because I don’t want more texts from him.

I always had a feeling he was a compulsive liar and today just confirmed that. 

I agree it was too much drama from me, because first of all I got involved with him too fast too soon, and second I didn’t stop it when I saw the red flags.

Although we were still in a very early stage, I should have ended it sooner.

Lesson from this is to not get involved so fast with a guy I barely know. And I am taking a break from online dating as I need it. I feel exhausted and reached my limit.

Edited August 14, 2021 by Emilyinroses

[Wiseman2]

1 hour ago, Emilyinroses said:

he got injured in his eye yesterday and have to go to the doctor today.  he spent all day in the hospital because of his eye.

Tell him you need to end it because you slipped on a banana peel, hobbled out to your car with one shoe on and one foot bleeding, drove yourself to the ER , spent all day in the hospital and after running some tests not only did the find out you have a broken toe but you're 2 week pregnant.

 After all if Romeo is telling you stories like this why can't you do the same?

[Emilyinroses]

44 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Tell him you need to end it because you slipped on a banana peel, hobbled out to your car with one shoe on and one foot bleeding, drove yourself to the ER , spent all day in the hospital and after running some tests not only did the find out you have a broken toe but you're 2 week pregnant.

 After all if Romeo is telling you stories like this why can't you do the same?

Because I’m not an idiot like him

[d0nnivain]

17 hours ago, Emilyinroses said:

Lesson from this is to not get involved so fast with a guy I barely know. And I am taking a break from online dating as I need it. 

Good.  

I am concerned about your use of the Tinder app to check his location & then searching his IG looking for evidence of his eye injury.  I can't imagine being that paranoid about somebody I barely know.  Good heavens.  It feels like spying. 

I think you need a break from dating.  Enjoy your "me time"   

[ExpatInItaly]

20 minutes ago, d0nnivain said:

I am concerned about your use of the Tinder app to check his location & then searching his IG looking for evidence of his eye injury.  I can't imagine being that paranoid about somebody I barely know. 

Yeah, I find that a bit much too. 

[Emilyinroses]

24 minutes ago, d0nnivain said:

Good.  

I am concerned about your use of the Tinder app to check his location & then searching his IG looking for evidence of his eye injury.  I can't imagine being that paranoid about somebody I barely know.  Good heavens.  It feels like spying. 

I think you need a break from dating.  Enjoy your "me time"   

Well I think I was just smart to do it. I felt he was lying and that was the proof I needed.

Yes agree, I need a break from online dating and just be with myself. That doesn’t mean I am closed off to meeting someone.

If I meet someone organically and in real life, great. But enough with the loop online of meeting new guys, talking, coffee dates and finding out they all have the same patterns. I want to break that loop. Thank you.

[Gaeta]

11 minutes ago, Emilyinroses said:

Well I think I was just smart to do it. I felt he was lying and that was the proof I needed

You don't need proof of anything concerning a man you had 5 dates with. You trust your instinct. It doesn't feel right you don't pursue.

Also Tinder is the bottom of the barrel in terms of dating app. I tried FB dating and met better quality men than the usual dating app we hear about.

[Emilyinroses]

2 hours ago, Gaeta said:

You don't need proof of anything concerning a man you had 5 dates with. You trust your instinct. It doesn't feel right you don't pursue.

Also Tinder is the bottom of the barrel in terms of dating app. I tried FB dating and met better quality men than the usual dating app we hear about.

Agree, I don’t need proof and trust my instinct, but it was good for me to see he was truly lying. This way I don’t question anything, or think I was too harsh or anything. Blocked and deleted and good riddance.

Yes agree, Tinder is just awful. I’ve heard good things about FB Dating and Bumble, might try those two in the future. For now I just want to be with myself only and take a break.