Am I crazy to think this?

[Britney25]

5 minutes ago, stillafool said:

I don't think he used you because you said yourself you were having fun, loved the teddy bears, dinners and you also went on and on about how great the sex was.  As a matter of fact that was the only thing I remember reading that you said you were going to miss about him.  So again, it was a lovely fling.

I meant he used me for sex only most likely,  his heart maybe wasnt there. I was very invested in him. Didnt see it as a fling and that's where I went wrong. Kept talking about how beautiful our babies would be, that I'm amazing, that I'm this and that.  

Well I will miss the cuddles, how he cared for me..I will miss his presence. 

Edited July 16, 2021 by Britney25

[Wiseman2]

16 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

 I wanted to be sure about us, plus now would be the time to introduce you to my parents the 4 -5 months.

This indicates you were tentative, not invested.^^

2 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

I was very invested in him.

[Pumpernickel]

2 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

This indicates you were tentative, not invested.^^

Not true. Many people would argue that a few months of dating are too short to meet the parents. This usually happens later in a relationship. She said it herself - she wanted to be sure. It’s not her fault, and this didn’t cause his lack of interest or the breakup. 

[Avatine]

Manipulating you for a distraction, an ego boost. People are responding to you on here as if you were in a relationship. You didnt know him and he didnt know you. It's very likely that he was playing a role. You had fun with him, and you can use it as jumping off point and practice for a real relationship. I dont think I'll be able to comment more because all the ads on here bother me. Have a good life, Britney

[stillafool]

22 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

Yes of course I understand that but after he said ok I feel much better and now look he broke it off anyway telling me a different reason why that he has feelings for the ex. So like you said if he was really in love with me that shouldn't have mattered . He didnt fight for me. He said he has feelings for his ex.

Chances are if he was truly falling in love with you he would have been falling out of love with his ex and would have fought for you.  But if he were falling in love with you none of the other stuff would have even happened.

[Britney25]

5 minutes ago, Pumpernickel said:

Not true. Many people would argue that a few months of dating are too short to meet the parents. This usually happens later in a relationship. She said it herself - she wanted to be sure. It’s not her fault, and this didn’t cause his lack of interest or the breakup. 

Thank you 

[stillafool]

4 minutes ago, Avatine said:

I dont think I'll be able to comment more because all the ads on here bother me. 

It is getting a bit ridiculous with these ads.

[Britney25]

12 minutes ago, stillafool said:

Chances are if he was truly falling in love with you he would have been falling out of love with his ex and would have fought for you.  But if he were falling in love with you none of the other stuff would have even happened.

Do you think that's all his intentions were. To have a fling? 

[Pumpernickel]

7 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

 

Edited July 16, 2021 by Pumpernickel

[stillafool]

12 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

Do you think that's all his intentions were. To have a fling? 

I have no idea what his intentions were.

[Britney25]

1 minute ago, stillafool said:

I have no idea what his intentions were.

Ok sorry

[Britney25]

7 minutes ago, Pumpernickel said:

 

I dont see the comment sorry

[Pumpernickel]

I personally don’t think that he was maliciously taking advantage of her. I think he invested quite a bit which means he believed what he said and what he did, but something happened in the meantime that we don’t know anything about and that changed his whole perception

[Pumpernickel]

Just now, Britney25 said:

I dont see the comment sorry

Sorry - glitch - I commented below 

[stillafool]

Just now, Britney25 said:

Ok sorry

No need to be sorry about asking a question.

[Britney25]

1 minute ago, Pumpernickel said:

I personally don’t think that he was maliciously taking advantage of her. I think he invested quite a bit which means he believed what he said and what he did, but something happened in the meantime that we don’t know anything about and that changed his whole perception

Could be as well..so what do you think might of been the reason? I'm just curious. 

[stillafool]

2 minutes ago, Pumpernickel said:

I personally don’t think that he was maliciously taking advantage of her. I think he invested quite a bit which means he believed what he said and what he did, but something happened in the meantime that we don’t know anything about and that changed his whole perception

Yes and it seemed to happen on that trip and that was when he started pulling back.  I think it was either his ex or another woman. (Or both)

Edited July 16, 2021 by stillafool

[Wiseman2]

12 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

Do you think that's all his intentions were. To have a fling? 

No. He's been married before so he's not adverse to commitment.

He just didn't want to go further due to incompatibility

No he was not ok with someone keeping him at arms length. You live 10 min. away and would never invite him over.

He may have said fine but that behavior was registered, including getting your mother on the phone.

Either you're serious or you're not and you were not serious enough to even introduce him.

You kept yourself/your life a secret and that's a huge turn off. That is something you can learn for the future.

Either go on flings or get serious. Up to you.

[Pumpernickel]

Just now, Britney25 said:

Could be as well..so what do you think might of been the reason? I'm just curious. 

Like many have said before, there must’ve been another woman involved. And while many believe him that it’s the ex, I am more of the opinion that it’s somebody else altogether. Maybe he was multi-dating. I mean that’s pretty common. I’m not saying that I’m right, just a gut feeling

[Britney25]

3 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

No. He's been married before so he's not adverse to commitment.

He just didn't want to go further due to incompatibility

No he was not ok with someone keeping him at arms length. You live 10 min. away and would never invite him over.

He may have said fine but that behavior was registered, including getting your mother on the phone.

Either you're serious or you're not and you were not serious enough to even introduce him.

You kept yourself/your life a secret and that's a huge turn off. That is something you can learn for the future.

Either go on flings or get serious. Up to you.

That cant be it. He even told me he doesnt want to end it and if he really loved me that wouldnt be a reason to break up. He didnt even tell me that over the phone.  He said he has feelings for an ex. So he could've told me it's because of this reason as well. 

[Wiseman2]

3 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

That cant be it. He even told me he doesnt want to end it and if he really loved me that wouldnt be a reason to break up. He didnt even tell me that over the phone.  He said he has feelings for an ex. So he could've told me it's because of this reason as well. 

Ok but next time don't ban men from your house if you don't want them to think "screw this" and suddenly their ex starts looking better in comparison.

[Britney25]

9 minutes ago, Pumpernickel said:

Like many have said before, there must’ve been another woman involved. And while many believe him that it’s the ex, I am more of the opinion that it’s somebody else altogether. Maybe he was multi-dating. I mean that’s pretty common. I’m not saying that I’m right, just a gut feeling

So he had a fling with me while looking for someone else? Wow

[Britney25]

Just now, Wiseman2 said:

Ok but next time don't ban men from your house if you don't want them to think "screw this" and suddenly their ex starts looking better in comparison.

Omg that makes me feel very sad. I am guilty ? But if he loved me he would of waited. NOT LEFT ME. Anyone else agree? 

[Britney25]

50 minutes ago, Pumpernickel said:

Not true. Many people would argue that a few months of dating are too short to meet the parents. This usually happens later in a relationship. She said it herself - she wanted to be sure. It’s not her fault, and this didn’t cause his lack of interest or the breakup. 

@Wiseman2 says that's the reason he dumped me. I mean if he loved me he wouldnt have dumped me over a simple thing like this. He didnt even tell me that was the reason. He spoke with my Mom and told me he felt better, you are amazing. So why lie? I just dont believe that was the reason. 

[Pumpernickel]

3 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Ok but next time don't ban men from your house if you don't want them to think "screw this" and suddenly their ex starts looking better in comparison.

Please. I don’t know much, but I’m convinced that that’s not the reason. If a guy’s really attracted to a woman there’s not much that will hold him back. It’s always an attraction issue. For him, the attraction got lost somewhere along the way, likely because there was another woman involved. It’s really that simple. If Britney had him invited to his home, and there was another woman he was more attracted to, and that woman didn’t invite him to his home, he would still pick the other woman. Attraction. Boom. Done