Author Sweetheart11540 Posted August 3, 2021 Author Posted August 3, 2021 11 minutes ago, glows said: You also mentioned a few times about your ex and previous relationship. It doesn't sound like you've completely healed or recovered from your abusive marriage. I believe you are correct and I don't think I am going to. I know this man I am with now is not the one I actually see myself with - someone who is my equal, a real companion and partner. I don't think I am good enough to attract that type of person so I'm getting used to the idea of being alone, or keep settling for someone who is not compatible and frustrates me. Not saying good relationships aren't without their issues, but they shouldn't be these ones. 2
glows Posted August 3, 2021 Posted August 3, 2021 2 minutes ago, Sweetheart11540 said: I believe you are correct and I don't think I am going to. I know this man I am with now is not the one I actually see myself with - someone who is my equal, a real companion and partner. I don't think I am good enough to attract that type of person so I'm getting used to the idea of being alone, or keep settling for someone who is not compatible and frustrates me. Not saying good relationships aren't without their issues, but they shouldn't be these ones. I completely agree. The part about you not feeling good enough to attract the type of person who is your equal... can you revise it? What makes you whole again? When you think of yourself as someone's equal, what parts do you like most about yourself? Or, if you see yourself in an equal partnership with a real companion, what kind of person do you envision of yourself? Keep working on those parts of yourself, find ways to nourish that and remember that you're worth it.
Wiseman2 Posted August 3, 2021 Posted August 3, 2021 6 hours ago, Sweetheart11540 said: - he would turn nasty and say bad things about me and call me selfish when I didn't give in to him. You have already pointed it out to him. You're disgusted by him and don't want him around. So be good to yourself and end it before you need to grind him down to nothing, like your ex did to you. Why not date locally so you can alternate visiting each other's homes?
clia Posted August 3, 2021 Posted August 3, 2021 If this is actually for real, it's worth exploring with a therapist why you keep inviting a man into your home who sh*** all over your couch every weekend and doesn't even seem to care. It's not normal behavior, for either one of you. I mean, this is not an "irritating habit." It's completely disgusting and I would have ended things immediately with someone who so gross and mentally deficient that he didn't have the sense to even be embarrassed about it. 4
norealusername Posted August 4, 2021 Posted August 4, 2021 I think you should dump him. I never heard of anyone leaving poop marks on furniture. It's especially boggling because he's leaving poop marks while clothed, meaning he has so much poop on his butt that it leaks through his clothes. This is not a 'guy thing', normal people wipe their butt and don't leave skid marks even when naked. I could see if someone had a medical condition but otherwise it's just slovenly and dysfunctional. This guy is not going to change.
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