jomaxfury Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 Well the ex contacted me for my birthday, a day before my birthday. With one line to say "I hope you are enjoying your special day.? Don't be surprised, I still think about how you're doing and if you are alright.? Well, take care, and don't be a stranger". How should I go about this pitty birthday email from her. I did not want nothing from her. I want to make her statement that I don't need her in my life anymore but at the same time I want be polite, because thats the type person I am. Please help guys. Thanks
westernxer Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 Just delete it. Or, if you're worried about your peace of mind, just say thanks. Nothing more, nothing less. Then don't respond to any more messages.
Baz Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 Ditto. It was only designed to put her back on your radar screen. She is playing with you.
JS17 Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 Ignore it. Everyone seems to tell me that by ignoring these things that I don't look like a b!tch but like a woman that has moved on. Hope that's true
francis Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 DELETE IT: let it dissappear from your life. gone! let any anger wash over you and rise above it. most importantly, go out and have a BLAST for your birthday!! enjoy yourself man!
Jayhawks Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 She is pitting you and that is just not right. Do not respond. Don't let her get to you. She is putting out feelers to see if/how you respond. She is not interested so keep with NC.
off2sea Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 I went through this a month ago- I waited several hours and then just responded with a "thanks." Even a simple response will screw you up, I found myself waiting for further contact which, of course, never came. Do yourself a favor- ignore it and enjoy your day!
Author jomaxfury Posted October 18, 2005 Author Posted October 18, 2005 Thanks guys for all the advice Can I just say "Thanks, take care!" Is just not my character to not even say thanks. I really don't want to. Her birthday is coming up also a week later. I just want to move on and have these pitty birthday emails done with!
Jayhawks Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 Thanks guys for all the advice Can I just say "Thanks, take care!" Is just not my character to not even say thanks. I really don't want to. Her birthday is coming up also a week later. I just want to move on and have these pitty birthday emails done with! If you do this are you wanting a reply? Better to just let it rest. How she feels is her problem, not yours. Take care of you.
GettingOverHim Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 This is feeble attempt on her part to get a response out of you. It sounds like you want to respond but where will it get you? She's testing to see if you're still interested. IGNORE it and continue to move on with your life or you'll start the process all over again and be back to square one.
In Sync Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 Can I just say "Thanks, take care!" Is just not my character to not even say thanks. So it's in your character to let her manipulate you with the crumbs she tossing you?She's looking to put a damper on your birthday...by responding she's got you whre she wants. Thinking about her on YOUR BIRTHDAY. Grow some you know "b*lls" and celebrate your birthday with bling bling and hot babes!
Author jomaxfury Posted October 18, 2005 Author Posted October 18, 2005 If you do this are you wanting a reply? Better to just let it rest. How she feels is her problem, not yours. Take care of you. Jayhawks you are correct. Why do I care what she thinks. She knows the kind of man was with her and what kind of person I am. For her birthday she aint receiving nothing either. I found this site way before we broke up. I Went straight to NC since day 1. It has definitely help cope with the whole break up. I am doing so much better, even after 2 1/2 months after a two year relationship. I Would have not come this far without ya'll Thanks guys
smile95 Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 my ex text me happy b-day and he loved me 2 wks ago....I was an ass and responded and of course never heard from him again.....please do not respond. Take the power from her
Author jomaxfury Posted October 19, 2005 Author Posted October 19, 2005 my ex text me happy b-day and he loved me 2 wks ago....I was an ass and responded and of course never heard from him again.....please do not respond. Take the power from her Thanks Beth, Fortunately for me I had to learn form your sad experience . Beth I thank you for that and I thank all of you. Beth I really like your sig quote. It makes so much sense to me. LOL j/k Seriously it does and keeps me strong!!!
slubberdegullion Posted October 19, 2005 Posted October 19, 2005 Take the hint here: DO NOT RESPOND. How much clearer can this be?
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