soulstice Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 I was dating this guy for about 5 months. We met in May and because he spends most of the summer in another country, I only saw him for 3 weeks in the summer and then he returned to the states in September. So...I have only spent a total of 8 weeks physically with this man. NOT SEXUAL (we kept in touch via phone calls and emails) However, our connection felt so real, we clicked and everything was going great...until I found myself catching feelings for this man. Here's a little additional background information: he is going through a divorce (has been separated for 3 years) and is also involved with another woman who lives in the country where he spends most of his summers. He claims her to be only his "Friend" ---NOT! So,I knew what I was getting myself into from the beginning and because of his profession being very high profile, I do understand that he has a very busy schedule. So, I cleary understood the boundaries and understood the rules. When I say rules, I understood that I had no right to be upset if he is dating other people. That's what he led me to believe was going on with him and his "Friend" but as things turned out...they are really more than friends. So, I found myself getting caught up and wanting more from this man. Reality sunk in a few weeks ago that this man is cleary not the one for me, because he made it very clear from the beginning when he was honest by saying that he had no time for committments nor had time for relationships--if you translate all of that--he really has no time for me on a serious level. I was just there to fill the empty space when his "friend" was not around. After getting a good slap from Reality, I decided to check myself out of the situation...I was very honest with him and told him that this was a situation that I could no longer handle and that I needed to do what was best for me. You would have thought that this man's mother died, the way he was carrying on...Totally caught me off guard because if you are not interested in a person, then you should just let them go. No need for all of the dramatics...So..I was done at that point. Ofcourse, he tried to convince me that I was making a big mistake, he even had the nerve to say that he felt as though he needed to plead his case...UH? What CASE? So, I once again reminded him that he was still married NOT divorced yet and had a girlfriend and still trying to have an additional sidekick. Basically,he didn't have a case So...I rolled out with my head high. NOW...here is where I am confused The man calls me two days later after I tell him that I am moving on and that I am done with him and all of his baggage. He decides to call and say "hello" as if the conversation never took place. At this point, I was insulted that he did not take my feelings seriously, so when I told him very firmly that his phone calls were no longer welcomed....do you know that this man caught a serious attitude and hung up on me? WTF! I did him a favor..I lightened up his load....I never took anything from him..I did not give him any ultimatums...I didn't tell him that he had to make a decision between me and his "Friend", nor did I tell him to hurry up and sign the dotted line on the divorce papers....So...I am confused...Shouldn't I be the one pissed off at him for trying to have his cake and eat it too...OR better yet string me along out of pure selfishness?? One could easily get upset at all of that, but I choose not to because I knew what I was walking into to begin with...as far as I see it...He still gets to have his cake and eat it too---but not with me...I just chose to walk away from something that was not healthy for me. It's really his LOSS and not mine. So, what could be his problem? He should just go back to dealing with his wife and girlfriend! Is this normal behavior for a man? I thought I was being mature and nice about the matter...hmm!!
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