He kissed me, but I'm not feeling it anymore

[Miss Spider]

 

I got good news… I got my kiss He kissed me.   

Now for the bad news lol

I’m not sure I’m feeling him that much anymore. Don’t get me wrong, the date went well. The kiss was good & he’s pretty hot … but this date I got to get to know him a little better. 

And I’m not just not feeling him. 

I am starting to get a feel we wouldn’t be a great match. He  42(not a huge gap, but a gap. He looks around 30 tho)  and has his docks much more in a row. He owns a beautiful home, stable career, healthy lifestyle. I get some people might think this guy seems like a great catch and I get why women would be checking for him.

But like… I’m not. 

I’ve been thinking, the wholesome, being into outdoors, fitness and sports and all around good life decisions is fine and everything. But I’m beginning to think that I just really prefer a guy that’s a little bit  more like me. Not a bad boy, not my thing, but a need more of an edge and some messiness. He’s almost like too… ‘perfect’.
Not my type. 

The old me would’ve kept dating him, kissed more(kiss was good, he’s hot fr),would’ve eventually confessed feelings, got together, slept together, date a little while longer,  maybe say ily, lose interest as the relationship would have reached its pinnacle, start checking for others, freak out about how I’m going to break up, crawl back to loveshack with my tail between my legs, break up, feel bad about break up.

But that’s the old me. No longer going to date people and get attached or let them  get attached when I know I’m not 100% on board. I get the feeling this guy isn’t the type for casual sex and I am not really that type either. I tend to like “good boys” in that they don’t sleep around much or hookups much. I guess the challenge is a big aphrodisiac and the chase is 99% of the fun.  Casual sex seemed fun in the abstract, but so I really want it? Nope. Even with my an ex I hooked yo with, It wasn’t exactly casual. I really knew him and cared and vice versa even though I wasn’t *in love*. Some people can do without, but I need the emotional connect. I need to get into their head and vice versa. Otherwise, sex is just sex. I can take it or leave it..

Probably gonna break it off tmrw . it’s gonna suck and be awkward. I really hate this part and can’t do it without immediately blocking the person after, burning a bridge. I don’t know why, but it’s just so cringey for me to break it off with someone even though it should be perfectly normal. Maybe I’ve  read too many posts where people lose it or internalize it and obsess for a long time and stuff. That won’t happen, but I’m just saying 

 

Edited July 23, 2021 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[Weezy1973]

23 hours ago, Cookiesandough said:

No longer going to date people and get attached or let them  get attached when I know I’m not 100% on board.

 

When was the last time you were 100% on board?

[Miss Spider]

1 hour ago, Olivia24 said:

Any updates? Did you  break it  off?

Yea i did. I wrote him a don’t think we’re a match text tonight

[Miss Spider]

34 minutes ago, Weezy1973 said:

When was the last time you were 100% on board?

Never 

[Lisa]

thread closed at OP's request