CaliforniaGirl Posted July 8, 2021 Posted July 8, 2021 17 minutes ago, smackie9 said: If he was good looking enough, he could be a dishwasher at the Red Lobster, and get chicks. Actually...yeah... especially if he's good-looking AND charming/funny/etc. That's pretty much true of anyone, male or female. Attractive people are attractive. #truth 1
GeorgiaPeach1 Posted July 8, 2021 Posted July 8, 2021 So you don't want a woman to want you for a superficial reason such as money, but you expect her to be beautiful? 6
Ami1uwant Posted July 8, 2021 Posted July 8, 2021 2 hours ago, smackie9 said: If he was good looking enough, he could be a dishwasher at the Red Lobster, and get chicks. he might be sick of the seafood smell…..
Elsa888 Posted July 8, 2021 Posted July 8, 2021 Lovers 12, I might help if you could define what you mean by a 'high quality woman' ?? You also say - if I have got it correct ( I am from UK) that you want to do a degree to 'increase your status'. That's pants. Surely you should be doing a degree to get more knowledge so you are in a better position to help sick and vulnerable people. Isn't that why you trained to be a nurse? I think you have wrong viewpoint here - but that's just my opinion.
BeanCounter Posted July 8, 2021 Posted July 8, 2021 Yeah, nursing is not a bad profession at all. It's not your job. Search for other reasons about you that it could be. It just sounds like your bitter and whiney, which is a turnoff for women in itself. Nursing is a heavily dominated female profession - have you tried to date nurses? Or try to get your nurse friends you work with who have SO's to set you up with someone?
Noproblem Posted July 8, 2021 Posted July 8, 2021 You can always upgrade your position and get higher degrees, if you feel inferior, do something about it. Nursing is an admirable job, but if it's not fulfilling for you, you can study some more years and upgrade it. But let the reason be self improvement not getting laid with doctors diggers lol
norealusername Posted July 8, 2021 Posted July 8, 2021 I think most women are attracted to your looks first not your profession, same as men. Maybe some are like that but why would you want such a shallow woman anyway.
stillafool Posted July 8, 2021 Posted July 8, 2021 (edited) Your idea of a high quality woman is a woman who is good looking? I thought you were talking about an accomplished woman. My how times have changed. Edited July 8, 2021 by stillafool
Woggle Posted July 8, 2021 Posted July 8, 2021 I know it sounds like backward thinking but stop trying to impress women and you will do better with them. Stop worrying so much if this or that is a turn off and just get out there.
Happy Lemming Posted July 8, 2021 Posted July 8, 2021 My advice... set a "dating budget" for the month. Plan nice dates within that budget. If the woman leaves you for a guy with a "bigger wallet", so be it... just move on to the next woman. There are plenty of them out there. I've been called "cheap" so many times, I was beginning to think it was my middle name.
chillii Posted July 9, 2021 Posted July 9, 2021 Ex w was a nurse and so l met a lot of her male nurse and couples workmates over the yrs too. They certainly had no problem whatsoever with the ladies or gf's and wives. Damn nice people to actually .
FMW Posted July 9, 2021 Posted July 9, 2021 Any woman who would not see you as a good option simply because of your title is NOT a quality woman. Nursing is a well-paying, respectable profession. Unless you're only attracted to very wealthy women who only date at their financial level, or gold diggers who only want men who earn in the top 1%, I don't think your current slump has anything to do with your job. 1
balletomane Posted July 9, 2021 Posted July 9, 2021 On 7/8/2021 at 11:10 AM, Weezy1973 said: Probably has more to do with his confidence from becoming a doctor and believing it will be attractive to women, then actually having the doctor title. You don’t believe you’re attractive regardless. That’s your issue. Nothing to do with your profession. This is an excellent point. I'm a doctor (female) and med school and my first two years on the job were a very steep learning curve in terms of interpersonal skills. When you have panicked patients who are relying on you to keep calm and collected in the most difficult situations, you end up becoming a more confident person generally. There's no reason why a nurse wouldn't develop in the same way - you have many of the same opportunities as us for this, depending on the setting where you work. If you feel stuck in a rut and dissatisfied with life generally, look for a job in a specialty that's new to you or where the pace is faster, somewhere you'll be stretched. You'll probably feel the benefit in all areas of life. 1
Trail Blazer Posted July 9, 2021 Posted July 9, 2021 22 hours ago, stillafool said: Your idea of a high quality woman is a woman who is good looking? I thought you were talking about an accomplished woman. My how times have changed. I thought his idea was both. Well, for mine, "quality" encompasses all the desirable traits.
CaliforniaGirl Posted July 9, 2021 Posted July 9, 2021 13 hours ago, FMW said: Any woman who would not see you as a good option simply because of your title is NOT a quality woman. Nursing is a well-paying, respectable profession. Unless you're only attracted to very wealthy women who only date at their financial level, or gold diggers who only want men who earn in the top 1%, I don't think your current slump has anything to do with your job. I think what we need here is for the OP to tell us what he means by "quality" women.
stillafool Posted July 9, 2021 Posted July 9, 2021 On 7/8/2021 at 12:52 PM, Ami1uwant said: There is a group of women who will date because of career and income. You have the money, you can get the hot chick. Oh, you mean prostitutes.
Trail Blazer Posted July 9, 2021 Posted July 9, 2021 11 hours ago, balletomane said: This is an excellent point. I'm a doctor (female) and med school and my first two years on the job were a very steep learning curve in terms of interpersonal skills. When you have panicked patients who are relying on you to keep calm and collected in the most difficult situations, you end up becoming a more confident person generally. There's no reason why a nurse wouldn't develop in the same way - you have many of the same opportunities as us for this, depending on the setting where you work. If you feel stuck in a rut and dissatisfied with life generally, look for a job in a specialty that's new to you or where the pace is faster, somewhere you'll be stretched. You'll probably feel the benefit in all areas of life. I had a fling with a nurse for a little while and she said that a lot of (male) doctors have undeveloped social skills as they see dealing with people as a component of the job that is beneath them. She said that doctors lean on nurses a lot to bridge that gap. I'm sure that doctors see a lot of awful things and to get through the day, stoicism becomes a desirable trait. It's better seem calm and detached in the eyes of a patient than to be freaking out with said patient when things are going awry.
BaileyB Posted July 9, 2021 Posted July 9, 2021 I would have no problem whatsoever dating a male nurse.
Trail Blazer Posted July 9, 2021 Posted July 9, 2021 14 minutes ago, BaileyB said: I would have no problem whatsoever dating a male nurse. It's the 21st century. Surely we've on from the days of Meet The Parents, where Ben Stiller's character, Greg (Gaylord) Focker, was the butt of all jokes by the rest of the doctors in the family.
BaileyB Posted July 9, 2021 Posted July 9, 2021 2 minutes ago, Trail Blazer said: It's the 21st century. Surely we've on from the days of Meet The Parents, where Ben Stiller's character, Greg (Gaylord) Focker, was the butt of all jokes by the rest of the doctors in the family. Since when is an educated man in a professional job that earns a very good salary (where I live) considered not a good prospect when dating?
Trail Blazer Posted July 9, 2021 Posted July 9, 2021 1 hour ago, BaileyB said: Since when is an educated man in a professional job that earns a very good salary (where I live) considered not a good prospect when dating? Never. My post was intended to be taken in jest, just like the film.
CaliforniaGirl Posted July 10, 2021 Posted July 10, 2021 (edited) 2 hours ago, Trail Blazer said: I thought his idea was both. Well, for mine, "quality" encompasses all the desirable traits. Actually, he didn't say he wanted both those qualities. All he said that he was jealous of was an "attractive" woman and all he said about his past relationships was that he'd been with some "cute" girls. So, literally all he has said so far is that he wants looks. (ETA: or we'd have to assume, since they were just sitting at a bar and he was trying to attract this woman but she wasn't responding, so I can't see that he knew anything about her internal qualities. Then he said her eyes "lit up" when his friend said he was a doctor, and then the OP said that was what he envied - instant attraction from women because of a profession.) Anyway, yeah. We heard about attractive and cute but we haven't heard any explanation of those, certainly no internal qualities. Maybe he'll come back and add to that, or not. Edited July 10, 2021 by CaliforniaGirl
Kai_Kai Posted July 10, 2021 Posted July 10, 2021 On 7/7/2021 at 6:00 PM, lovers12 said: I have a friend who isn't the most conventionally attractive guy. we are both in our 30s now. He only had 1 girlfriend most of his life at least from what I know about and she wasn't attractive. He got in medical school and finishing up his residency. Last I heard he has been through 4 girlfriends within the past year and they are attractive too. I am a bit envious not going to lie. I remember hanging out with him at a bar and he was trying to chat with a lady who wasn't interested and when he mentioned hes a doctor her eyes lit up. Its definitely an eyebrow raiser. Now I am not doing bad per se I am a nurse making 6 figures per year and have been told that I am good looking throughout my life, but It doesn't mean anything to me. Feel like people just say that to be nice. I have had some cute girlfriends in the past, but currently hitting a stroke of bad luck or something. I am just feeling jealous atm I guess. I wish it was that easy for me where you can just tell a girl your profession and her attraction level instantly increases without having to put extra effort in other things. I did a little experiment on dating profile and I put my profession as a doctor and one as a nurse and trust me I was matching up with some good looking women that I would want a relationship with as a doctor. I want to go for my NP degree and part of the reason too is increase in status. It's weird. I would think being a nurse would be more appealing than a doctor. Doctors have more student debt and less time. Plus, it appears that nurses do more of the work than doctors from my experience. You have a great job. Any woman that passes you over because you're not a doctor is not the one.
Author lovers12 Posted July 10, 2021 Author Posted July 10, 2021 20 hours ago, CaliforniaGirl said: Actually, he didn't say he wanted both those qualities. All he said that he was jealous of was an "attractive" woman and all he said about his past relationships was that he'd been with some "cute" girls. So, literally all he has said so far is that he wants looks. (ETA: or we'd have to assume, since they were just sitting at a bar and he was trying to attract this woman but she wasn't responding, so I can't see that he knew anything about her internal qualities. Then he said her eyes "lit up" when his friend said he was a doctor, and then the OP said that was what he envied - instant attraction from women because of a profession.) Anyway, yeah. We heard about attractive and cute but we haven't heard any explanation of those, certainly no internal qualities. Maybe he'll come back and add to that, or not. I am more talking about the instant attraction that just comes from saying you a doctor. That you can just tell a women that you are a doctor and that is all it takes.
Author lovers12 Posted July 10, 2021 Author Posted July 10, 2021 2 hours ago, Kai_Kai said: It's weird. I would think being a nurse would be more appealing than a doctor. Doctors have more student debt and less time. Plus, it appears that nurses do more of the work than doctors from my experience. You have a great job. Any woman that passes you over because you're not a doctor is not the one. Its all about status.
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