hunnibee858 Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 I met a mm through a friend of mine. We connected instantly. He is so gorgeous and I would love to be with him, but he uses the same excuse that He is not happy he is just staying with his other half for the sake of the kids. I think that is bulls@*t. I dont even know how to approach him with the fact that I want to be with him. We have never had sex with each other, we have kissed and shared some great moments. What should I do?
Art_Critic Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 I think that your posts are starting to smell.. If you are for real why are you posting such drama ? You sound like a poster we has here a week ago
Katch22 Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 Run girlfriend run!!!! I would probably not have listened to anyone that told me to run but you will be here 1 yr from now posting the same sh*t that I am now posting. No matter how much the connection is there run we had LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT yea right it was all a crock of sh*t!! And it was so sh*tty that all I can now say is SH*T!!!! OH SH*T RUN!!! If you don't believe me please read any of my posting and you will see what your future will be like!! Run do not pass go, don't collect 200 dollars, justRUN!!
Author hunnibee858 Posted October 19, 2005 Author Posted October 19, 2005 Sorry if I bother you. I do have alot of drama. I felt like I needed to get it all out. Do you think I need to leave this website. Dont be mad. It's all true.
whichwayisup Posted October 19, 2005 Posted October 19, 2005 I met a mm through a friend of mine. We connected instantly. He is so gorgeous and I would love to be with him, but he uses the same excuse that He is not happy he is just staying with his other half for the sake of the kids. I think that is bulls@*t. I dont even know how to approach him with the fact that I want to be with him. We have never had sex with each other, we have kissed and shared some great moments. What should I do? 1) He is married. Don't go there and don't do this to yourself! 2)He is giving you a line, ofcourse he is going to tell you he's unhappy in his marriage...He is going to tell you exactly what you want to hear so you will be with him! 3)Don't do anything! Just stop and think about what you're about to do. Hello, there is a wife he is married to. Think about her and if he is having problems at home and you're a friend, push him to work things out and go to marriage counselling. Stop being so selfish and realize IF you get involved with him , he isn't going to leave his wife for you - You will become an OW and have your heart broken eventually! Read the others posts and see what others have gone through.
allaboutchoices Posted October 19, 2005 Posted October 19, 2005 1) Stop being so selfish and realize IF you get involved with him , he isn't going to leave his wife for you - You will become an OW and have your heart broken eventually! Read the others posts and see what others have gone through. Yep. Spare your self a heart-break and more drama in life.
Katch22 Posted October 19, 2005 Posted October 19, 2005 hunnibee858 no one on this website is mad for what you posted! that's what it's here for!! But everyone is saying RUN. Girlfriend you are gonna regret every moment of everyday that you waste talking to him or being with him. Because that all it is a waste of your time, not his of course you will be making his day's brighter and you will give him something to look forward and in the F*ckin end all that you will have is lonelyness and heartache because he will be just like the rest of the mm that lie and cheat!! I'm speaking from my own experience not from a pre-judge opionated complete stranger!! I've been the ow for a year now and he never left but always made it sound like one day he would be mine and that we were gonna live our life together and watch our kids grow up together!!! So please RUN!!! You deserve to have a man that is all yours that can be there for you anytime of the day or night if need be!! When I got into a car accident he(mm) couldn't come to be with me in the hospital because he was at home with his family!! Tell me how that would make you feel!! I pray that you take all of our advice and if not I'm sure we will here from you down the road when your heart has been broke! Sincerely, Katch22
Hot Coco Posted October 19, 2005 Posted October 19, 2005 Go read the Dropped off like Garbage thread. That should take away any confusion you may have. DO NOT approach him with the fact that you want to be with him. It doesn't matter if you think what he says is bull****. What is NOT bull**** is the fact that he belongs to another woman. A woman he is MARRIED to. Doesn't matter if he says he's unhappy, etc. etc. He's NOT available. Don't end up like everyone on here regretting our mistakes. It's NOT worth it. But if you want to end up feeling used and thrown away, go for it girl! Some people really ARE a glutton for punishment. Maybe you're one of those? I hope not.
pooh23350 Posted October 24, 2005 Posted October 24, 2005 I was in the same exact situation as you are in now.I started talking to maried guy.He is my sis's ex fiancaes step dad.I was 28 when i met him and he was 36.He was a really nice guy.He came and saw me every night when he got off work every night and spent hours with me.Most of the time he did not go home till 12am.That went on for awhile.I ended up falling in love with the guy.Than after a few months he stopped coming around as much.He just told me it was to risky at the time and his wife was catching on to the whole thing.He fed me the the story the guy you are seeing fed you.He is not happy with her,he was staying around for the kids,he did not have money for child support,and all that bull.He kept telling me to be patient and don't give up on him,just stick by his side,so I did.Than after a few months I never seen him again unless he was next door.Thats where his uncle lives and he would go over there a lot and he would not come over here.Every time I saw him I wanted to cry because I was so in love with the guy.Than one day his wife called me and confronted me and I told her everything because it was bothering me so much that I was keeping it from her.I know she was hurt but in a way I felt better after I told her.Even though at that I was still in love with the guy.I knew we would never be together ever again so I had nothing to loose.Than a about 2 months ago I ran into him at the store and he asked me why I told his wife everything.I told him because I thought he forget all about me and did not care about me anymore.He said I was wrong because he said he still thinks about me a lot and still has feelings for me.I did not belive a word of it because I knew he was feeding me that line again.I don't know if he really loved me or not,but I finally got on with my life and I am trying to forget all about him.I am with somone else now and have been for almost 4 months and I am happily in love.I do still think about him somtimes and I feel bad because I am with somone else now,but you can not help how your heart feels somtimes.The only thing i really regret about that relationship is involving my 4 young daughters in it.They were only 9,8,7,1 at the time.My 3 oldest knew he was married and they never said a word to anyone.I felt bad because that is the same thing as lieing which I was trying to teach them not to do.I did learn a lot of life's lessons out of it.I do know one thing.If he ever tried to come back to me I would not take him back because I will not give up my new guy for anything in this world.What I am trying to tell you is.Get out and awy from him before you end up getting your heart broke like I did.I am still trying to get over him now.It is a lot easier for me now but I am getting there.You can do a lot better than a married guy and you can find a nice single guy.Good luck with ever you choose to do.
seachange Posted October 24, 2005 Posted October 24, 2005 Hi hunnibee. I read your other posts. Yeah, you've got much drama. To sum up, it looks like you're deciding between your ex (who has another girlfriend but with whom you already have a child), a BF who is 35 years older than you and doesn't satisfy you sexually and a married man? Seriously. You do NOT need a man that badly. Please, consider choosing D: none of the above. Or possibly, E: yourself. At least for a while.
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