ejcropp Posted July 1, 2021 Posted July 1, 2021 You meet a woman online and shortly after you start dating she wants to invite you to her place for dinner, but she tells you that she'd prefer to pick you up (the drive is 30 minutes between homes) because she lives in a small community and everyone talks. A couple of days later she tells you that she dated one of her neighbors which is the real reason that she didn't want your car in the driveway before she gave him a heads up. Two days later she tells you that she told him that she's dating someone new and he took it well, but she still let him keep a keep to her house because she travels frequently and in the event a service provider needs access, he can let them in. They were friends first, then during COVID they started a casual relationship but it didn't work out, but they remain friends. What's your feelings on this?
basil67 Posted July 1, 2021 Posted July 1, 2021 20 minutes ago, ejcropp said: They were friends first, then during COVID they started a casual relationship but it didn't work out, but they remain friends. What's your feelings on this? Are you talking about her relationship with her neighbour here, or her relationship with you? If you're talking about the neighbour, then it looks to me like she's moving forward with you.
Author ejcropp Posted July 1, 2021 Author Posted July 1, 2021 The questions should be, (1) what the relationship over with the neighbor before I started dating her, and (2) do you think that her and the neighbors still have feeling for each other?
Miss Spider Posted July 1, 2021 Posted July 1, 2021 She’s probably two timing you/the neighbor. That’s my thought 1
FMW Posted July 2, 2021 Posted July 2, 2021 If you don't have a good feeling about things, pay attention to that. I think starting off by hiding you from him was a sketchy move. 1
Author ejcropp Posted July 2, 2021 Author Posted July 2, 2021 (edited) By hiding him it made me feel like they still had a friends with benefits relationship and when I questions her about it she gets offended. Edited July 2, 2021 by ejcropp
Ami1uwant Posted July 2, 2021 Posted July 2, 2021 42 minutes ago, ejcropp said: The questions should be, (1) what the relationship over with the neighbor before I started dating her, and (2) do you think that her and the neighbors still have feeling for each other? 42 minutes ago, ejcropp said: The questions should be, (1) what the relationship over with the neighbor before I started dating her, and (2) do you think that her and the neighbors still have feeling for each other? people can be friends and have sex. in knowing person they realize there are major differences in them in important areas where a relationship doesn’t work, or with them being neighbors they’d rather not risk a relationship over a friendships. Romantic feelings might not be there by one. so e important issues in a relationship are dealbreakers in a relationship but nota friendship—- wanting kids, religion, food diet like vegan vs meat eater, one lives dogs and the other is allergic to them, they have differences in living style like messy vs near or early riser vs night owl.
Wiseman2 Posted July 2, 2021 Posted July 2, 2021 8 hours ago, ejcropp said: she tells you that she dated one of her neighbors which is the real reason that she didn't want your car in the driveway They're still FWB. If you want to be casual with her, sure. But use condoms because her driveway may be a busy place. Remember, the neighbor has the keys so don't get caught with your pants down. 1
Highndry Posted July 2, 2021 Posted July 2, 2021 She's still banging the neighbor. She gets around. If you're looking for a keeper, she's a throwback.
ExpatInItaly Posted July 2, 2021 Posted July 2, 2021 8 hours ago, ejcropp said: A couple of days later she tells you that she dated one of her neighbors which is the real reason that she didn't want your car in the driveway before she gave him a heads up. Two days later she tells you that she told him that she's dating someone new This sounds they were involved quite recently. It would not sit well with me that she tried to hide a new guy in her life from him. I would pass. They're still too up in each other's business and she is not exactly an honest person.
smackie9 Posted July 2, 2021 Posted July 2, 2021 (edited) Me personally wouldn't date someone that's been casually banging their neighbor. The big red flags are a) not able to pick her up, big secret. b) he has a key to her place. c) She got defensive about it. That's projecting guilt IMO. Anyone would question this, and of course a genuine person would properly discuss it like an adult. She is shady as $%^& This is more about your perception of her and her behavior. how does it make you really feel? Does it feel right? Edited July 2, 2021 by smackie9
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