Am I crazy to think this?

[stillafool]

1 minute ago, Britney25 said:

Yeah he asked me if afternoon or evening works

Evening doesn't work because he's too slick.  He wants to get you in bed.

[Gaeta]

I think what he's doing is giving this a lot of time so when he talks to you you already have processed the conclusion that this is a breakup.  

[Britney25]

1 minute ago, stillafool said:

Evening doesn't work because he's too slick.  He wants to get you in bed.

I think it's going to be a phone call so no hes not trying to get me in bed

[stillafool]

Just now, Britney25 said:

I think it's going to be a phone call so no hes not trying to get me in bed

You have to work don't you?  You won't be home in the afternoon so evening, what else.

[Britney25]

3 minutes ago, stillafool said:

What time tomorrow afternoon?  Lock down a time.

I will lock down an hour dont worry. 

[Britney25]

1 minute ago, stillafool said:

You have to work don't you?  You won't be home in the afternoon so evening, what else.

Yes but I have a lunch break so then we can talk over the phone.

[Britney25]

Just now, Tinyjaguar said:

Do you know his schedule? If he keeps avoiding you, just door step him.

Hes off tomorrow because of his bday today. He's asking me when to talk. I told him afternoon. Let's see if he follows through. 

[stillafool]

3 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

Hes off tomorrow because of his bday today. He's asking me when to talk. I told him afternoon. Let's see if he follows through. 

Good you can do it earlier so you won't be anxious all day waiting.

[Britney25]

1 minute ago, stillafool said:

Good you can do it earlier so you won't be anxious all day waiting.

Yeah I told him 12pm

[stillafool]

6 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

Hes off tomorrow because of his bday today. He's asking me when to talk. I told him afternoon. Let's see if he follows through. 

That means he has plans to stay out late tonight.

[Allupinnit]

This happened to me.  And I felt just as spun out as you, the silence made me crazy and even though deep down I knew, for whatever reason I just HAD to pin him down for an answer which just pushed him further away.  He didn't WANT to have the conversation, he wanted me to get the hint and go away.

Looking back I really wish I had just told him to go eff himself.  You don't need his permission to move on from this shoddy treatment.  You can show him you're better than this, and walk away with some dignity.  

If I were you I'd drop off the face of the earth and let him wonder what ever happened to you.  I'm being serious.  Reacting to him in this way is just confirming (in his mind) that he made the right decision by cowardly ghosting you.

[Allupinnit]

Just caught up.  He's not spending his birthday with you, and now you've agreed upon a time for him to formally dump you tomorrow?  Am I reading this right?

 

OH GIRL NO.  Wash that man out of your hair, he isn't coming back.  I know it hurts like hades but talking with him isn't going to make you feel any better.

He's dreading 12pm tomorrow.

[HadMeOverABarrel]

Hey Britney.

I thought about asking you to challenge yourself to reflect on why you feel the need to tell him off for your feeling disrespected. (It's because you are feeling invalidated.) I was considering if this sort of analysis would pull you back into yourself to help cut you loose from this. I'm not sure you're ready to go there right now. 

Anyhow, I think you should consider reading the book named Why Men Love B*tches by Argov.  It was once one of my favorite books and it's an entertaining read because of the author's sass and humor. I think you might find it an enlightening and enjoyable read. 

Edited July 13, 2021 by HadMeOverABarrel

[Gaeta]

25 minutes ago, clia said:

I actually don't think he lied to you for 4 months.  

For what it's worth Britney25, I also don't think he lied for 4 months. I think what he said he felt them in the moment but feelings change, sometimes for no reasons in particular. It sucks, I know. 

[Wiseman2]

1 hour ago, Britney25 said:

He just replied asking tomorrow afternoon since it's his bday.

Fair enough. But try not to hold your breath for this "talk" .

[Gaeta]

@Britney25: Are you by  yourself? Are your parents back? Have you shared with your mother what is happenning? 

[Britney25]

6 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

For what it's worth Britney25, I also don't think he lied for 4 months. I think what he said he felt them in the moment but feelings change, sometimes for no reasons in particular. It sucks, I know. 

Another woman? Why is she better than me????

[Britney25]

4 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

@Britney25: Are you by  yourself? Are your parents back? Have you shared with your mother what is happenning? 

I did 

[Gaeta]

Just now, Britney25 said:

Another woman? Why is she better than me????

Where did I mentionned another woman?? Slow down!! 

[Britney25]

Just now, Wiseman2 said:

That's exactly what he's been doing with all the  texts, busy schedule. Tiptoeing out, fading etc.

But he was still initiating contact. 

[Gaeta]

Just now, Britney25 said:

I did 

What is your mother suggesting you do? 

[Britney25]

Just now, Gaeta said:

Where did I mentionned another woman?? Slow down!! 

Everyone on here thinks it's another woman. What else could it be????

[Wiseman2]

Just now, Britney25 said:

But he was still initiating contact. 

Exactly. Fading, not "ghosting". 

[Britney25]

Just now, Gaeta said:

What is your mother suggesting you do? 

She has no experience on this. She only ever dated and married my father.  I have no luck with Men.

[Gaeta]

1 minute ago, Britney25 said:

I have no luck with Men.

Awww, you've never followed my threads  I don't have luck with men either. You're not alone.