Johnbe Posted July 24, 2021 Posted July 24, 2021 Hi, I’m new on here so hello can anyone give me any help, basically having turned 30 last year and the fact that I have zero relationship experience is really getting to me. it’s always going to be harder for me because I have a few physical differences and my speech is different, but I am in a good place in my life with a job I love and just about to finish a master’s qualification. the one thing that gets me down is my inability even to get a date, I have been trying various dating sites/apps but get zero response. I do have issues with self-confidence, but I do know what I’m worth and believe that I would be a good partner and am emotionally intelligent which is vital for any relationship. the ironic thing is that I have no issues with talking to girls and some of my best friends are female, just nobody wants to give me a chance. part of me knows that I should just accept that I may not be relationship material for anybody and leave it be, but it still really upsets me, and it gets so lonely when everybody seems to be with someone. I am going to start going to some in person social events now the Covid situation is a bit better, but my hopes are not high. sorry I hope that all makes sense - it’s just no one seems to understand sometimes John
ExpatInItaly Posted July 25, 2021 Posted July 25, 2021 I am sorry you're feeling so down, John. You say you have some close female friends. Have you asked them for advice? Given that they know you personally, they might be able to give you some pointers or suggest some changes you could make in your approach that you might otherwise be overlooking. We ladies can be the best source of insight for our male friends sometimes. I know I've lent advice to some close male buds when they were struggling with women. Could be worth a shot. 1
Blue Sea Posted July 25, 2021 Posted July 25, 2021 Since you have a few female friends, I guess from their understanding of your character & dressing style, they should able to give you more accurate pointers for a change. Having a good job & high qualifications are not the only attractive points for ladies. Some go for intelligent men, some go for humorous men, some go for handsome-looking men, some go for caring men etc. For me, I am more into the personality & dressing style as I am a vain pot & respect all my dates too. Hence, I wana look good to make them feel proud of my presence. However, chemistry & feelings are the most important factors to get into a relationship. 1
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