Anyone here try Bumble?

[Syd8]

I'm a 46 year old man who doesn't like dating sites. But I heard of this app called Bumble. I believe the premise is that men sign up for it but you're unable to message women and they have to make the initial contact. Is this correct? Have any men here tried it? 

[HotRevolver93]

I tried it like 2 years ago and I was no more successful on bumble than I was the traditional dating apps. In 1 year on that site I got 4 matches. 3 were bots and one just expired after a day of matching. I think she swiped on me by accident 

Edited August 1, 2021 by HotRevolver93

[Ami1uwant]

You can try it. Don’t pay for it.

 

Like other dating sites many bots or scammers.

 

the process is like tinder you swipe right if you like

you get matched if both liked each other. But then it’s up to the woman to start communication in 24 hrs.  It might be better if it didn’t have the 24 hr limit.

[Wiseman2]

21 hours ago, Syd8 said:

I'm a 46 year old man who doesn't like dating sites. But I heard of this app called Bumble

It's free so there's no harm in trying it out for yourself.

[Miss Spider]

I’ve heard a lot of guys like this better. I believe it’s because you sit back and the girls message you first. 
 

It would help to know why you don’t like dating apps because this is a dating app

[max3732]

I tried it and met a few women, but nothing that went anywhere. Seems like better quality than Tinder, but unless you pay you can't filter by as many criteria that you'd like so you end up with a lot of matches that you wouldn't date because of deal killers so you waste a lot of time. Definitely don't bother paying. I tried the "boost" and some other paid features once and got no results. My friend tried it too and it didn't work for him either.

Something else that's annoying is you used to be able to shake the phone to go back if you accidentally swiped left by accident. Now they make you pay for that.

 

[Amanda92]

In the USA Bumble is the best. I didn't notice any fake accounts.

[Syd8]

Thanks for the responses. I've never tried a dating app. Just the websites like POF. Has anyone here tried or had luck with the Facebook dating feature? 

[IntBrowser]

I like Tinder better.    I get a match on Bumble occassionally but with tinder its every other day

[balletomane]

On 8/1/2021 at 2:14 PM, Syd8 said:

I'm a 46 year old man who doesn't like dating sites. But I heard of this app called Bumble. I believe the premise is that men sign up for it but you're unable to message women and they have to make the initial contact. Is this correct? Have any men here tried it? 

Not a man, but I had a very positive experience of Bumble. I met my fiance on there.  I joined at the recommendation of friends who were tired of getting lewd messages and d*ck pics on other apps. Women messaging first meant they could screen out a lot of inappropriate behaviour right at the start, because men who act like that are unlikely to waste time setting up a compelling Bumble profile. I'd give it a try if I were you. I think success does depend on area (I was living in a pretty big city at the time) but it's definitely one of the better quality apps.

[salparadise]

I think Bumble is good quality and it works for me. There are far fewer scammers, and more mature, professional women compared to other apps. I get fewer matches but they're better quality and they usually do message and engage in conversation. Even though Bumble flips the script on who messages first, first messages are often "hey there" or "hi," then they expect you to initiate everything. So it's really just a gimmick, but it does seem to appeal to more progressive types. It's also one of the few dating apps/sites that is not owned by Match Group, which is known for buying up everything in the category and reducing it to useless crap (eliminating competition to match dot com).

Edited August 3, 2021 by salparadise

[Amanda92]

12 hours ago, IntBrowser said:

I like Tinder better.    I get a match on Bumble occassionally but with tinder its every other day

But on Tinder you don't know anything about people and on Bumble to know height, religion, status, children ect.

[Miss Spider]

I liked tinder better too out of all the apps I tried just because there were a greater number of people I’d was interested in. I don’t know if it’s the algorithm but I rarely swiped right on any bumble guys because most of them looked like J.crew models ( not my thing) or just …. No . I deleted it after like 10 min of swiping 

[Syd8]

I might give Bumble a try. has anyone here tried the Dating feature that Facebook has? I'm curious how it works and if it's successful. 

[Wiseman2]

Here's the 2021 review from CNET for dating apps.:

The best dating sites

Bumble-Best for confident women

Tinder-Best for quick and easy hookups

OKCupid-Best free dating site

Hinge-Best for serious relationship seekers

Coffee Meets Bagel-Best for breaking the silence

Happn-Best for missed connections

The League-Best for people with high standards

Her-Best for lesbian, bisexual and queer women

Clover-Best for confirming a date

Plenty of Fish-Best for conversations

Match-Best for someone with money to spend

eHarmony-Best for marriage seekers

[Syd8]

4 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

Here's the 2021 review from CNET for dating apps.:

The best dating sites

Bumble-Best for confident women

Tinder-Best for quick and easy hookups

OKCupid-Best free dating site

Hinge-Best for serious relationship seekers

Coffee Meets Bagel-Best for breaking the silence

Happn-Best for missed connections

The League-Best for people with high standards

Her-Best for lesbian, bisexual and queer women

Clover-Best for confirming a date

Plenty of Fish-Best for conversations

Match-Best for someone with money to spend

eHarmony-Best for marriage seekers

Good breakdown. I figured POF would be a hook up site for sure. I didn't see Our Time on there. I have always preferred older women but I believe you have to be 50 and up to join Our Time. 

[Amanda92]

22 hours ago, Cookiesandough said:

I liked tinder better too out of all the apps I tried just because there were a greater number of people I’d was interested in. I don’t know if it’s the algorithm but I rarely swiped right on any bumble guys because most of them looked like J.crew models ( not my thing) or just …. No . I deleted it after like 10 min of swiping 

Yes, it's mostly for attractive people with good pictures. Also much "better quality" people than on Tinder.

[Alvi]

6 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

Hinge-Best for serious relationship seekers

Not so true based on my personal experience. I just joined Hinge and I am bombarded with the low quality men who only want sex and nothing but sex. It's like they take a pride in themselves when they tell that they are not interested in anything serious.

[Wiseman2]

22 minutes ago, Alvi said:

Not so true based on my personal experience. I just joined Hinge and I am bombarded with the low quality men who only want sex and nothing but sex.

Ok here's the article/site:

https://www.cnet.com/pictures/best-dating-apps/

Edited August 4, 2021 by Wiseman2

[Alvi]

23 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Ok here's the article/site:

https://www.cnet.com/pictures/best-dating-apps/

Oh, Ok, so that means that I am the only one who doesn't have any luck with the Hinge, lol. 

[glows]

38 minutes ago, Alvi said:

Oh, Ok, so that means that I am the only one who doesn't have any luck with the Hinge, lol. 

It only takes one.

[Miss Spider]

2 hours ago, Amanda92 said:

Yes, it's mostly for attractive people with good pictures. Also much "better quality" people than on Tinder.

Not my scene then 

[Ami1uwant]

On 8/3/2021 at 12:08 AM, Syd8 said:

Thanks for the responses. I've never tried a dating app. Just the websites like POF. Has anyone here tried or had luck with the Facebook dating feature? 

I am not doing the Facebook dating thing.  Facebook doesn’t need to know who I’m dating.

 

years ago on AOL I did their dating page which match bought.

 

I have done other sites over the years. Eharmony, POF, a bunch others.

 

10 years ago you had more serious users who were looking.  Now there are two many scammers or people who use it but not seriously looking or looking for specific target or fantasy match they’d never get IRL.

 

I have tried tinder and bumble and had little luck.  

 

 

[Syd8]

Thanks for all the responses. I honestly don't know what path I'm going to take. Who the hell knows how you even meet people anymore with all that has gone on in the last few years. Some female co workers told me to try and just message women on Facebook that I find interesting. I tried that one time and the women never even responded. Like I said, I'm more attracted to older women. I'm 46 and would probably set an age limit at 59. I know I've become more attracted lately to the gray hair look with women. I'm just lonely. It's been over 2 years since my girlfriend passed away and I'm wanting companionship and intimacy again. 

[Tigerstripe40]

I have tried Tinder, OK Stupid, Hinge, Plenty Of Fish, and Bumble. And I paid for them. 

All of the dating apps are garbage. 

Every. Single. One. 

I've found much better luck going to Meetups for stuff I am interested in. Not necessarily to look for dates, but meeting people with similar interests and then things happen more organically.