Am I crazy to think this?

[Britney25]

3 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said:

It sounds weird to me

I'm sorry I edited the comment. I meant he wasnt lieing. 

[basil67]

@Britney25 I think it's well and truly time that you should question what your own feelings for him were.  Kindly, this early on, you were also infatuated with him.  And also feeling super good because it's great to have someone who we vibe with and who's interested in us.  

If you can get to the point where you recognise that you may not as yet been feeling really true love for him, the memory will be easier to let go.

[Miss Spider]

2 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

I'm sorry I edited the comment. I meant he wasnt lieing. 

I don’t know about that. Did you also speak to his mom on the phone? Why did he speak to yours and not vice versa? I’m just kind of well-versed at this bc I keep guys casual and away from my parents and it all seems familiar. I’ve shown “texts” to them too:.. lol .. on thanksgiving I did that 

Edited July 17, 2021 by Cookiesandough

[basil67]

2 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

Does a Man who is infatuated return to the woman one day?

He was infatuated.  He is no longer infatuated.   So no, he won't return.

[poppyfields]

19 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

We had sex sometimes 12 times a month. He never changed after sex. They say a Mans true feelings come out after sex. He was still into me.

Yeah, my boyfriends were still into me after sex, and I them, they just weren't as crazy with the love bombing afterwards, that's all.

It become more balanced and normal.

I believe prior to sex, it was their hormones driving them for the most part, it got crazy sometimes! 

Not sure what was going on with your ex, I'd have to ask him, only HE knows.

Sex 12 times a month?  Try 7 times a DAY!  Lol

Which was the average with my ex (the one I mentioned) especially on the weekends.

Both in our 20s-early 30s at the time.

 

 

Edited July 17, 2021 by poppyfields

[Miss Spider]

I’ve returned to two of my exes I was infatuated with them stopped. The answer is maybe if he wants sex haha 

Edited July 17, 2021 by Cookiesandough
Two

[Britney25]

2 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said:

I don’t know about that. Did you also speak to his mom on the phone? Why did he speak to yours and not vice versa? I’m just kind of well-versed at this bc I keep guys casual and away from my parents and it all seems familiar. I’ve shown “texts” to them too:.. lol .. on thanksgiving I did that 

Yeah he never suggested that.

[Miss Spider]

I feel this guy and his motivations, but it’s not right to do it to a girl who is really into you .

[Britney25]

2 minutes ago, basil67 said:

He was infatuated.  He is no longer infatuated.   So no, he won't return.

Ok understood. Why did he sent me that I will cherish our time together, you are amazing, if you need anything I'm here as a friend.

[CaliforniaGirl]

1 hour ago, Britney25 said:

He also said that mixing his Gene's and mine what intelligent kids we would have. He was so obsessed with talking about children with me at the beginning. 

This is just weird, Britney.

[Britney25]

Just now, Cookiesandough said:

I feel this guy and his motivations, but it’s not right to do it to a girl who is really into you .

Yes! I was really into him. I know he knew that too! And used that.

[Britney25]

3 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said:

I’ve returned to two of my exes. The answer is maybe if he wants sex haha 

Yeah I get it.

[Miss Spider]

2 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

Yes! I was really into him. I know he knew that too! And used that.

He might come back if he gets thirsty enough. … after he runs out his black book and is hard up one night, he may remember how it was with you… I think that’s why he used the “friend“ line. My advice: do not do it!!! 

Edited July 17, 2021 by Cookiesandough

[Britney25]

4 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

Yeah, my boyfriend's were still into me after sex, and I them, they just weren't as crazy with the love bombing, that's all.

It become more balanced and normal.

I believe prior to sex, it was their hormones driving them for the most part, it got crazy sometimes! 

Not sure what was going on with your ex, I'd have to ask him, only HE knows.

 

 

Yes I know. He was still love bombing me after sex. Its stopped recently the 4rh month.

[Britney25]

1 minute ago, Cookiesandough said:

He might come back if he gets thirsty enough. … after he runs out his black book and is hard up one night, he may remember how it was with you… I think that’s why he use the “friend“ line. My advice: do not do it!!! 

Thanks !

I love your name btw. Cookies and dough

[Miss Spider]

3 minutes ago, CaliforniaGirl said:

This is just weird, Britney.

He played it because he knew it was what she wanted to hear and because of how babies are made lol 

[Miss Spider]

1 minute ago, Britney25 said:

Thanks !

I love your name btw. Cookies and dough

Thank you. I love the name Britney , actually. It’s a hot girl name lol 

[poppyfields]

6 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

Yes I know. He was still love bombing me after sex. Its stopped recently the 4rh month.

Now I'm thinking it might be what cookies suggested, you might learn a lot from her Brit, she was your ex, essentially. Played that game. 

She owns it and is warning you about it, and I give her a lot of credit for that.

Edited July 17, 2021 by poppyfields

[Britney25]

11 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

Yeah, my boyfriends were still into me after sex, and I them, they just weren't as crazy with the love bombing afterwards, that's all.

It become more balanced and normal.

I believe prior to sex, it was their hormones driving them for the most part, it got crazy sometimes! 

Not sure what was going on with your ex, I'd have to ask him, only HE knows.

Sex 12 times a month?  Try 7 times a DAY!  Lol

Which was the average with my ex (the one I mentioned) especially on the weekends.

Both in our 20s-early 30s at the time.

 

 

That probably would be us but we didnt live together lol

[Britney25]

7 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said:

Thank you. I love the name Britney , actually. It’s a hot girl name lol 

Thank you! Yeah I'm learning a lot from you. You can get into his mind

Edited July 17, 2021 by Britney25

[poppyfields]

Early love bombing is not uncommon when infatuated but after sex, things tend to shift, and slow down. 

Like I said, become more balanced and normal, not so crazy.

Your ex continued on, with talk of babies and marriage, it's possible he was simply telling you what he thought you wanted to hear.

But again who knows it doesnt matter, it's over, lesson learned, move forward.

[poppyfields]

8 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

That probably would be us but we didnt live together lol

We weren't living together at the time either, but he would stay with me on the weekends.

We moved in together after around 2.5- 3 years after he bought his condo.

The fact your ex kept most Saturday nights to himself, it does sound a bit off especially since he was talking marriage and babies?

Something isn't jiving Brit, sorry.:)

Edited July 17, 2021 by poppyfields

[Britney25]

1 minute ago, poppyfields said:

We weren't living together at the time either, but he would stay with me on the weekends.

The fact your ex kept most Saturday nights to himself, it does sound a bit off especially since he was talking marriage and babies.

Something isn't jiving.

Yeah didn't think anything of it but now I get it .

[Britney25]

5 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

Early love bombing is not uncommon when infatuated but after sex, things tend to shift, and slow down. 

Like I said, become more balanced and normal, not so crazy.

Your ex continued on, with talk of babies and marriage, it's possible he was simply telling you what he thought you wanted to hear.

But again who knows it doesnt matter, it's over, lesson learned, move forward.

Even while having sex he told me one time let me cum in you multiple times so you can give me what I want (baby) 

[CaliforniaGirl]

Just now, Britney25 said:

Even while having sex he told me one time let me cum in you multiple times so you can give me what I want (baby) 

Enough is enough, you saw red flags literally everywhere, next time listen to those. This was your first big relationship but you know these things for next time.