Tinyjaguar Posted July 14, 2021 Posted July 14, 2021 (edited) 8 hours ago, HopelessNick said: How do I apologise to her? Walk up to her and say sorry. May be a gift wouldn't go amiss too, box of chocolates etc. Nothing excessive. Edited July 14, 2021 by Tinyjaguar
Tinyjaguar Posted July 14, 2021 Posted July 14, 2021 6 hours ago, HopelessNick said: I'm really popular on there! But it is social media, not real life. What's on tiktok is pure fantasy, escapism. It's only intent is to entertain, not a substitute for being a real human being.
Trail Blazer Posted July 14, 2021 Posted July 14, 2021 How old are you, Nick? You sound like you're 15. You come across as extremely immature? Using TikTok only adds to this. How old is this girl? 3
JRabbit Posted July 14, 2021 Posted July 14, 2021 Alright....I take her comments as the opposite of what posters here think. The "it kills me" to me is her saying she can't deal with it because it's too cute...too much...she has a crush on you too. I get the vibe she is into you from the chats, BUT she won;t be for long if you wait too long. Another guy will swoop in before you have a chance.
princessaurora Posted July 15, 2021 Posted July 15, 2021 7 hours ago, JRabbit said: Alright....I take her comments as the opposite of what posters here think. The "it kills me" to me is her saying she can't deal with it because it's too cute...too much...she has a crush on you too. I get the vibe she is into you from the chats, BUT she won;t be for long if you wait too long. Another guy will swoop in before you have a chance. That's how I read it too. I just can't see her getting that mad about blu tac when she does stuff to him too. . I think she's mad he'd rather play jokes than ask her out. She's thrown signals at him but he doesn't seem to be taking action.
ExpatInItaly Posted July 15, 2021 Posted July 15, 2021 2 hours ago, princessaurora said: I think she's mad he'd rather play jokes than ask her out. She's thrown signals at him but he doesn't seem to be taking action. That's what many of us are trying to say, though. He's blowing his chances with this immature behaviour and refusal to ask her out. It's become annoying to her rather than cute and he's missing the boat. 1
Wiseman2 Posted July 15, 2021 Posted July 15, 2021 Ok. If you want to be the next TikTok Pavarotti, that's fine. But don't inflict it on co-workers. If you want to be one of the Three Stooges fine but don't inflict it on co-workers. Why not play pranks on your own time on your own friends and family? Also send your TikTok, YT, whatever videos to your friends and family. That way you can be respected and liked at work but still enjoy your hobbies.
Author HopelessNick Posted July 16, 2021 Author Posted July 16, 2021 (edited) alright guys, it's gone horribly wrong In the girls chat, crush called me queer. multiple times. Another girl said "we already know that". A girl said "Do you want me to tell him to back off?" and my crush said "Nah leave it. He's harmless." I have not looked at her all week . She's not talking for obvious reasons and I'm not either. Edited July 16, 2021 by HopelessNick
jspice Posted July 16, 2021 Posted July 16, 2021 39 minutes ago, HopelessNick said: alright guys, it's gone horribly wrong In the girls chat, crush called me queer. multiple times. Another girl said "we already know that". A girl said "Do you want me to tell him to back off?" and my crush said "Nah leave it. He's harmless." I have not looked at her all week . She's not talking for obvious reasons and I'm not either. You seem to think this is funny. Do you realise she can report you for harassment if you don’t stop? You’re pulling stupid pranks at work, and making her uncomfortable. This is where HR gets involved if she no longer thinks you’re “harmless”. Grow up. Be professional. 4
Author HopelessNick Posted July 16, 2021 Author Posted July 16, 2021 3 minutes ago, jspice said: You seem to think this is funny. Do you realise she can report you for harassment if you don’t stop? You’re pulling stupid pranks at work, and making her uncomfortable. This is where HR gets involved if she no longer thinks you’re “harmless”. Grow up. Be professional. Don't worry, I'm acting like she doesn't exist.
Author HopelessNick Posted July 16, 2021 Author Posted July 16, 2021 The receptionist also told her she thinks I have a crush on her and she said "Thanks captain obvious" hahah
Wiseman2 Posted July 16, 2021 Posted July 16, 2021 14 minutes ago, HopelessNick said: The receptionist also told her she thinks I have a crush on her and she said "Thanks captain obvious" hahah Sorry to hear that. Unfortunately you seem like the workplace court jester and they all don't like it.
princessaurora Posted July 18, 2021 Posted July 18, 2021 I just can't see a big deal being made out of blu tac, especially when she threw confetti on yours. I feel like something is amiss. Are you sure you didn't leave anything out Nick? We can't help you if you omit important details.
Yosemite Posted July 18, 2021 Posted July 18, 2021 On 7/16/2021 at 8:23 AM, HopelessNick said: The receptionist also told her she thinks I have a crush on her and she said "Thanks captain obvious" hahah Are you still reading her messages? Don't you think it's time that you stop? It's creepy; stop reading her texts to a group chat that she doesn't know that you are going to read. 1
Miss Spider Posted July 18, 2021 Posted July 18, 2021 (edited) How are you reading her messages. That’s super creepy . It seemed clear she was just tryna be polite to you upfront Edited July 18, 2021 by Cookiesandough 1 1
Author HopelessNick Posted July 18, 2021 Author Posted July 18, 2021 (edited) 46 minutes ago, princessaurora said: I just can't see a big deal being made out of blu tac, especially when she threw confetti on yours. I feel like something is amiss. Are you sure you didn't leave anything out Nick? We can't help you if you omit important details. Yeah. Only thing I didn't mention (cause I gave up) was that just before those nasty comments, this is what I said. I spoke to her colleague loudly so that my crush would hear (from what I could gather in the chat, i don't think my crush knew I wanted her to hear and didn't know what I wanted to achieve). I said "do you think she's still angry with me, because if she is, I think I could turn it around. I'm just looking for any steam that might still be coming out of her ears but I can't find any. Actually, here we go! It's gone past the pot plant, past my desk and oh! Look how angry she still is! However, I reckon i could get back in her good books by cracking her up heaps." Colleague said I don't think that will work. And then I said "we'll see". We're avoiding each other now Edited July 18, 2021 by HopelessNick
princessaurora Posted July 18, 2021 Posted July 18, 2021 That probably made her more mad. . You probably embarrassed her in front the whole office which is why she's badmouthing you on chats. It was between you and her and you should have apologized to her privately.
jspice Posted July 18, 2021 Posted July 18, 2021 57 minutes ago, HopelessNick said: Yeah. Only thing I didn't mention (cause I gave up) was that just before those nasty comments, this is what I said. I spoke to her colleague loudly so that my crush would hear (from what I could gather in the chat, i don't think my crush knew I wanted her to hear and didn't know what I wanted to achieve). I said "do you think she's still angry with me, because if she is, I think I could turn it around. I'm just looking for any steam that might still be coming out of her ears but I can't find any. Actually, here we go! It's gone past the pot plant, past my desk and oh! Look how angry she still is! However, I reckon i could get back in her good books by cracking her up heaps." Colleague said I don't think that will work. And then I said "we'll see". We're avoiding each other now You’re not as funny as you think you are. 1
Author HopelessNick Posted July 18, 2021 Author Posted July 18, 2021 29 minutes ago, princessaurora said: That probably made her more mad. . You probably embarrassed her in front the whole office which is why she's badmouthing you on chats. It was between you and her and you should have apologized to her privately. Only 2 people were there. Her and the colleague.
princessaurora Posted July 18, 2021 Posted July 18, 2021 Still you're bringing other people into it. You need to respect her enough to keep those matters between you and her. I wouldn't be surprised if she knows you're seeing those chats and is deliberately throwing things out there to hurt you. for invading her privacy. This is such a mess. I don't even know what you can do at this point other than continue to ignore her and see if she comes around. 2
ExpatInItaly Posted July 18, 2021 Posted July 18, 2021 5 hours ago, jspice said: You’re not as funny as you think you are. No kidding. Nick, with due respect, you appear to lack social skills. Have you generally had a hard time interacting with people offline? Do you have some friends in real life you could share this with? They might be able to better guide you since they know you. You seem unable to identify boundaries, or the importance of time and place. Also, have you had a girlfriend before? 1
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