5th date, no physical intimacy

[Ami1uwant]

2 hours ago, Gaeta said:

I think you're too slow. You're probably waiting for her to stand there giving you a big green light that she wants to be kissed. If she accepted 5 dates it means she wants to be kissed. Does she accept you hold her hand? Last night I had a date and at some point in the evening, as we were walking,  he reached to hold my hand. I let him cause I liked him, that also gave him an indication I would welcome a kiss. 

that’s something I look for on a first date.  Holding hands gives an indication of giving a basic kiss at the end of a date.

[princessaurora]

I agree with @Gaeta. Hand holding is a nice way to lead into more physical touch. Brush your hand against hers and if she doesn't pull her hand away, gently take it. Then look over and smile at her. If she smiles back at you for an extended period of time, go for the kiss. 

 

[Coasting1991]

Thanks for the advice everyone! Just set up the 6th date, waiting on a day/time confirmation from her. Just gonna go for it  (within reason of course lol) 

[cleverusername]

23 hours ago, SumGuy said:

Oh on walking side  by side there are plenty of ways to get an idea from body language if holding hands will be welcomed.

Totally forgot to ask, could you pass some wisdom on to me? Maybe i'm just weird in regards to the hand holding thing 

[CaliforniaGirl]

20 hours ago, Coasting1991 said:

Thanks for the advice everyone! Just set up the 6th date, waiting on a day/time confirmation from her. Just gonna go for it  (within reason of course lol) 

Good! Honestly, as a woman I would wonder why there wasn't at least a light kiss by the third date at the latest. A light little lip-kiss is the signal for "I liked our date and getting to know you a little, I like you romantically."

[Wiseman2]

On 6/25/2021 at 3:43 PM, Coasting1991 said:

Thanks for the advice everyone! Just set up the 6th date, waiting on a day/time confirmation from her.

Just gonna go for it  (within reason of course lol) 

Excellent. Have fun, play it by ear and don't overthink it.

[spiderowl]

Hand holding is a sweet gesture and shows the guy would like more than just friends.  

A kiss is more intimate than hand-holding, in my opinion, but if a guy held my hand for a while I would not be surprised if he went for a kiss.  If I didn't want it to go further, in the short or longer term, I would drop his hand pretty quickly.

[lovebooks]

I have always hated  that sex on the 3rd date rule.  Maybe she's still being careful.  We're just coming out of a pandemic remember?  Talk to her about it.

[CaliforniaGirl]

45 minutes ago, lovebooks said:

I have always hated  that sex on the 3rd date rule.  Maybe she's still being careful.  We're just coming out of a pandemic remember?  Talk to her about it.

It’s not sex, it’s that they haven’t even kissed or held hands.

[babybrowns]

Hey Coasting,

I used to be a little like this woman you describe and I can say that shyness on her part is a key factor here. She clearly likes you. But is perhaps too shy to sustain long periods of eye contact, giving a ‘kiss lead up’ not much opportunity to happen.

What works with this type of shy lady specifically is to have an alternative way to lead up to a kiss.
Eg tell her you’ve been having a lot of fun with her and like her, this’ll hopefully instigate a similar reaction from her. That’s when she’ll be ready and expecting you to kiss her right then.

Or, as other posters have suggested, a more private setting. Perhaps she does want to be alone with you too and is just not used to expressing much emotion in front of people passing by.

Good luck