ExpatInItaly Posted July 10, 2021 Posted July 10, 2021 18 minutes ago, HopelessNick said: Maybe I should have said she's pranked me too. Once, she stuck confetti all over my computer. So? Your latest stunt has clearly annoyed her. You aren't ready to date if you cannot have a normal conversation with a woman. 1
Tinyjaguar Posted July 10, 2021 Posted July 10, 2021 1 hour ago, HopelessNick said: Maybe I should have said she's pranked me too. Once, she stuck confetti all over my computer. Like I said, a prank can be ok but when it gets repetitive, it gets boring and annoying.
Tinyjaguar Posted July 10, 2021 Posted July 10, 2021 Also, just because she has pranked you isn't permission to act like a naughty school boy all the time. Why do you prank her? Is it a confidence thing? Are you avoiding adult conversation? Is it attention seeking? 1
Author HopelessNick Posted July 10, 2021 Author Posted July 10, 2021 19 minutes ago, Tinyjaguar said: Also, just because she has pranked you isn't permission to act like a naughty school boy all the time. Why do you prank her? Is it a confidence thing? Are you avoiding adult conversation? Is it attention seeking? I feel really uncomfortable with starting conversations with her. So I do things to make her start haha
ExpatInItaly Posted July 10, 2021 Posted July 10, 2021 3 minutes ago, HopelessNick said: I feel really uncomfortable with starting conversations with her. So I do things to make her start haha You're going about it all wrong. Do you have a female family member or friend who can better advise you about how to interact with women? Your lack of confidence and seemingly under-developed social skills with women is holding you back,and it is leading you to make a lot of mistakes.
elaine567 Posted July 10, 2021 Posted July 10, 2021 When I was a student aged about 19 I got a summer job as a waitress in a hotel. A 16yo guy worked p/t there too as a general dogsbody. He was only 16 but he was a big muscly guy and tall too. He was quite friendly but he started taking more interest in me with pranks and quite cutting "funny" remarks. He also used to "bear hug" me and as he was a big guy it kind of hurt. He thought that was oh so funny... I tried to avoid him if I could because of the bear hugs, and gave him back as good as he gave out, with the "jokes", but I did feel a bit bullied by him.. I went back to uni and never gave him a second thought. A few years later I went back to the hotel for a visit, he wasn't there but one of the girls told me he was actually besotted with me. So although I felt bullied and got at by the pranks and the bear hugs, he was just trying to get my attention... He was only 16 so he gets a bit of a pass, but I am not sure if Nick actually deserves one.
Wiseman2 Posted July 10, 2021 Posted July 10, 2021 To answer your original question. Yes, it's embarrassing to be the class clown and piss people off when the (ill conceived) attempt was to get their attention..
Author HopelessNick Posted July 10, 2021 Author Posted July 10, 2021 All good, I'll lay low and go back to sitting in the back corner away from others like I did before I got interested in my crush haha
Tinyjaguar Posted July 10, 2021 Posted July 10, 2021 1 hour ago, HopelessNick said: All good, I'll lay low and go back to sitting in the back corner away from others like I did before I got interested in my crush haha I guess it's not sinking in, just grow a pair and talk to her like an adult. May be find out what she is into and try to show an interest. See if you have common interests you know, small talk, general dating chat.
Author HopelessNick Posted July 10, 2021 Author Posted July 10, 2021 1 hour ago, Tinyjaguar said: I guess it's not sinking in, just grow a pair and talk to her like an adult. May be find out what she is into and try to show an interest. See if you have common interests you know, small talk, general dating chat. It's probably too late. She probably hates me now without telling me. Also, it's too hard to talk to her because i feel she doesn't look welcoming.
Author HopelessNick Posted July 10, 2021 Author Posted July 10, 2021 1 hour ago, HopelessNick said: It's probably too late. She probably hates me now without telling me. Also, it's too hard to talk to her because i feel she doesn't look welcoming. I also don't know why I didn't think of this early. All the interactions I've had with her is irrelevant because why on earth would she be interested in someone who can't even talk to her?
Tinyjaguar Posted July 10, 2021 Posted July 10, 2021 1 hour ago, HopelessNick said: I also don't know why I didn't think of this early. All the interactions I've had with her is irrelevant because why on earth would she be interested in someone who can't even talk to her? Well, you'll never find out unless you actually talk to her like a grown-up. Have you even tried to chat to her about her interests?
Wiseman2 Posted July 10, 2021 Posted July 10, 2021 2 hours ago, HopelessNick said: She probably hates me now without telling me. That's ok. Respect at work is far more important than "like". Focus on that.
jspice Posted July 11, 2021 Posted July 11, 2021 I don’t think she likes you. I think she and all her friends know you like her and they were playing with you. Now you’ve gone and pissed her off with childish pranks. No reasonably adult woman is going to respond to such infantile behaviour. Learn how to communicate like a grown up and leave this woman alone. Be better with the next one.
ExpatInItaly Posted July 11, 2021 Posted July 11, 2021 14 hours ago, HopelessNick said: All the interactions I've had with her is irrelevant because why on earth would she be interested in someone who can't even talk to her? So, why aren't you seeking advice on how to improve your confidence? That is what you need if you hope to have a normal conversation with a woman, and someday date. Micro-analyzing every utterance or action of a crush or playing juvenile pranks and asking people to analyze her behaviour does nothing to help you.
Author HopelessNick Posted July 12, 2021 Author Posted July 12, 2021 Ok. Final thing. Are they making fun of me on their chat? I deserve it if they are. I posted a tiktok the other day, singing "I won't give up" by Jason Mraz. A colleague shared to the chat saying "that's for you. Nick ❤ you. Another colleague said " noooo " The colleague goes "it's the nose scrunch for me." My crush goes "I can't even watch it all, it kills me" (no emoji).
jspice Posted July 12, 2021 Posted July 12, 2021 10 minutes ago, HopelessNick said: Ok. Final thing. Are they making fun of me on their chat? Yes 1
Tinyjaguar Posted July 12, 2021 Posted July 12, 2021 1 hour ago, HopelessNick said: Ok. Final thing. Are they making fun of me on their chat? I deserve it if they are. I posted a tiktok the other day, singing "I won't give up" by Jason Mraz. A colleague shared to the chat saying "that's for you. Nick ❤ you. Another colleague said " noooo " The colleague goes "it's the nose scrunch for me." My crush goes "I can't even watch it all, it kills me" (no emoji). As cruel as their comments are, you have kind of set yourself up for it. I'm not sure what you ever intended to achieve by using annoying humour to get attention. Is it a case of any attention, good or bad? Surely the pranks should have just been an opener, followed by actually acting like an adult. You know, you can be funny without acting like a dick. Next crush, why don't you turn your social awkwardness in to a strength. Have you ever heard of self-deprecating humour? Most good comedians do this. Of course, don't overdo it, otherwise you will come across as a desperate case.
Wiseman2 Posted July 12, 2021 Posted July 12, 2021 2 hours ago, HopelessNick said: Are they making fun of me on their chat? I posted a tiktok the other day, singing This is a work chat group? If so, why are you posting TikTok karaoke on it?
ExpatInItaly Posted July 12, 2021 Posted July 12, 2021 2 hours ago, HopelessNick said: Ok. Final thing. Are they making fun of me on their chat? Yes. You're embarrassing yourself at this point. 2
Alpacalia Posted July 12, 2021 Posted July 12, 2021 Karaoke isn’t Carnagie Hall but takes a bit of pluck.
Author HopelessNick Posted July 14, 2021 Author Posted July 14, 2021 1 hour ago, Olivia24 said: Ditch tik-tok. I'm really popular on there! 1
ExpatInItaly Posted July 14, 2021 Posted July 14, 2021 5 hours ago, HopelessNick said: I'm really popular on there! That's great. But it won't help you learn to talk to women in real life. You have to stop hiding behind a screen. And you really need to stop hiding behind annoying pranks.
Wiseman2 Posted July 14, 2021 Posted July 14, 2021 5 hours ago, HopelessNick said: I'm really popular on there! Fine. But don't inflict it on co-workers.
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