Am I crazy to think this?

[elaine567]

On 6/27/2021 at 11:00 PM, Britney25 said:

Well I have been the one asking to meet mostly the last 3 weeks. He just asked to meet Monday. Past week and a half doesnt even ask me hows my day anymore. Now doesnt seem to have a day when were going to meet. It just feels different. Today he didnt even text good morning, I texted him.

This^^^ plus the meeting with "a friend" on a significant  day like the Fourth of July is at best taking you for granted and at worst he is doing a slow fade.
I don't think you would be doing wrong by throwing this fish back into the water...

[Britney25]

5 hours ago, Tinyjaguar said:

Just remember, at 36 year old, you need to be in charge of your own destiny.

He texted good morning today and nothing else again. 

[Britney25]

8 hours ago, IslandSanctuary said:

He texts you everyday. The constant expectation for messages is a buzzkill for me. Imagine dating in the 80's. must have been so much better 

He does text everyday, not that I told him to. He just does it himself.

[Britney25]

1 hour ago, elaine567 said:

This^^^ plus the meeting with "a friend" on a significant  day like the Fourth of July is at best taking you for granted and at worst he is doing a slow fade.
I don't think you would be doing wrong by throwing this fish back into the 

Yeah..he texted good morning and nothing else

[ExpatInItaly]

2 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

He texted good morning today and nothing else again. 

And what are you going to do now?

[Britney25]

3 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said:

And what are you going to do now?

I texted him to meet....waiting on reply 

[ExpatInItaly]

1 minute ago, Britney25 said:

I texted him to meet....waiting on reply 

Ok, good. 

I think that was a productive move. See how he responds. 

[Britney25]

8 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

Your communication seems like chitchat and that's fine. 

But why go in circles over all this? Because he had other plans?

Because I never know when I'm seeing him next. He texts everyday but no plans. Sometimes always texts me thinking of you or miss you but no action unless I ask to meet. 

[Britney25]

6 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said:

Ok, good. 

I think that was a productive move. See how he responds. 

He just said sure..

[Wiseman2]

17 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

Yeah..he texted good morning and nothing else

Ok you keep mentioning this. But you also mention he does that every day. So is that good or bad?

19 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

He texted good morning today and nothing else again. 

 

 

Edited July 5, 2021 by Wiseman2

[stillafool]

2 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

He just said sure..

Are you going to text him back with a time and place?

[ExpatInItaly]

3 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

He just said sure..

Why not call him and have an actual live conversation? 

That way you can finally put this to bed. Set up a time and day, or not. He seems to be fading on you and it doesn't make a lot of sense to continue these text-games. 

Edited July 5, 2021 by ExpatInItaly

[Britney25]

1 minute ago, ExpatInItaly said:

Why not call him and have an actual live conversation? 

That way you can finally put this to bed. Set up a time and day, or not. He seems to be fading on you and it doesn't make a lot of sense to continue these text-games. 

Well I texted him a time and I'm waiting to see what he says. I think this convo is better to have face to face? You dont think?

[Britney25]

3 minutes ago, stillafool said:

Are you going to text him back with a time and place?

I did...waiting to see what he says

[ExpatInItaly]

Just now, Britney25 said:

I think this convo is better to have face to face? You dont think?

Yes, but if he is wishy-washy on meeting, I don't see an alternative. 

See if he agrees to meet up first. 

[Britney25]

12 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Ok you keep mentioning this. But you also mention he does that every day. So is that good or bad?

 

 

I think that's his way off keeping in touch...and I like when he texts me everyday but I dont like that he doesn't ask me out. I dont want a boyfriend who's a pen pal.

[Wiseman2]

7 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

I texted him a time and I'm waiting to see what he says. I think this convo is better to have face to face?

Is his guest still there? It's doubtful he will want "a meeting to talk" (aka confrontation) on a holiday.

What's the hurry? Why shoot yourself in the foot by pushing this "meeting" thing? 

[Britney25]

3 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Is his guest still there? It's doubtful he will want "a meeting to talk" (aka confrontation) on a holiday.

What's the hurry? Why shoot yourself in the foot by pushing this "meeting" thing? 

His friend is not staying with him. He said sure to meeting, I'm now waiting for time confirmation from him.

[Britney25]

4 hours ago, Gaeta said:

@Britney25: Why exactly you 2 don't have a fix dating schedule? Is it because of his work? Does he have irregular work hours? 

Usually at 4 months dating we have a established a fixed dating schedule and we organize our week around that. 

We never talked about an established dating schedule. He works from 9 to 5pm. Weekends hes off. I work the same hours and weekends I'm off as well.

[stillafool]

This guy's pathetic little "good morning" texts are all he's good for it seems.  This is the last day of the holiday and he should have texted " GM I want to spend the day with you, what time is good to pick you up?"  Otherwise he's just an alarm clock.  I can't believe he hasn't gotten back to you by now with a time.  It seems like more bs.  I hope I'm wrong Brit.

[Gaeta]

3 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

We never talked about an established dating schedule. He works from 9 to 5pm. Weekends hes off. I work the same hours and weekends I'm off as well.

So he's not considering this relationship serious. Not the way you consider it. He goes with the flow, sees you when nothing else comes up. 

It is YOUR life as well. You don't have to endure this. 

Talk to him about establishing a routine. People have lives, you can't put everything on hold cause you don't know when he'll bless you with his presence. 

[Britney25]

7 minutes ago, stillafool said:

This guy's pathetic little "good morning" texts are all he's good for it seems.  This is the last day of the holiday and he should have texted " GM I want to spend the day with you, what time is good to pick you up?"  Otherwise he's just an alarm clock.  I can't believe he hasn't gotten back to you by now with a time.  It seems like more bs.  I hope I'm wrong Brit.

Yep still waiting on him to confirm the time. At this point I am ready to dump him but I need to see him in person. 

[Britney25]

3 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

So he's not considering this relationship serious. Not the way you consider it. He goes with the flow, sees you when nothing else comes up. 

It is YOUR life as well. You don't have to endure this. 

Talk to him about establishing a routine. People have lives, you can't put everything on hold cause you don't know when he'll bless you with his presence. 

Yes exactly,  thank you.

Now that I took my rose glasses off I understand how casual he has been treating me lately.  It's really turning me off and I guess he's not what I though he is. We are not a match after all. 

[Britney25]

Still waiting for him to confirm 6pm

[CaliforniaGirl]

12 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

Still waiting for him to confirm 6pm

Do you know what you're going to say when you meet?