Am I crazy to think this?

[Alfano]

3 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

I know he's wondering why I'm not getting emotional and texting him to meet, etc..

Or..he isn’t thinking about you at all.

[elaine567]

3 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

So far he didn't check in. I know he's wondering why I'm not getting emotional and texting him to meet, etc..

He said that or are you assuming?

[Britney25]

1 minute ago, elaine567 said:

He said that or are you assuming?

I'm assuming because why keep checkin in? On Thursday he sent me photos of himself exercising. Like why?

[Britney25]

2 minutes ago, Alfano said:

Or..he isn’t thinking about you at all.

So why check in? On Thursday he sent me photos of himself exercising.  Why?

[Britney25]

3 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

He's not checking in. They are not even personalized or conversations. For all you know he forgot to delete you from a group text. He's a jerk, that's why.

It is still texting me sometimes twice a day. Sending me photos of him exercising.  It's not a group text. He cant be that dumb.

[Alfano]

2 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

I'm assuming because why keep checkin in? On Thursday he sent me photos of himself exercising. Like why?

You’re putting waaaay too much thought into what he’s doing and why he might be doing it. 
 

This is really not healthy. 

Edited July 10, 2021 by Alfano

[Britney25]

6 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

That is so contrived and calculated.

If this were me (which it never would cause I'd never allow myself to get into such situation in the first place), I would consider it over, let him fade and go NC.

Silence is best here imo, speaks much louder.

He's not stupid, he knows what's going on, no need to spell it out like he's a child. 

Just be gone...  the end.

 

 

Well at least I got very expensive gifts out of it and a nice vacay. Sex wasn't bad either. I am looking for love thou.

[poppyfields]

4 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

Yes Poppy I'm taking your advice. So far he didn't check in. I know he's wondering why I'm not getting emotional and texting him to meet, etc..

Good, let him wonder.

Right now, focus on what you want, what you need.

Is he right for YOU?  Often times, we focus on "does HE like me"?  "How does HE feel about me"?

Better to ask yourself - is this what I want for myself?  To feel anxious, on pins and needles like this?

No one should have that sort of power over you, if they do, that is a sign it is not the right relationship for you.

[Britney25]

1 minute ago, Alfano said:

You’re putting weigh too much thought into what he’s doing and why he might be doing it. 
 

This is really not healthy. 

You guys are confused by his behavior too. It's just weird. I'm not trying to analyze everything but he did leave me dumbfounded. 

[Wiseman2]

Just now, Britney25 said:

On Thursday he sent me photos of himself exercising. 

More passive aggressive bone head crap. It's almost amusing what a dipstick he's being.  Again, sounds like a group text . 

[Alfano]

Just now, Britney25 said:

Well at least I got very expensive gifts out of it and a nice vacay. Sex wasn't bad either. I am looking for love thou.

This isn’t about him. It’s not about good sex and it’s not about free vacations. 
 

Irs about your extreme anxiety and reactivity and obsession with a guy you’ve only known a few months. 
 

There are serious problems here. 

[Britney25]

1 minute ago, Alfano said:

This isn’t about him. It’s not about good sex and it’s not about free vacations. 
 

Irs about your extreme anxiety and reactivity and obsession with a guy you’ve only known a few months. 
 

There are serious problems here. 

Ok but this forum is to talk about all of this and realize something I didn't see. I'm not calling him and crying. I'm not texting him. I'm thinking this over by myself and on here.

[Alfano]

Ok..?

Not sure of your point. You don’t seem to be cognizant of how dysfunctional your reaction to this guy really is. 
 

That’s my point.

Edited July 10, 2021 by Alfano

[poppyfields]

4 minutes ago, Alfano said:

Ok..?

Not sure of your point. You don’t seem to be cognizant of how dysfunctional your reaction to thus gut really is. 
 

That’s my point.

She's learning though, so let's focus on that.

Brit has made mistakes, she is now becoming aware and hopefully her reactions will be healthier moving forward. 

Edited July 10, 2021 by poppyfields

[Alfano]

Not seeing that. 

[poppyfields]

Just now, Alfano said:

Not seeing that. 

Well, she's not blowing up his phone, becoming overly- emotional, like she used to.

She's calmer and ready to walk away.. and prepared to do things differently next time, like becoming more independent, and developing a life without him or any man

Becoming whole on her own.

It won't happen overnight, but reading her recent posts, that's what I'm seeing...

[Tinyjaguar]

35 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

Well at least I got very expensive gifts out of it and a nice vacay. Sex wasn't bad either. I am looking for love thou.

Have you asked if he is looking for love. May be he just wants a steady, no hassle relationship based on sex and the occasional date. Obviously, that is  not what you are looking for. If you are looking for a relationship with a future, you probably need to look elsewhere. 

Edited July 10, 2021 by Tinyjaguar

[poppyfields]

15 minutes ago, Tinyjaguar said:

Have you asked if he is looking for love. May be he just wants a steady, no hassle relationship based on sex and the occasional date. Obviously, that is  not what you are looking for. If you are looking for a relationship with a future, you probably need to look elsewhere. 

I'm wondering if you've read the thread.

For three months he was the perfect boyfriend, told he was seeking love, marriage and kids...

Talked to Brit about having HIS kids! 

Then he took a trip and everything changed....

Brit has "talked" to him twice, nothing has changed except he is becoming more distant.

They have done enough "talking" more talking will not resolve this.

She needs to go silent imo, and consider it over.

Let him and it fade...

I don't even think a formal "break up" conversation is needed!

IF he wants to talk about something other than inane bull crap to keep her around when he's dry, he knows where to find her.

Then SHE can decide what she wants to do...

JMO!

 

 

Edited July 10, 2021 by poppyfields

[Gaeta]

13 minutes ago, Tinyjaguar said:

 If you are looking for a relationship with a future, you probably need to look elsewhere. 

He said he's looking for a relationship. That doesn't mean he meant it with her.

To me it sounds as if he was infatuated and now it's over. He was speaking about making babies with her, the gifts, the trip,  under 12 weeks dating. 

[stillafool]

1 hour ago, Wiseman2 said:

He's not checking in. They are not even personalized or conversations. For all you know he forgot to delete you from a group text. He's a jerk, that's why.

The way this guy texts Britney, I've often thought it sounded more like a group text he sends out to multiple women every day.  Never any substance.  Just blank statements that can be said to anyone.

[stillafool]

This guy seems like he's already involved in a relationship but has a bachelor pad in town where he fools around on his partner with multiple women.  Just a feeling I get  from the texts he sends and how he's never really available.  He probably tells all the women what he thinks they want to hear until the chase is over and he starts up with someone new.  One thing is for sure Brit needs to put this guy in her rear view mirror as he's waisted enough of her time with nonsense.

[Britney25]

Honestly what a bunch of BS dating, and love is. It's all fake. Everyone is selfish, egotistic, dont know what they want. It's always the Womans fault. Here I am opening myself and what are the odds that it finished before anything started.  I'm done......why should I even try? I'm 36. My clock is ticking. No one is serious. Maybe I'm destined to be alone. To die alone.

[Britney25]

5 minutes ago, stillafool said:

This guy seems like he's already involved in a relationship but has a bachelor pad in town where he fools around on his partner with multiple women.  Just a feeling I get  from the texts he sends and how he's never really available.  He probably tells all the women what he thinks they want to hear until the chase is over and he starts up with someone new.  One thing is for sure Brit needs to put this guy in her rear view mirror as he's waisted enough of her time with nonsense.

I really want to tell him to f*** himself. I really do but I know I have to stay silent.

[Alpacalia]

Just now, Britney25 said:

I really want to tell him to f*** himself. I really do but I know I have to stay silent.

Nooo, don't do that. 

You're going to find someone better, you'll see!

[Britney25]

12 minutes ago, stillafool said:

This guy seems like he's already involved in a relationship but has a bachelor pad in town where he fools around on his partner with multiple women.  Just a feeling I get  from the texts he sends and how he's never really available.  He probably tells all the women what he thinks they want to hear until the chase is over and he starts up with someone new.  One thing is for sure Brit needs to put this guy in her rear view mirror as he's waisted enough of her time with nonsense.

But whenever I wanted to meet with him he never told me no. He always agreed.