Author Cherry05 Posted July 9, 2021 Author Posted July 9, 2021 Just now, BaileyB said: That’s not what a marriage counsellor would do. For him to say that shows his ignorance and entitlement. Marriage counselling may provide a safe space that would allow you both to share your thoughts and feelings. And if you have a good marriage counsellor, that person could facilitate this discussion and assist you both I n developing a plan to works for not only one person in this marriage, but both of you. Right. He thinks he knows everything
BaileyB Posted July 9, 2021 Posted July 9, 2021 17 minutes ago, Cherry05 said: Right. He thinks he knows everything But you, will have a Masters degree. So, you are a pretty smart lady yourself! Best wishes. Please let us know what you decide. I will hope that you are able to talk some sense into him! 1
d0nnivain Posted July 9, 2021 Posted July 9, 2021 His stubbornness & refusal to listen to you is why you need to take the logical reasons against this to his siblings so that they can support you when you all say mom needs to stay where she is. 48 is so young but Bailey is right about all the equipment & time needed to care for her safely. Really focus on what will happen to everybody -- MIL & your husband -- if your husband hurts himself trying to help her. Would he ever forgive himself if she fell & hit her head in the bathroom because he didn't have the knowledge or the skills to transfer her safely? I really think the best idea is to find a facility close to you that is a nice place, then visit her daily. 2
Wiseman2 Posted July 9, 2021 Posted July 9, 2021 11 hours ago, Cherry05 said: she is at least 250. She's fallen before as we tried to move her. Why are you even debating this untenable situation?. Just say no. 2
HadMeOverABarrel Posted July 9, 2021 Posted July 9, 2021 20 hours ago, Cherry05 said: I am like 140 lbs and she is at least 250. She's fallen before as we tried to move her. Moving her to the bed, wheelchair, etc is a struggle. My sister is a physical therapist in a hospital who routinely has to help people unable to move themselves to get up and move around. My sis is about 40 years old, exercises regularly, and has been pretty fit all her life. She routinely complains about how difficult it is to get people up and moving. She especially resents overweight people because they strain her body more. She says her work is taking such a tool on her health that she's not going to be able to do it for much longer. She only works about 4 days/week and she says her joints are painful, etc. Also, I think in the USA facilities won't release patients home if they don't believe there is adequate support at home. My uncle was dying. His wife wanted to bring him home for his last months. They wouldn't release him because they felt she didn't have the equipment or medical support at home, plus she's about 80 years old (but still a firecracker to her credit!). 1
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