stillafool Posted July 5, 2021 Posted July 5, 2021 15 minutes ago, d0nnivain said: Why do young models date aging rock stars? Because they are wealthy famous rock stars. Why do aging rock stars date young models? Because they can I agree but not all the musicians that date models are aging. Some are young.
chillii Posted July 8, 2021 Posted July 8, 2021 Just wondering , nothing to do with the price of fish but how tall are models anyway ? They usually look around 6ftish , never been around them though no clue really , don't even like model types myself butttttt, just wondering.
HotRevolver93 Posted July 10, 2021 Posted July 10, 2021 On 7/4/2021 at 3:57 PM, Hopeful30 said: Yes this is how I feel. If the results are the same, why put extra effort? Lol Yeah like who am I trying to impress lol
poppyfields Posted July 10, 2021 Posted July 10, 2021 2 minutes ago, HotRevolver93 said: Yeah like who am I trying to impress lol Yourself...
HotRevolver93 Posted July 10, 2021 Posted July 10, 2021 3 minutes ago, poppyfields said: Yourself... at this point not really
poppyfields Posted July 10, 2021 Posted July 10, 2021 Just now, HotRevolver93 said: at this point not really What point is that? I hope I never get to that point, where you stop caring about yourself? May as well be dead as far as I'm concerned, sorry to hear you feel this way..
HotRevolver93 Posted July 10, 2021 Posted July 10, 2021 1 hour ago, poppyfields said: What point is that? I hope I never get to that point, where you stop caring about yourself? May as well be dead as far as I'm concerned, sorry to hear you feel this way.. I don’t care about my looks at this point
stillafool Posted July 10, 2021 Posted July 10, 2021 On 7/8/2021 at 1:44 AM, chillii said: Just wondering , nothing to do with the price of fish but how tall are models anyway ? They usually look around 6ftish , never been around them though no clue really , don't even like model types myself butttttt, just wondering. Usually 5'8 - 5'10 in bare feet (6' - 6'2 in heels). I think Kate Moss was 5'6 (5'10) when she modeled. That's the shortest I've seen for runway modeling. 1
Weezy1973 Posted July 10, 2021 Posted July 10, 2021 1 hour ago, HotRevolver93 said: I don’t care about my looks at this point Which means the only reason you care about your looks is to attract men. So if you don’t care about attracting men, sure let yourself go!
Author Hopeful30 Posted July 11, 2021 Author Posted July 11, 2021 On 7/5/2021 at 11:58 AM, AnnieB said: I can relate to the tall and athletic conundrum. I’m 5’9” and athletic and to say that men are intimidated by that is an understatement. First time it happened I was on a double date with my best friend, we had just turned 19, (she is 5’11”) We were both swimmers and both on the team. Somehow we forgot to mention that to the men and they took us swimming. We didn’t even show off we were just swimming. Not even synchronized The guys were swimming, but they were obviously self taught (we grew up in a country that didn’t have swimming pools, my friend and I were extremely fortunate to have learned swimming at school, our school had a pool). On our ride back one of the guys was completely silent, and both of them stopped speaking to us within a week. It's a shame that men are so easily emasculated. I think this is part of my difficulty. In my culture, if a woman can built a house and make money, men are all over her like white on rice! like wow! she won't sit on my neck and depend on me for everything, she's independent and can get things done! it's considered an attractive quality in my culture, not so much in Toronto (my current city). On 7/5/2021 at 4:02 PM, mortensorchid said: The world is not going to change, YOU have to change. Facts. That's where I'm at. What's wrong with me? I've never even been dumped, but I've had few relationships because men don't appear to chase or try anymore (again, in Toronto, not sure about other cities). On 7/5/2021 at 4:21 PM, Shining One said: Don't you have some very specific requirements in the trouser department? It's not what you use, but how you use it On 7/5/2021 at 4:31 PM, Shining One said: Are taller women frequently approaching shorter men and being rejected (eliminated) by them? I don't know about approaching, but I've once had a good (male) friend tell me that even though he would love to date me, i'm too tall for him and he wouldn't feel manly. Ouch. On 7/8/2021 at 1:44 AM, chillii said: Just wondering , nothing to do with the price of fish but how tall are models anyway ? They usually look around 6ftish , never been around them though no clue really , don't even like model types myself butttttt, just wondering. Minimum 5'10 for runway. I used to model, it was easy money, but I didn't like that kind of attention so I quit. Also they told me to get even skinnier (I'm already slim minus the recent 10 lbs). When I asked why does the industry want such skinny models, you won't believe what they said!!! "So we use less fabric." Unbelievable.
Author Hopeful30 Posted July 11, 2021 Author Posted July 11, 2021 17 hours ago, Weezy1973 said: Which means the only reason you care about your looks is to attract men. So if you don’t care about attracting men, sure let yourself go! Guilty. When I go somewhere and know guys will be there, I go the extra step. If it's just me and my girlfriends, I'm more laid back. I think this is true for both sexes, no? 1
AnnieB Posted July 11, 2021 Posted July 11, 2021 3 minutes ago, Hopeful30 said: Guilty. When I go somewhere and know guys will be there, I go the extra step. If it's just me and my girlfriends, I'm more laid back. I think this is true for both sexes, no? A little bit, I think, but when alone for a long time, I like to dress up for myself, too. I never understood it, but I did it once or twice and it was such a great thing to do. Now I pretty much do the same routine/ outfits even when I’m with girlfriends or alone.
chillii Posted July 12, 2021 Posted July 12, 2021 (edited) 12 hours ago, Hopeful30 said: It's a shame that men are so easily emasculated. I think this is part of my difficulty. In my culture, if a woman can built a house and make money, men are all over her like white on rice! like wow! she won't sit on my neck and depend on me for everything, she's independent and can get things done! it's considered an attractive quality in my culture, not so much in Toronto (my current city). That's where I'm at. What's wrong with me? I've never even been dumped, but I've had few relationships because men don't appear to chase or try anymore (again, in Toronto, not sure about other cities). It's not what you use, but how you use it I don't know about approaching, but I've once had a good (male) friend tell me that even though he would love to date me, i'm too tall for him and he wouldn't feel manly. Ouch. Minimum 5'10 for runway. I used to model, it was easy money, but I didn't like that kind of attention so I quit. Also they told me to get even skinnier (I'm already slim minus the recent 10 lbs). When I asked why does the industry want such skinny models, you won't believe what they said!!! "So we use less fabric." Unbelievable. WTF are you talking about so easily emasculated what just bc they don't go for you , As usual if he doesn't like her there's something wrong with him and out come the knives, your kidding yourself. Known plenty of guys that love tall leggy women but many too that like them small and very feminine too, so what! But oh , there's something wrong with them too is there l suppose. So there's something wrong with all these women that like bigger masculine 6ft men then , right ! She's obviously got problems , she's effeminated if she can't be with a short guy then right , weak , and on and on. The key , is femininity , just as masculinity is to a woman. Haven't known too many guys that want her built like a man or acting like one or heavier than him it's called desire. Look at a feminine in shape women then look at the opposite, if you were a guy which one would you like to sleep with ? We desire whatever we do and just bc she might not fit that with some that doesn't mean there's anything whatsoever wrong with him, or even her. Some other guy will desire her. lt just means he doesn't desire her. Just as she won't desire every man and his dog either. ps , nothing sexier than a hot woman that also knows how to do stuff . Edited July 12, 2021 by chillii 3
Blind-Sided Posted July 12, 2021 Posted July 12, 2021 5 hours ago, chillii said: 1) WTF are you talking about so easily emasculated what just bc they don't go for you , As usual if he doesn't like her there's something wrong with him and out come the knives, your kidding yourself. 2) ps , nothing sexier than a hot woman that also knows how to do stuff . 1) Yep... this is what is wrong with the world these days. All the people who are so offended by everything... and can't take responsibility for their own life. It's obviously someone else's fault. 2) Absolutely. When I was young... I met a girl who was sexy, had all the right curves... but wasn't scared to get muddy, and help work on the broken "Toys". (off-road vehicles)
Weezy1973 Posted July 12, 2021 Posted July 12, 2021 19 hours ago, Hopeful30 said: Guilty. When I go somewhere and know guys will be there, I go the extra step. If it's just me and my girlfriends, I'm more laid back. I think this is true for both sexes, no? No idea. Wasn’t true for me though. I pretty much dressed the same regardless of the situation. But more importantly all that matters for you is whether you care about attracting men. If you do, don’t let yourself go. If you don’t care about attracting men, let yourself go. 1
stillafool Posted July 12, 2021 Posted July 12, 2021 19 hours ago, Hopeful30 said: I've never even been dumped, but I've had few relationships because men don't appear to chase or try anymore (again, in Toronto, not sure about other cities). It's the same everywhere pretty much because they don't have to. Women are chasing them. 19 hours ago, Hopeful30 said: don't know about approaching, but I've once had a good (male) friend tell me that even though he would love to date me, i'm too tall for him and he wouldn't feel manly. Ouch. There seems to be more short men now. When I was a teenager in the late 70s it seemed like all the men were taller back then, women too. Guys liked tall women, long hair, long legs. Now they like short women with thicker (more voluptuous) bodies it seems. 1
Johnjohnson2017 Posted July 12, 2021 Posted July 12, 2021 Looks are not everything. Work on your approachability. Smile more. or at least don't look angry. More eye contact. Say Hi if you see someone that you might be interested in. Just saying Hi might start a conversation. If a conversation does start, be enthusiastic during the dialogue. ask questions etc. Because you are tall, men automatically assume you want a tall guy. So short men might be more hesitant. Because you are attractive, Guys might also think that you already have a boyfriend. 1
d0nnivain Posted July 12, 2021 Posted July 12, 2021 @Hopeful30 Do you consider yourself a generally happy person? Upbeat people are more attractive no matter what they look like. It doesn't matter if you are wearing makeup or carrying a few extra pounds / kilos. If you are fun loving & vivacious you will attract attention. It's about smiling & being approachable. IMO smiling making eye contact & saying hello to an attractive man is not chasing. It's giving the poor guy a green light, which is needed. Men today do not want to cold initiate because they have been brainwashed into thinking that constitutes toxic masculinity. Meanwhile woman sit around lamenting that men don't just fall out of the sky to chase them, while they are sitting around out in public only talking to their group of girlfriends & sending out signals that they are not open to be approached. It's a vicious cycle. 1
Alpacalia Posted July 12, 2021 Posted July 12, 2021 On 7/4/2021 at 9:01 AM, Hopeful30 said: I've gained maybe 10lbs at most, and at 5'11 it's hardly noticeable, but whenever I consider putting more effort into fitness I keep remembering that I was fit and sexy body for 10+ years and didn't yield anything different than where I'm at now...so I might as well let myself go? Motivation for fitness varies from person to person. Mine was when I saw a picture of myself where I just didn't look happy. Granted, I was eating nothing but frozen dinners and dealing with ongoing neck/back pain. Then when I got into a health/fitness routine I started to become fixated on shedding the last few pounds around my belly. At that point I just said oh well. I'm comfortable now with where I'm at. Sometimes "letting ourselves go" happens nevertheless. We just reach a point where we are - just tired. We try "this," we "try that." Check, check, check. “It doesn’t matter what I do. Life sucks anyway.” People that are in relationships aren't immune to letting themselves go sometimes too. In fact, some of the times when I've been what I consider my heaviest, has been paired up. For now, you're going to have to find ways to be happy as a single adult woman. 1
czanclus Posted July 12, 2021 Posted July 12, 2021 (edited) On 7/5/2021 at 3:31 PM, Shining One said: Are taller women frequently approaching shorter men and being rejected (eliminated) by them? Are women in general frequently approaching men they would be interested in dating and getting rejected (eliminated) by them? I'd venture that predicated on the event that a woman is approaching a man she is interested in dating, there is not a significant disproportion of taller women approaching men that are shorter than they are except for the experience-based apprehension that they will be rejected. Even for just sex. What a tiny pool... Edited July 12, 2021 by czanclus 1
introverted1 Posted July 12, 2021 Posted July 12, 2021 OP, you've been complaining about a lack of suitable men in multiple threads spanning back to 2019. In several of your threads, you've expressed that you want men who are taller than you, who are the same ethnicity as you, and who are well endowed physically. You've also surfaced the idea that men are intimated by your looks, although this has been dispelled many times over. With respect, I think there is something else going on; perhaps you subconsciously don't want to be in a relationship or have some other block. Have you thought about discussing this with a counselor? 1
SumGuy Posted July 12, 2021 Posted July 12, 2021 On 7/11/2021 at 1:18 PM, Hopeful30 said: It's a shame that men are so easily emasculated. I think this is part of my difficulty. In my culture, if a woman can built a house and make money, men are all over her like white on rice! like wow! she won't sit on my neck and depend on me for everything, she's independent and can get things done! it's considered an attractive quality in my culture, not so much in Toronto (my current city).... I know a bit about Toronto, well enough to know the kind of men you seek exist there are they do in the US. Certainly there are many who hold views such that you being 5'11" puts them off (consciously or not) heck you can see it form just looking through LS here. Yet there are many (I being part of that culture) who do not and are very much on board with independent and get things done being super attractive. In fact for me, her having a can do attitude is key. On your height, as have seen mentioned here, some men will wonder if you would date them if they are shorter, I presume you mentioned that in OLD profiles. Personally I'm 5'11" and have dated women 5' to 5'10", not specific reason haven't dated taller women just likely haven't come across them where they meet my primary criteria, just statistics really. When girlfriends have worn heels and been taller than me, it ain't no thing, for those who say do you feel less a man or a woman want's her man to be a man and be taller, I say the measure of a man isn't just how tall he is to the top od his head. Perhaps you need to refine the ponds you are fishing in, from what little I know you would be having no problem in the ponds I swim in getting interest. 2
Woggle Posted July 12, 2021 Posted July 12, 2021 (edited) I would never feel emasculated by a woman who knows how to do things. I don't know where you are meeting these men. Men don't approach because men have been told that women don't like it and decent men respect women's wishes. Believe me it's not just you. We also don't pursue or chase because we have been told that no is no. Edited July 12, 2021 by Woggle 1
Versacehottie Posted July 13, 2021 Posted July 13, 2021 On 7/4/2021 at 10:47 AM, FMW said: 10 lbs at 5'11" isn't going to be noticed by anyone else. As you know, you'll feel better if you eat healthy food, and feeling better will put you in a more peaceful frame of mind so that you enjoy your life. That will help you naturally attract people. Don't focus on just physical fitness and the number on the scale - emotional fitness is a big part of attraction lasting beyond the initial "ooh they are hot" phase. I agree that most others will barely notice 10 pounds on a 5'11" frame....that said, YOU will notice how you treat yourself. If you "let yourself go", you know that you are. It's a signal to yourself that you're giving up and don't treat yourself as well as you could (like self-care) so I wouldn't recommend doing that even if you can get away with the weight gain. Like FMW said, emotional fitness is key to attracting people. If you feel good about yourself inside it will show to others outside.
Els Posted July 13, 2021 Posted July 13, 2021 (edited) On 7/6/2021 at 6:02 AM, mortensorchid said: The world is not going to change, YOU have to change. Facts. Correct. Part of change is changing how you allow people to treat you. Family I can understand to an extent, because you don't choose your family. But if your "close friends" were treating you poorly when you were 10 lbs heavier, maybe you want to reexamine your people-picker. The fact that they started treating you well again after you lost the weight, doesn't change the fact that you have some pretty terrible "close friends". Edited July 13, 2021 by Elswyth
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