Author Kai_Kai Posted July 14, 2021 Author Posted July 14, 2021 1 minute ago, Donnas said: Like 6 months and on your hard working money??? You need to tell him what you told us. Im getting annoyed by your remarks and advice everytime. I will ask you if i need them. Its my money and i know well how to manage them. Btw, knowing him since you were young doesnt mean that much.No one stays the same as when they were kids. So u still gotta get to know them now as adult. Yeah, I like spoke to him about how I was feeling. I posted earlier about it and he was respectful of my reasoning and hasn't given me "advice" since, but at this point its only been like day 2. But like what one poster said, it is a habit of is, so if he does bring it up (god forbid) to just nudge him into a different direction. I am leaning on him just not doing it every again and we can move on from this annoyance moment. I definitely change over the past 10 years...he pretty much stayed the same. His mindset and personality is exactly the same from 10 years ago to present. So, he is an easy to read book 1
Wiseman2 Posted July 14, 2021 Posted July 14, 2021 Good you spoke to Captain Crunch about all this. Try not to get ahead of yourself. Don't look into the future. Enjoy your life with your family. A scrooge who pinches pennies is difficult to date and will be impossible to live with. Captain Crunch is the epitome of penny wise pound foolish. He personifies the adage "knows the price of everything and the value of nothing". Proceed with caution. Make your own choices, live your life as you see fit. Think long and hard if you could be happy with some self-appointed forensic accountant breathing down your neck. 2
Author Kai_Kai Posted July 15, 2021 Author Posted July 15, 2021 On 7/14/2021 at 4:50 AM, Wiseman2 said: Good you spoke to Captain Crunch about all this. Try not to get ahead of yourself. Don't look into the future. Enjoy your life with your family. A scrooge who pinches pennies is difficult to date and will be impossible to live with. Captain Crunch is the epitome of penny wise pound foolish. He personifies the adage "knows the price of everything and the value of nothing". Proceed with caution. Make your own choices, live your life as you see fit. Think long and hard if you could be happy with some self-appointed forensic accountant breathing down your neck. Thanksss! I like this advice. I meant to respond to this yesterday. We’re only 6 months in and I’m taking my time with it. To think about marriage, moving in, or anything long term this early in the game is simply not logical for our situation. And its funny because my ex stopped by yesterday morning to completely stir the pot, but primarily to pick up our son for the remaining of the summer.And he looked around the apartment and asked how me and my bf are doing. I never talk about my relationship with family, friends, or God forbid my ex because I feel like it can become messy and its just not their place. And he has never asked me about my relationship status before in great length and neither have I about his. If he was serious about a girl, I would meet her because she would potentially be around my son, but thats as far as it goes. I just give him a general response like,”We’re good” and changed the subjected. I asked him how he was doing, and he said he got a new job working for the city making a better income for himself and everything seems to be going in the right trajectory for him. I told him I was proud of him and he was like that means a lot to me. He asked me how long the lease was on the apartment, and I told him. He seemed so off. So I like straight asked him if he was okay. He just said flatly no. He doesn’t like this "arrangement". I am thinking he is talking about the apartment, and I am like listen I like this apartment. And he told me it’s not “just” the apartment and that he would talk to me later. So it makes me think its about the apartment and something else. I told him beforehand I was moving here, so its not like he was blindsided if he needed to make plans for our son. Plus, he hasn't spoken to me yet about what he meant. He sent a text with a picture of our son when he got in and a few other text but all related to our son. I asked him what he meant earlier about arrangements, and maybe he wanted to split custody of our son more even down the line. He just sent a flat text,"No, its no that. We'll talk soon about everything." Like seriously, what is up with these guys and me moving I am about to move back maybe everyone will slowly chill out.
Author Kai_Kai Posted July 15, 2021 Author Posted July 15, 2021 13 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said: Cheap men. Not even once Here's the thing though he is not cheap when it comes to me. He has taken me out to dinner, bought me flowers, we had our first vacation, etc. But, he puts me into his budget, I guess. He thought my budget was out of whack until I had to set him straight.
Wiseman2 Posted July 15, 2021 Posted July 15, 2021 1 hour ago, Kai_Kai said: He doesn’t like this "arrangement". I am thinking he is talking about the apartment. Don't discuss your personal life with your son's father. Don't take the bait about "talk later". He's creating suspense and drama to be ominous. Who cares what 'arrangement' he doesn't like? That's the beauty of being exes, you don't have to care or answer to them. He sees to be hinting to get you to confess to something. For example how's your Bf?, etc. Oldest game in the book. The guessing game. He drops lines then sees if how you respond. Best way to play that game is a poker face or silly question "do you have ketchup at your place for [our son]. On another note, if you and Captain Crunch ever breakup, you can google "plutomania". 1
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