IntBrowser Posted July 3, 2021 Posted July 3, 2021 Couple of weeks ago I met someone and we hit it off. Then I was scheduled to go on vacation for my birthday for a week at two different hotels. The first hotel was sat to mon. So she text me on saturday asking how did I enjoy the steak house and I said it was nice. This was the hotel she told me she lived 10 mins away from. Then when I checked out I went to Atlantic City for the rest of the week and we didnt talk to each other. So once I got back I called her and she didnt answer. Then I sent her a text the next day and she didnt respond. So I am wondering was the purpose of her contacting me when I was at the first hotel was for me as the man to suggest seeing her while I was still there?
CaliforniaGirl Posted July 3, 2021 Posted July 3, 2021 2 minutes ago, IntBrowser said: Couple of weeks ago I met someone and we hit it off. Then I was scheduled to go on vacation for my birthday for a week at two different hotels. The first hotel was sat to mon. So she text me on saturday asking how did I enjoy the steak house and I said it was nice. This was the hotel she told me she lived 10 mins away from. Then when I checked out I went to Atlantic City for the rest of the week and we didnt talk to each other. So once I got back I called her and she didnt answer. Then I sent her a text the next day and she didnt respond. So I am wondering was the purpose of her contacting me when I was at the first hotel was for me as the man to suggest seeing her while I was still there? You showed low interest so she checked out. 9
norealusername Posted July 3, 2021 Posted July 3, 2021 Hard to say without knowing the details but it does sound like you didn't stay in contact enough. You were staying 10 minutes away, did you try to meet up with her? 4
glows Posted July 3, 2021 Posted July 3, 2021 This is too little too late. Why didn't you ask her out for a drink when you were there? 5
Author IntBrowser Posted July 3, 2021 Author Posted July 3, 2021 Just now, glows said: This is too little too late. Why didn't you ask her out for a drink when you were there? Well she didnt offer to treat me and knew why I was at the hotel. 1
CaliforniaGirl Posted July 3, 2021 Posted July 3, 2021 2 minutes ago, IntBrowser said: Well she didnt offer to treat me and knew why I was at the hotel. If you were expecting this, you and she were on two different pages, I think, so not continuing to try to get together is probably for the best. 5
norealusername Posted July 3, 2021 Posted July 3, 2021 (edited) 4 hours ago, IntBrowser said: Well she didnt offer to treat me and knew why I was at the hotel. [ ] Why not just ask her to meet for dinner or something while you're there? You've got the convenient hotel room to invite her up to afterwards. Edited July 3, 2021 by a LoveShack.org Moderator civility 1
glows Posted July 3, 2021 Posted July 3, 2021 12 minutes ago, IntBrowser said: Well she didnt offer to treat me and knew why I was at the hotel. You say it was your bday. Makes sense. She could have bought you a drink. I'm sorry it didn't work out. See whether she responds then in the coming week or so. If not , date others.
Author IntBrowser Posted July 3, 2021 Author Posted July 3, 2021 6 minutes ago, glows said: You say it was your bday. Makes sense. She could have bought you a drink. I'm sorry it didn't work out. See whether she responds then in the coming week or so. If not , date others. She was already treated when we went to dinner
norealusername Posted July 3, 2021 Posted July 3, 2021 She texted you on Saturday, she knew you were staying at the hotel that night. She probably wanted you to ask her out. 4
glows Posted July 3, 2021 Posted July 3, 2021 (edited) 16 minutes ago, IntBrowser said: She was already treated when we went to dinner I didn't ask you whether you treated her. You might be quoting the wrong person. I said she could have asked you out for a drink because it was your birthday. Edited July 3, 2021 by glows
Miss Spider Posted July 3, 2021 Posted July 3, 2021 (edited) I think your acting aloof /let them chase game is only gonna backfire on you . Belated happy bday Edited July 3, 2021 by Cookiesandough 3
ExpatInItaly Posted July 3, 2021 Posted July 3, 2021 You didn't stay in touch. She took that as low interest and next'ed you. 2
Calmandfocused Posted July 3, 2021 Posted July 3, 2021 4 hours ago, IntBrowser said: Well she didnt offer to treat me and knew why I was at the hotel. This was the attitude that dug your own grave. Never expect a woman who has only met you once to “treat” you for your birthday. Why should she? She doesn’t know you and she’s under no obligation too. She doesn’t “owe” you anything. Don’t offer to pay for first dates if this is the expectation you have. Only do it because you want to, and when you don’t expect anything in return. 8
elaine567 Posted July 3, 2021 Posted July 3, 2021 4 hours ago, Cookiesandough said: I think your acting aloof /let them chase game is only gonna backfire on you People can only play the aloof/cool/let them chase me game if they are desirable, good looking or have something members of the opposite sex find irresistible. Most people are average/below average so they play that game hoping to find real interest, but they fail to find it as they do not have enough good traits on show to stimulate interest.. People will only chase what they want to catch. Some women will never chase as they don't have to or they are too shy or they feel men should do the chasing, so that needs to be taken into consideration too.. If a person is mediocre, they need to sell themselves, but so many decide to do the opposite and moan when no-one is remotely interested in them... This girl no doubt went "Intbrowser? - I can take him or leave him, let's see where it goes." I doubt he is seen as a great catch due to his dating history, but instead of ramping up his game to try to persuade women to go out with him, he acts as if he is God's gift... He didn't bother to arrange a meet up despite the fact he was on holiday 10 minutes from her home so he went straight into the NO pile. He assumed she would be still waiting for him to pick up the phone... wrong! 5
Wiseman2 Posted July 3, 2021 Posted July 3, 2021 6 hours ago, IntBrowser said: Well she didnt offer to treat me and knew why I was at the hotel. Why not take a break from dating altogether? It's better than all these half-hearted self-defeating maneuvers. It's kind of silly to complain when you find ways to sabotage it because you actually don't want to date right now, no? 3
Miss Spider Posted July 3, 2021 Posted July 3, 2021 (edited) Haha Elaine..always firing those shots… but where is the lie, though I agree. Intbrowser, that’s not going to work for the aforementioned reasons and it’s more of that black/white , false dilemma stuff you’re on. ‘ So since acting desperate didn’t work, I’ll try cutting our conversations short and acting disinterested’ How about balance and some real effort into making yourself a more romantically desirable human being? Can’t be all that surprised she didn’t ask a guy who couldn’t even muster a more creative response than “nice” to go out and buy him dinner? Like Elaine said, if you have women throwing themselves at you already, only maybe could you pull that off. Edited July 3, 2021 by Cookiesandough 3
smackie9 Posted July 3, 2021 Posted July 3, 2021 (edited) Should have invited her for a steak dinner at that lovely steakhouse. She probably would have paid for your dinner and most likely you would have gotten laid....oh well you can't win them all. Edited July 3, 2021 by smackie9 3
Lotsgoingon Posted July 4, 2021 Posted July 4, 2021 I'm sorry dude: you don't understand the way dating works. If you're interested and you want her to know you're interested, you contact her no matter what soon afterwards. A week of silence is a sign of disinterest. She wrote you off when you disappeared. A birthday should not interfere with dating. You can text. You can call. If you're interested, you take 15 minutes to contact her and let her know you're looking forward to seeing her and maybe sharing some of what you're doing now. A week of silence = not interested. That's the rule, bro. You communicated you were not interested. She had pushed you out of her mind so when you called, you were long dismissed. And why didn't you invite her to meet you? If you were so close to her? 3
Gaeta Posted July 4, 2021 Posted July 4, 2021 As long as you don't get under control your gambling addiction you won't have a girlfriend. I am thinking here you were so into your gambling you had no thought for her 'at all' during that week. The other part about expecting her to treat you for your birthday is childish, you're not 12 anymore, c'mon! You turned 40 right? It's time to get the life of a 40 year old man, you need your drivers license, you need a car, you need to stop making gambling your priority. I say that in all respect Intbrower, I like you, I think your heart is in the right place and you really do want to meet the right lady but it won't happen until you get a good look at what you have to offer. 3
Lotsgoingon Posted July 4, 2021 Posted July 4, 2021 She was not supposed to treat for your birthday--because she doesn't know you. We treat great friends for their birthdays. I mean I only treat my closest friends for their birthdays. Treating someone after one date--no ... ain't gonna happen. Should not happen. 1
Miss Spider Posted July 4, 2021 Posted July 4, 2021 Don’t forget about “I don’t need a car because chicks find it more romantic to walk” 3 1
ExpatInItaly Posted July 5, 2021 Posted July 5, 2021 On 7/4/2021 at 9:43 PM, Cookiesandough said: Don’t forget about “I don’t need a car because chicks find it more romantic to walk” And also taxis. Taking taxis is romantic too. 1 1
Author IntBrowser Posted July 5, 2021 Author Posted July 5, 2021 On 7/3/2021 at 8:20 PM, Lotsgoingon said: I'm sorry dude: you don't understand the way dating works. If you're interested and you want her to know you're interested, you contact her no matter what soon afterwards. A week of silence is a sign of disinterest. She wrote you off when you disappeared. A birthday should not interfere with dating. You can text. You can call. If you're interested, you take 15 minutes to contact her and let her know you're looking forward to seeing her and maybe sharing some of what you're doing now. A week of silence = not interested. That's the rule, bro. You communicated you were not interested. She had pushed you out of her mind so when you called, you were long dismissed. And why didn't you invite her to meet you? If you were so close to her? because im shy and when her text mentioned nothing about sunday I just answered her question which was................"Did you enjoy the steakhouse"
Author IntBrowser Posted July 5, 2021 Author Posted July 5, 2021 On 7/4/2021 at 10:02 AM, Gaeta said: As long as you don't get under control your gambling addiction you won't have a girlfriend. I am thinking here you were so into your gambling you had no thought for her 'at all' during that week. The other part about expecting her to treat you for your birthday is childish, you're not 12 anymore, c'mon! You turned 40 right? It's time to get the life of a 40 year old man, you need your drivers license, you need a car, you need to stop making gambling your priority. I say that in all respect Intbrower, I like you, I think your heart is in the right place and you really do want to meet the right lady but it won't happen until you get a good look at what you have to offer. well it was a gambling type of vacation 1 1
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