norealusername Posted June 27, 2021 Posted June 27, 2021 55 minutes ago, Myasylum said: .. but meanwhile that is why she can't commit to me but maybe somewhere down the road maybe I'll still be there for her. Did she actually say this to you? If so, she was just using you while in limbo with her boyfriend. Dump her and never talk to her again.
Author Myasylum Posted June 27, 2021 Author Posted June 27, 2021 It always amuses me when people seem to make "move on", or "get over it already" or "just find someone else" seem soooo easy. It's not easy. At least for me it's not. 1 1
norealusername Posted June 28, 2021 Posted June 28, 2021 Sorry man, I didn't mean to be insensitive. I know it's not that easy. People do this when they still have an ex floating around. I don't think she treated you too good. She's with you for 2 months and goes right back to the ex. Don't hang around waiting for her. 1
glows Posted June 28, 2021 Posted June 28, 2021 15 minutes ago, Myasylum said: It always amuses me when people seem to make "move on", or "get over it already" or "just find someone else" seem soooo easy. It's not easy. At least for me it's not. There were signs that she was working through some issues earlier. Take this as a good opportunity to screen out non-options. This means identifying individuals who aren't over their exes or have issues they haven't completely dealt with from the past. It's not worth the headache.
CaliforniaGirl Posted June 28, 2021 Posted June 28, 2021 2 hours ago, Myasylum said: She was upset about something. She said I didn't want to hear about it. I kind of got it out of her that her ex has been around and she's mad at him about something... but meanwhile that is why she can't commit to me but maybe somewhere down the road maybe I'll still be there for her. If she's mad at him, I don't know why she's throwing me out the door, but considering maybe that is for the best. All kind of messed up. I hate it when these ex's have this kind of power. This isn't the first time this has happened to me either. Oh, no. I'm sorry. It sounds like she's true by hard to get back with him. She's so upset it showed, she was willing to offer up that her ex is around, "maybe down the road" she can get with you....she's trying to get with him and that's why she's leaving her options open. I know it hurts and I feel horrible for you but your best bet is to say "great, sort it out and down the road you can text me a hey, maybe we can be friends or whatever" and then disappear.
CaliforniaGirl Posted June 28, 2021 Posted June 28, 2021 32 minutes ago, Myasylum said: It always amuses me when people seem to make "move on", or "get over it already" or "just find someone else" seem soooo easy. It's not easy. At least for me it's not. It's not. It's not easy. It's awful, it's painful. But the reality is, your only other choice is to sick around constantly wishing things were different and knowing that she's sleeping with (probably) and wanting someone else...a life that's just ongoing pain as it is.
Author Myasylum Posted June 28, 2021 Author Posted June 28, 2021 Thanks guys! You all have great points. It's odd this all happened to fall in place as I was typing this. And yes there were signs but there was also this hope. Sometimes it seems you feel you have so much invested even though you know better you just have to see where it goes... and now I know. The thing that's hard is... we were a really good couple and she said the sweetest things. I actually believed she meant it till the ex shows up again and seems to trump everything. She even ended the message today with... "Have a good day!" I'm like?? Really? Clearly not thinking about my feelings in all this. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted June 28, 2021 Posted June 28, 2021 4 hours ago, Myasylum said: The thing that's hard is... we were a really good couple and she said the sweetest things. I actually believed she meant it till the ex shows up again and seems to trump everything. She even ended the message today with... "Have a good day!" I'm like?? Really? Clearly not thinking about my feelings in all this. So what did she actually say in this message, OP?
Caauug Posted June 28, 2021 Posted June 28, 2021 9 hours ago, Myasylum said: but meanwhile that is why she can't commit to me but maybe somewhere down the road maybe I'll still be there for her. Nice to know, he is #1 and you are the back up guy when it doesn't work out..... again??? Look up "Alfa Widow"... NEXT!!!! 1
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