Miss Spider Posted July 1, 2021 Share Posted July 1, 2021 (edited) H*ll yea girl … always good to feel you still got it. Cliffs: You do. And I agree with you completely. Why would someone wait week(s) for someone to contact in this day and age and be like “ooohh yay. When can we go out.” Reminds me of that quote: “ I like my man allll over me, alllll in me, and allll about me” That’s it. Also if some guy holds up his chalice and says “send her over” be like no, you get your B*ch*ss over here , this ain’t ubereats haha Edited July 1, 2021 by Cookiesandough 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dis Posted July 1, 2021 Author Share Posted July 1, 2021 2 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said: H*ll yea girl … always good to feel you still got it. Cliffs: You do. And I agree with you completely. Why would someone wait week(s) for someone to contact in this day and age and be like “ooohh yay. When can we go out.” Reminds me of that quote: “ I like my man allll over me, alllll in me, and allll about me” That’s it. Also if some guy holds up his chalice and says “send her over” be like no, you get your B*ch*ss over here , this ain’t ubereats. 🤣☺️😆 Sir, get off your fat a** and come see this gem I joined tinder for fun...not really expecting anything but the 99+ likes I got within 3 minutes of uploading one picture sure did make me feel pretty good. How you like me now King Henry the 8th in his fat years? I just want to have fun and go where the wind takes me....no time clock for me. I hope I don't get hate for that...it was a joke! 🤣 2 Link to post Share on other sites
jspice Posted July 1, 2021 Share Posted July 1, 2021 6 minutes ago, Dis said: 🤣☺️😆 Sir, get off your fat a** and come see this gem I joined tinder for fun...not really expecting anything but the 99+ likes I got within 3 minutes of uploading one picture sure did make me feel pretty good. How you like me now King Henry the 8th in his fat years? I just want to have fun and go where the wind takes me....no time clock for me. I hope I don't get hate for that...it was a joke! 🤣 You had to go for the obvious fat “joke” huh? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dis Posted July 1, 2021 Author Share Posted July 1, 2021 2 minutes ago, jspice said: You had to go for the obvious fat “joke” huh? And you had to ruin it, huh? Ahhhh here it comes Link to post Share on other sites
jspice Posted July 1, 2021 Share Posted July 1, 2021 5 minutes ago, Dis said: And you had to ruin it, huh? Ahhhh here it comes Yep Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dis Posted July 1, 2021 Author Share Posted July 1, 2021 (edited) 2 minutes ago, jspice said: Yep Thanks bruh! I actually think pudgy guys are cute and prefer them to shredded guys...but did have to get that one in there 😄 Edited July 1, 2021 by Dis 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted July 2, 2021 Share Posted July 2, 2021 Yep, 'dad bod' is a thing ❤️ Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dis Posted July 2, 2021 Author Share Posted July 2, 2021 3 minutes ago, basil67 said: Yep, 'dad bod' is a thing ❤️ It really is 😍 Link to post Share on other sites
CollinW Posted July 2, 2021 Share Posted July 2, 2021 On 6/28/2021 at 6:46 PM, Allupinnit said: You have everyone here telling you the same thing, (in most of your threads) yet you blow through the well-meaning advice to your own detriment Are three people married? In fruitful relationships? Happy? Single miserable and entitled people give advice that makes you single, miserable and entitled. I can't be the only person tired of all advice divulging into "hes lovebombing", "make him do all the work" and "he didn't do what he's supposed to do, drop him" 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dis Posted July 2, 2021 Author Share Posted July 2, 2021 Got asked out for Sunday by a man 3 years younger than me 🤣 Never wanted to date younger but he's a cutie and very interested ...and tall 😍 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted July 2, 2021 Share Posted July 2, 2021 Nice… keep us updated !! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CaliforniaGirl Posted July 2, 2021 Share Posted July 2, 2021 1 hour ago, Dis said: Got asked out for Sunday by a man 3 years younger than me 🤣 Never wanted to date younger but he's a cutie and very interested ...and tall 😍 Three years doesn't really mean anything. How exciting! Let us know how it goes!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dis Posted July 2, 2021 Author Share Posted July 2, 2021 39 minutes ago, CaliforniaGirl said: Three years doesn't really mean anything. How exciting! Let us know how it goes!! Thanks because I'm feeling a little iffy about the age thing but all I want to do right now if have fun anyway. He's very chatty, attentive and proactive so far...tattoos too 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Fletch Lives Posted July 2, 2021 Share Posted July 2, 2021 9 hours ago, Alpaca said: Working on the gazebo again in a thunderstorm with metal hand tools? 👱🔨⚡ I'm tryin to cut down 😄 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted July 2, 2021 Share Posted July 2, 2021 47 minutes ago, Dis said: ..tattoos too 😏 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Snow_Queen Posted July 2, 2021 Share Posted July 2, 2021 8 hours ago, Dis said: Got asked out for Sunday by a man 3 years younger than me 🤣 Never wanted to date younger but he's a cutie and very interested ...and tall 😍 3 years isn’t bad at all. My husband is younger than me by a little. Give it a shot…you never know. I’d say it starts to get awkward when they’re 10 years younger or more. You’d be surprised how often that happens. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted July 2, 2021 Share Posted July 2, 2021 6 hours ago, Dis said: Thanks because I'm feeling a little iffy about the age thing but all I want to do right now if have fun anyway. He's very chatty, attentive and proactive so far...tattoos too I was complaining to my daughter that I am receiving a lot of messages from younger men and in my mind a younger man cannot be serious about dating me. She made a good point that younger than me does not mean immature. They are still men in their 40s (I'm 55) with considerable life experience. So I will say the same to you. Forget the number, aim for maturity, connection, qualities you're looking for. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dis Posted July 2, 2021 Author Share Posted July 2, 2021 (edited) 10 hours ago, Gaeta said: I was complaining to my daughter that I am receiving a lot of messages from younger men and in my mind a younger man cannot be serious about dating me. She made a good point that younger than me does not mean immature. They are still men in their 40s (I'm 55) with considerable life experience. So I will say the same to you. Forget the number, aim for maturity, connection, qualities you're looking for. Your thoughts about it are mine too. I'm 35 and I feel like men any younger than 35 might not be where I need them to be in terms of stability, maturity and financial independence. Plus I'm not feeling that confident so I might feel a little insecure going out with a guy 4 years younger than me. I look quite a bit younger than my age and still get carded a lot...always makes me feel good when that happens 🤣 But still feeling a little self conscious about it. He's not really my type either. He has a younger vibe about him. A friend of mine said he seems feminine lol. I like big burly guys and that he is not. But he is cute. If the date falls through which it might because it is OLD after all, I won't be too bummed. But....in regards to what your daughter said, he seems very communicative, sweet, proactive, intelligent and has a good job which is more than I can say for some men in their early 40s. So she has a point there. I don't think it's a wise idea to judge a person's maturity by their age but it's hard not to sometimes. Edited July 3, 2021 by Dis 1 Link to post Share on other sites
hippychick3 Posted July 3, 2021 Share Posted July 3, 2021 I met my now husband when he was 33 and I was 43. He was way younger than what I was looking for, and I was hesitant to go out with him. But we had a wonderful connection and chemistry. And he was a good person and financially stable. At our age, up to a 10 year difference can be insignificant with the right person. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dis Posted July 3, 2021 Author Share Posted July 3, 2021 49 minutes ago, hippychick3 said: I met my now husband when he was 33 and I was 43. He was way younger than what I was looking for, and I was hesitant to go out with him. But we had a wonderful connection and chemistry. And he was a good person and financially stable. At our age, up to a 10 year difference can be insignificant with the right person. Oh wow that's quite an age difference! I'm happy to hear it works so well for you guys! And you recently got married right? Congrats!!!! 💖 I might be moving on to a more settled suitor. We all know how fleeting OLD is. I forgot how things can change so quickly! Filling my rotational suitors now 🤣 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Weezy1973 Posted July 3, 2021 Share Posted July 3, 2021 13 hours ago, Dis said: We all know how fleeting OLD is. I forgot how things can change so quickly! Yup - this is one of the keys to OLD successfully. And why multi dating in the early stages is a good idea, even if it doesn’t come naturally. Most people won’t be a match so getting hung up on any stranger, whether it be meeting in a bar or through OLD, is a waste of time and more importantly, a waste of emotional energy which can lead to burnout… Link to post Share on other sites
poppyfields Posted July 3, 2021 Share Posted July 3, 2021 (edited) I dont claim to have all the answers, but I think it's important that we (women and men) NOT come across as 'desperate'. Desperate for attention, to feel good about yourself, to find a boyfriend/girlfriend, to fill a void or alleviate loneliness. Others can smell desperation no matter how hard we try to disguise it and it's a huge attraction killer. I think eye contact is great! The eyes speak so much about us. Extended eye contact, seductive eye contact. Look away for a moment, then back again, it's seductive and intriguing and fosters attraction. That's what the new guy I've been seeing and I did. Had he waved me over, that would have put a knife through the entire process, ugh. I would NOT have complied, would have had no desire to. Done. Instead, we 'eye fukked' and then we all left. A couple of the girls knew a couple of the guys (legal field) and we all left. I wasn't paying much attention to my guy anymore at that point. My attitude was that of 'abundance' and confidence (even though that's not 100% how I feel) but pulled it off anyway. I'm NOT looking for a 'boyfriend.' That's actually the last thing I want OR need right now. He sensed all that (he has since admitted that to me) and found it intriguing and mysterious. He wanted to meet me! So he approached me during our walk and that's how it started (see my previous thread). What's happening these days imo is people have lost the 'art of seduction' and it's throwing things off. Women essentially throwing themselves at men, I've seen it! Even now when we're out, women have no shame about overtly flirting with my new guy. I'm not referring to you Dis, I dont think you did that but in HIS eyes (and please dont take offense) he may have viewed your actions as desperate, which did not foster attraction no matter how beautiful you are on the outside (which you are!). Yeah it's 2021, no reason why women can't initiate and pursue but no matter how loud we scream about things being equal, when it comes to seduction, chemistry and attraction, a natural feminine/masculine polarity between a man and a woman, not much has changed over the years and don't think it ever will. Women give windows, a subtle green light, and interested men will jump all over that! JMO guys, from experience mostly. Best of luck to everyone and have a great summer! 😄 Edited July 3, 2021 by poppyfields 2 Link to post Share on other sites
hippychick3 Posted July 3, 2021 Share Posted July 3, 2021 16 hours ago, Dis said: Oh wow that's quite an age difference! I'm happy to hear it works so well for you guys! And you recently got married right? Congrats!!!! 💖 Thank you, Dis! ❤️ We definitely had the odds against us not only with the age difference but being long distance for 7 years. But we made it work and are now happily married living together and loving all these non-traveling weekends.😁 So there’s hope for everyone when it’s the right person! 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dis Posted July 5, 2021 Author Share Posted July 5, 2021 Had a date tonight with a different guy A few hours before the date he asked me if my birthday pics were recent and I thought he was asking to gauge if I looked the same lol and I told him yes they were taken a few days ago. He showed up to the date with a birthday gift bag of chocolates. I was a little put off my that but it was still cute 😄 Right away though I knew I wasn't super attracted to him because he was a little on the skinny side and 5'9 which would be fine if he had some meat to him...which he didn't. But he was still cute and appropriately complimentary and once we got further into the date he said he was blown away when he first say me walk through the door. That I had the prettiest eyes and I looked beautiful. As @Gaeta was saying sometimes we lose our confidence and just need to get it back...well, that did it for me. He said I looked just like my pics...I strive for that. I want to represent myself accurately. Felt really good. He asked me what I was doing tomorrow and if I wanted to hang out which we all know you shouldn't do on the date so I said sure because I was put on the spot. The convo was nice but he did mention he has a kid so that's an automatic no for me and should be based on my last experience. He paid for the drinks and apps even tough I really tried to because I knew he wasn't it for me. He walked me out to my car and I knew I didn't want to kiss him but he was quick and went in for a little kiss. He texted me right after the date. Now have to break the news to him. But all in all I'm really glad I went. I feel like I got that confidence back and feel like I'm in my dating zone again which I actually really like to be in. 💖☺️ 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted July 5, 2021 Share Posted July 5, 2021 @Dis there you go!! get started girl ! I've met #9 last night, you got some catching up to do 😉 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts