Am I crazy to think this?

[Wiseman2]

1 minute ago, poppyfields said:

If he was in bed, he wasn't sleeping.

Agree. It seems he's moved on and that shift started about the time of his business trip.

[Britney25]

9 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

Hi Brit, if me, I'd tell him there is nothing to talk about, you've said your piece, we're done, wish you the best, bye.

I mean why "talk"?  So he can end it "properly"?

In your mind, it should be done, period.

You spoke up, expressed your disappointment, that should be that.

NEXT.

Might be considered harsh, but the way this entire thing has gone down, it's bullshyt.

He was sleeping?  Ha.

If he was in bed, he wasn't sleeping.

No more Miss Nice Girl! 

You need to toughen up some Brit, otherwise you're gonna get eaten alive out there!!

You can still be soft and feminine, with the right men, men who treat you with kindness and respect.  

Not guys like him.

JMO, what I would do in your shoes.

 

Why talk? Because he suggested to . If he doesnt want to talk then I will explode on his ass. 

[Tinyjaguar]

Does he know that he is dumped yet?

I only ask because that is probably a good reason (in his mind) for him to avoid you.

Edited July 13, 2021 by Tinyjaguar

[Gaeta]

19 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

If he does that I'm going to call him

He's not going to pick up. 

Britney, why do you want to talk to him again? You told him how  his behavior made you feel. You still need to let it out at him? If yes, then realize you'll feel the way you do for a while. You will go from feeling anger, disappointment, sadness, and it will be impossible to call him each time you feel angered. Each week you'll remember something new to be mad about. You need to deal with this on your own from now on. 

What could he possibly say to you that would make it ok to go on with him?

Edited July 13, 2021 by Gaeta

[Wiseman2]

3 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

If he doesnt want to talk then I will explode on his ass. 

Maybe this is why he tried the slow fade with lots of sugar coating?

[Amanda92]

9 minutes ago, Tinyjaguar said:

Does he know that he is dumped yet?

I only ask because that is probably a good reason (in his mind) for him to avoid you.

She didn't dump him. He doesn't initiate any meetings for weeks and then just ghosted.

[Tinyjaguar]

Just now, Amanda92 said:

She didn't dump him. He doesn't initiate any meetings for weeks and then just ghosted.

OK, I'll rephrase, is it possible that he thinks he's dumped?

[JRabbit]

2 hours ago, Britney25 said:

Yes! Thats what I want!! It hurts me more hes silent.

You realize he doesn't hold all the decision making cards right?

You can end it yourself. Right now, by blocking him.

Even if he wanted to make things work, in another few weeks you will be back to this. Is this what you want from a man? A man you have to sit around and wait and hope he gives you one crumb of attention?

You deserve so much more.

[Britney25]

17 minutes ago, Tinyjaguar said:

Does he know that he is dumped yet?

I only ask because that is probably a good reason (in his mind) for him to avoid you.

I didnt tell him yet.

[Britney25]

14 minutes ago, Amanda92 said:

She didn't dump him. He doesn't initiate any meetings for weeks and then just ghosted.

No not weeks!! 

[Britney25]

8 minutes ago, JRabbit said:

You realize he doesn't hold all the decision making cards right?

You can end it yourself. Right now, by blocking him.

Even if he wanted to make things work, in another few weeks you will be back to this. Is this what you want from a man? A man you have to sit around and wait and hope he gives you one crumb of attention?

You deserve so much more.

That's not what I want. I'm done with him but I still want to talk if he suggested it.

[Amanda92]

7 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

I didnt tell him yet.

He's actually dumped you already... and you still are waiting for him and let him decide.

[Britney25]

17 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

He's not going to pick up. 

Britney, why do you want to talk to him again? You told him how  his behavior made you feel. You still need to let it out at him? If yes, then realize you'll feel the way you do for a while. You will go from feeling anger, disappointment, sadness, and it will be impossible to call him each time you feel angered. Each week you'll remember something new to be mad about. You need to deal with this on your own from now on. 

What could he possibly say to you that would make it ok to go on with him?

Well then why did he say I would like to talk to you? He didnt have to say that correct? He's not giving me a time yet. If he wont give me a time then I will tell him this is ridiculous BS I'm done.

[Britney25]

1 minute ago, Amanda92 said:

He's actually dumped you already... and you still are waiting for him and let him decide.

He said I want to talk to you? Is that being dumped?

[Gaeta]

1 minute ago, Britney25 said:

That's not what I want. I'm done with him but I still want to talk if he suggested it.

Talk about what? That his feelings changed? What will that accomplish?

[Gaeta]

2 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

He said I want to talk to you? 

Britney, lately he said many things to you that he did not follow through with, he may not follow through this one either.

[Britney25]

3 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

Talk about what? That his feelings changed? What will that accomplish?

Well explain to me why he said he would like to talk with me? Is that BS as well?!!

[Amanda92]

10 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

He said I want to talk to you? Is that being dumped?

He doesn't want to see you for one week. He doesn't care about you. You behave needy. Someone treat you bad and you instead of walk away, push more and more because you can't understand that he doesn't want you anymore.

I know it hurts, but you need to work on your confidence and start loving yourself. Don't ask people to respect you. Just set boundaries and walk away if they don't respect you. Care about yourself.

[introverted1]

31 minutes ago, Tinyjaguar said:

Does he know that he is dumped yet?

He's the dumper, not the dumpee.

[Gaeta]

4 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

Well explain to me why he said he would like to talk with me? Is that BS as well?!!

I only want you to be realistic. He said things to you and did not follow through. Now he says he'll call you, but by tonight he may change his mind and not do it. 

[Gaeta]

Britney l'm so sorry you're feeling attacked. 

Let's all remember breakups are hard and we ALL have been where Britney is right now. 

I wish l could give you a big hug right now!! 

[Pumpernickel]

@Britney25    Totally not your fault. I also don't think you've been acting weird or needy towards him. 
Let's see what happens later today. I am glad you're not expecting anything delusional, like an apology or anything. And I hope a conversation will give you some closure, even if we know that should come from within, but sometimes we just need a little additional help ......

You have my support.

Edited July 13, 2021 by Pumpernickel

[Tinyjaguar]

Is she dumped? Have they split up yet? We are all jumping to conclusions and making Britney's feelings on the matter worse. Dumped or not, Britney deserves an explanation and, with a bit of luck, she will get one. It may be genuine or complete bs but that is Britney's perogative to decide.

[Tinyjaguar]

And, for what it's worth, Britney, is easy to feel attacked on here. Unfortunately, many posts come across that way because the sender doesn't realise that the tone of how the post is read is set by the reader, not the poster.

[Pumpernickel]

1 minute ago, Tinyjaguar said:

Is she dumped? Have they split up yet? We are all jumping to conclusions and making Britney's feelings on the matter worse. Dumped or not, Britney deserves an explanation and, with a bit of luck, she will get one. It may be genuine or complete bs but that is Britney's perogative to decide.

I agree. Some people in this thread just love repeating over and over again that he doesn't care about her, doesn't love her, doesn't do this doesn't do that...... She already knows that. Just read the thread already, people.

And while I don't think a 4-month thing is necessarily a relationship (I would consider it an test run, TBH, but that's just me), there has been something between them that she (and maybe he) believed in...... So why repeat the same negative notions over and over? It's not helpful