Mstreatmeright Posted July 20, 2021 Posted July 20, 2021 We were together for two years in a LDR. At first, we would see each other often but then with the Covid situation it got complicated to travel. At the beginning of the relationship I was very confident, and I think that’s what he liked about me. We had no major problems or fights. He used to communicate a lot and do his best to act right when I complained about something. Everyone knew about our relationship (family and friends) and it was very clear, at least for me, that it would end up in something serious. That’s what he made me believe. He got back home to our country (still LDR) and started being distant. He would call less, text less, ignore me. Every single time I mentioned how distant he was, he either apologized or said he was ashamed and didn’t know what to tell me. He would avoid talking about us or talk about the reason he was acting so weird. I became so desperate for answers that I lost all self control and would always call and text him, beg him to talk to me. I guess he got annoyed and decided to ghost me. Funny thing is that at the beginning of the relationship, I had the control. I used to be so confident but being alone and completely isolated because of Covid made me depressed, clingy and I lost my confidence. Instead of being there for me at my lowest, he ejected me from his life with no remorse. On top of ghosting me, he of course never gave me any closure and put my IG profile on mute so he couldn’t see my stories. I’ve asked my cousin to pick up my stuff at his place and he said he doesn’t have my stuff when he knows I have some clothes and jewelry there. My friends told me recently that he’s enjoying his life right now, dating so many girls at the same time and living his best life. I’m not hurt because the relationship ended I’m actually glad it ended and I’m working on myself so no men could ever treat me like that again because I gave him the power to disrespect me. Looking back, I must admit that we weren’t at the same place in life. He’s still not so mature and is still having fun, enjoying his family money and going to school while I’m working, saving for my business and a house. I’m hurt because he acted so indifferent and careless and insensitive. It was a two years relationship, not two months.. how can men be so cruel? How can a man you’ve been with for that long be so indifferent? I feel so worthless. Like am I that boring or ugly or clingy or needy for a man to treat me like this? How did I allow this? Don’t I deserve closure, and explanation? Wow. How did I allow myself to be so weak, needy and run after a man that doesn’t respect me and was showing me very clearly that he didn’t want to stay in the relationship anymore. I can’t forgive myself for being so naive.
stillafool Posted July 20, 2021 Posted July 20, 2021 Forgive yourself as you are only human. He didn't want to tell you he was dating another so he blocked you everywhere and treated you cold. That is happening a lot especially when it's a long distance affair and sometimes when people live close by. Even if he talked to you to give you what you believe would be "closure" it wouldn't work. Any questions he answers would only create more questions that won't be answered in your mind. You are the only one who can give yourself closure by accepting that the two of you wanted to go in different directions. Forgive him in your mind, write a letter to him and get out all of your feelings then burn it. That will bring you peace much more than talking to him. The truth is he met someone else but didn't have the balls to end it with you first. I'm so sorry you got hurt but you will be okay.
Recommended Posts