semi Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 Left a nice message, after not having talked or had any communication in 5 months after bad bad break up. She cheated on me. I know that I am not ready to talk to her and I just told one of my friends how happy I was this weekend being single and just having fun. I have made a ton of new friends and the girls the swarming. Last night I had a dream about her and can't get her out of my mind today. What to do. I know that one day I will talk to her, just not now. Should I ignore it, email and telll her not now, or send a text message that repeats "slut" as many times as possible? I still have feelings for this girl but I also do have a lot of dignity, I just want to move on and I don't want her to think that me ignoring her message is some game. It is just not time right now.
Art_Critic Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 I also do have a lot of dignity, Sending a text or email calling her a slut would show you have no dignity. If you want to move on then just ignore the call
Author semi Posted October 18, 2005 Author Posted October 18, 2005 touche, Yeah I am thinking ignoring is the best course of action. I didn't think she would ever try to contact me.
sanne Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 please trust me on this one. IGNORE IT. don't respond, she'll know exactly why. she cheated on you and you don't have to give her the time of day anymore. show her that you are no longer a slave to her and you are your own independent person. ignore that damn message.
slubberdegullion Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 Consider this another hand counted for the "ignore her" advice.
Baz Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 Man, reality has just slapped her right in the face and she felt it. For full effect, ignore her. If she has any genuine feelings for you at all she will be hammering your door down. And even then would you want to trust her again? It is ok to still love her but you can no longer trust her, that much you know. She took your love and completely abused it, which for something so prescious is a terrible, dreadful thing to do to someone. Dont let her do that again - because if you do, she will. Go and get yourself something very special and genuine that is mature enough to appreciate the value of your love.
Author semi Posted October 18, 2005 Author Posted October 18, 2005 Can't get this off my mind today. Geez. Did she honestly expect me to pick up the phone? Is she curious, sincere, upset, interested, messing with me? I need to stick to my guns and just forget about it. One phone call 5 months after the fact isn't going to convince me really of anything.
brittanyjean259 Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 5 months is a long time, since she cheated on you...she should have spoke up sooner...5 months...for you ....condradulate your self for that...bc that is a decent amount of time... and im sure during those months you didnt call or beg, and she saw that...and now wants you back... i wouldent...pick up...but im not you!
Author semi Posted October 19, 2005 Author Posted October 19, 2005 I can't really remember how much or what i thought about her just before I got that message the other day. I think I was doing pretty good for myself but things have been so cloudy the past two days. This just brought back a ton of feelings and it is just building. I am the only one in my office today and that may have something to do with it. She may just be trying to get a response and say "don't forget about me". She definatley threw a rod in my gears. After we broke up I told her I didn't want to speak with her again, she was shocked by this. Why the hell did she call? I am so angry right now.
Baz Posted October 19, 2005 Posted October 19, 2005 Anger is good. Use it to stay focussed and clear the fog from your judgement. If she is genuine she will find a way back. Come on man, you are in control of you, she isn't in control of you.
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