deepthinking Posted July 27, 2021 Posted July 27, 2021 (edited) How do I get to talk to a man who I like the look of? Do they do all the work? Do I? Tell me a few examples of women chatting {picking up} to stranger men. Plagued with a shyness I am sick of. Thank you, Edited July 27, 2021 by deepthinking
d0nnivain Posted July 27, 2021 Posted July 27, 2021 Smile & say something banal like "hi!" or make a comment about the weather. They are cliché ice breakers for a reason, they work. 1
Wiseman2 Posted July 27, 2021 Posted July 27, 2021 1 hour ago, deepthinking said: How do I get to talk to a man who I like the look of? Ask them to have coffee. If you don't know them at all, well then it's just creepy to walk up and hit on them. 3
robaday Posted July 28, 2021 Posted July 28, 2021 I'd be really happy if a woman came up and started chatting to me. I am avoidant attachment and all my long term girlfriends hit on me first. Comment on something about the guy "i like your hair", "cool t shirt", or even just a bright smile and a "hi" and generally he will open up. And listen to what he is saying and ask questions based off that (easy conversation), at the end of the day a lot of charisma is paying attention to the other person. The non charismatic person leaves the conversation thinking "wow what a really great person" when half the time the other person hasn't "given" much, just paid attention to the other. 1
Donnas Posted July 28, 2021 Posted July 28, 2021 Just say hi and start small chat. Like about the weather and random stuff. Then say he looks handsome. 1
Pumpernickel Posted August 1, 2021 Posted August 1, 2021 Is this somebody you know? An acquaintance of some sort, or a neighbor that you run into occasionally? If so, and if you can safely assume they’re not tied down, I think the above suggestions are pretty great! Good luck! 2
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