ironpony Posted July 9, 2021 Posted July 9, 2021 Right now I am dating someone who works at a very different time schedule than me. She works early shifts in her job, and I work late shifts. But because of this, we have to loose sleep if we choose to hang out, which kind of sucks of course. Has anyone had this problem before or have any advice on it? Thank you very much! I really appreciate it!
Blind-Sided Posted July 9, 2021 Posted July 9, 2021 You just don't hang out every day... so you can get sleep when needed.
Author ironpony Posted July 9, 2021 Author Posted July 9, 2021 That's true, it's just we're tired on the days we do hang out cause we have to loose sleep though. But I guess twice a week or three times a week is not bad?
Author ironpony Posted July 9, 2021 Author Posted July 9, 2021 Thanks. That's the problem with loosing sleep over dating, spelling errors 2
Author ironpony Posted July 9, 2021 Author Posted July 9, 2021 She agrees that it's tiring since we have to loose sleep over it, but she also is not sure of anything to do about it.
Donnas Posted July 9, 2021 Posted July 9, 2021 Your weekend will be very special then.. But this may not less if you have no time to even have proper conversation s.... Like if you still chose to date her, there will be a lot of issues and fights if she have no time for you or because you guys don't have time to talk much.
Author ironpony Posted July 9, 2021 Author Posted July 9, 2021 4 minutes ago, Donnas said: Your weekend will be very special then.. But this may not less if you have no time to even have proper conversation s.... Like if you still chose to date her, there will be a lot of issues and fights if she have no time for you or because you guys don't have time to talk much. Oh well I work the work the weekends and so does she, so weekends are not an option either.
Lotsgoingon Posted July 11, 2021 Posted July 11, 2021 Having mismatch schedules is a real pain. Can you schedule the same days off?
Author ironpony Posted July 11, 2021 Author Posted July 11, 2021 (edited) No we cannot actually. Edited July 11, 2021 by ironpony
Wiseman2 Posted July 11, 2021 Posted July 11, 2021 On 7/9/2021 at 10:13 AM, ironpony said: That's true, it's just we're tired on the days we do hang out cause we have to loose sleep though. But I guess twice a week or three times a week is not bad? How long have you worked there? Do you like the evening shift? Can you put in for a day shift? That way this problem as well as your insomnia and other health issues may improve. Read up on the effects of shift work, it not just about scheduling dates.
elaine567 Posted July 11, 2021 Posted July 11, 2021 This is the girl you can't have sex with due to her "issues" both physical and psychological. How long do you envision this lasting? Your conflicting work schedules are the least of your worries.... 1
Blind-Sided Posted July 11, 2021 Posted July 11, 2021 On 7/9/2021 at 10:27 AM, ironpony said: Thanks. That's the problem with loosing sleep over dating, spelling errors Dont' worry. I have several degrees... and I can't spell. LOL.
glows Posted July 11, 2021 Posted July 11, 2021 The most you can do is respect each others’ time for sleep and to add to that, you each have hobbies, friends and your other areas besides dating. Juggling work is only one thing. Be patient even if there’s something urgently bothering you. Without that respect for each other and patience it won’t work. All relationships need that but it’ll be moreso for the both of you if there are conflicting schedules. I don’t see why meeting up two to three times a week is an issue. That’s between the couple. You may be tempted to live together or move in with each other prematurely so be wary and think this through.
Author ironpony Posted July 11, 2021 Author Posted July 11, 2021 17 minutes ago, glows said: The most you can do is respect each others’ time for sleep and to add to that, you each have hobbies, friends and your other areas besides dating. Juggling work is only one thing. Be patient even if there’s something urgently bothering you. Without that respect for each other and patience it won’t work. All relationships need that but it’ll be moreso for the both of you if there are conflicting schedules. I don’t see why meeting up two to three times a week is an issue. That’s between the couple. You may be tempted to live together or move in with each other prematurely so be wary and think this through. Oh okay thanks. We have patience with each other, and didn't think that it was a problem between each other, but just a problem with the work schedules. But I didn't think it was a problem between each other. 1
Author ironpony Posted July 11, 2021 Author Posted July 11, 2021 (edited) 5 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: How long have you worked there? Do you like the evening shift? Can you put in for a day shift? That way this problem as well as your insomnia and other health issues may improve. Read up on the effects of shift work, it not just about scheduling dates. I have worked there for almost four months now. Well the job I do is a two person job, working with someone else, so I am not sure if that person could still work with it. I am not sure if my workplace is open as early either, but I can check. Maybe I can ask the boss about that. Edited July 11, 2021 by ironpony 1
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