ZA Dater Posted August 17, 2021 Posted August 17, 2021 On 8/15/2021 at 8:37 PM, Weezy1973 said: Although both you and @Alvi don’t seem to have any luck in real life either…so probably nothing to do with the apps… Look I think APPS are worth a try but you need to approach them the right way as being an add on rather than the main way of dating, that was my mistake. In my view you cant bet everything on apps and doing so in hindsight is pretty stupid. There needs to be some other way of meeting people. 1
basil67 Posted August 17, 2021 Posted August 17, 2021 4 minutes ago, ZA Dater said: Look I think APPS are worth a try but you need to approach them the right way as being an add on rather than the main way of dating, that was my mistake. In my view you cant bet everything on apps and doing so in hindsight is pretty stupid. There needs to be some other way of meeting people. We're back in lockdown and 22yo daughter was just bemoaning the lack of house parties. She said "you could meet six different new guys in one night - it's like speed dating, but you already know that they are the kind who fit in with your group". @Syd8 This is the other way of meeting people. As you get older, it does tend to diminish to birthday parties, NYE and football finals, but if you sustain a good amount of friendships, meeting people through them is the way to go. With the exception of one guy who I dated for only two months, every guy I've dated or had relationships with came from mutual connections (friends/school/work)
ZA Dater Posted August 17, 2021 Posted August 17, 2021 15 minutes ago, basil67 said: We're back in lockdown and 22yo daughter was just bemoaning the lack of house parties. She said "you could meet six different new guys in one night - it's like speed dating, but you already know that they are the kind who fit in with your group". @Syd8 This is the other way of meeting people. As you get older, it does tend to diminish to birthday parties, NYE and football finals, but if you sustain a good amount of friendships, meeting people through them is the way to go. With the exception of one guy who I dated for only two months, every guy I've dated or had relationships with came from mutual connections (friends/school/work) Absolutely this really is the ideal way to go, meeting people via friends is far less contrived than meeting people via some app and to be fair people who tend to meet this way often seem to get along really well because there is already some common ground. OP my suggestion would be to try do this and use apps maybe as something extra not to be taken too seriously. The other about doing things this way is apparently most people like to see others happy so friends will hopefully help to some extent. Meeting someone at a social function I think is a lot less pressure than meeting someone for the first time on a date. This is where perhaps the apps go a bit wrong if one cannot shine instantly or is nervous. 1
Author Syd8 Posted August 17, 2021 Author Posted August 17, 2021 3 hours ago, basil67 said: We're back in lockdown and 22yo daughter was just bemoaning the lack of house parties. She said "you could meet six different new guys in one night - it's like speed dating, but you already know that they are the kind who fit in with your group". @Syd8 This is the other way of meeting people. As you get older, it does tend to diminish to birthday parties, NYE and football finals, but if you sustain a good amount of friendships, meeting people through them is the way to go. With the exception of one guy who I dated for only two months, every guy I've dated or had relationships with came from mutual connections (friends/school/work) I don't have any friends.
Miss Spider Posted August 18, 2021 Posted August 18, 2021 14 hours ago, Syd8 said: I don't have any friends. That’s probably your first problem 2
Author Syd8 Posted August 18, 2021 Author Posted August 18, 2021 1 hour ago, Cookiesandough said: That’s probably your first problem Not really. When I did have friends they never tried to set me up with anyone.
basil67 Posted August 18, 2021 Posted August 18, 2021 15 minutes ago, Syd8 said: Not really. When I did have friends they never tried to set me up with anyone. It's not about them trying to set you up with anyone, it's simply about when they all get together in a big group and people invite others along, it gives you an opportunity to meet those others. Being social is one of the keys to meeting a partner. 2
Author Syd8 Posted August 18, 2021 Author Posted August 18, 2021 7 hours ago, basil67 said: It's not about them trying to set you up with anyone, it's simply about when they all get together in a big group and people invite others along, it gives you an opportunity to meet those others. Being social is one of the keys to meeting a partner. I would be social. Women just weren't interested in me.
mortensorchid Posted August 19, 2021 Posted August 19, 2021 I have done Bumble. It SUCKS in all caps. Weak men who will maybe show up of you twist their arm and let rhe woman take the lead. And they act like a******s and you never hear a word from them again. Pass.
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