lana-banana Posted July 2, 2021 Posted July 2, 2021 It's for the best. Everyone in this situation is so immature that a real relationship would never work, much less a relationship between colleagues (which is certainly doable but requires sensitivity and maturity). Also, the friend who keeps sending screenshots is a bad friend. Maybe one screenshot can be excused but repeatedly doing it is just violating their trust. Tell her to stop. 1
Tinyjaguar Posted July 2, 2021 Posted July 2, 2021 8 hours ago, Tinyjaguar said: OK, ask her out then What I mean by the above is that you have nothing to lose. If she says yes, then great, if she says no then move on with no hard feelings.
Author HopelessNick Posted July 3, 2021 Author Posted July 3, 2021 (edited) On 7/2/2021 at 12:06 AM, HopelessNick said: I posted a tiktok the other night and she shared it to the girls chat. Then another girl shared one of me playing the piano and singing. My crush replied "I can't even deal". The song was "let her go" by passenger. It got 371 likes and 110 shares. All 25 comments were along the lines of beautiful and that it made them cry. (All males commented). One of the girls laugh reacted and when my crush replied "I can't even deal" (no emojis) what did she mean? Was that a bad reaction? Edited July 3, 2021 by HopelessNick
ExpatInItaly Posted July 4, 2021 Posted July 4, 2021 Doesn't it get exhasuting mirco-analyzing everything woman says or does? If you're not going to ask her out, you really should stop fretting about all of this. It's consuming you. 1
Author HopelessNick Posted July 8, 2021 Author Posted July 8, 2021 (edited) Alright, surely I've ruined it now haha. So before I left the office yesterday, I pranked her by sticking her things onto her desk using blu tack. This morning she got really angry. I tried talking to her but she stuck her hand out and said something (couldn't quite hear). We didn't talk all day, but at one stage, one of the girls said, "does anyone have blu tack?" and my crush yelled "Nick does". She left home a few hours early. I also tagged her in the Tiktok of me doing the prank. I messaged her this in an individual work chat, but she hasn't seen it cause she hasn't been online. "Look, I know you left because you couldn't stand the sight of me Fortunately for you though, you weren’t the only one who came up second best I copped a 2mm paper cut in the process, which I don’t think I deserved at all (actually maybe a little) But nah, I'm sorry if I gave you a s*** start to the morning!" I can still delete it cause she hasn't seen it. Should I delete? Thanks Edited July 8, 2021 by HopelessNick
Trail Blazer Posted July 8, 2021 Posted July 8, 2021 Why have you not asked her out yet? And why are you ignoring all the advice which suggests you ask her out. It's really strange. You just keep going off on a tangent, behaving like someone would in junior high. Dude, just ask her out, or walk away and forget about her. At this point in time your behavior is borderline dysfunctional. What are you waiting for? Life waits for no-one. Things only happen when people make them happen. 2
Wiseman2 Posted July 8, 2021 Posted July 8, 2021 1 hour ago, HopelessNick said: , I pranked her by sticking her things onto her desk using blu tack. This morning she got really angry. It's amazing you still have a job after that kind of unprofessional bonehead move. Hopefully you realize she can go to management about your bullying and sexual harassment. What kind of workplace allows this kindergarten behavior?
Tinyjaguar Posted July 8, 2021 Posted July 8, 2021 44 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: It's amazing you still have a job after that kind of unprofessional bonehead move. Hopefully you realize she can go to management about your bullying and sexual harassment. What kind of workplace allows this kindergarten behavior? I'm not sure whether this counts as misconduct or not but it certainly is very immature. May be Nick is the class clown in this office's dynamic. 1
Author HopelessNick Posted July 8, 2021 Author Posted July 8, 2021 (edited) 2 hours ago, Tinyjaguar said: I'm not sure whether this counts as misconduct or not but it certainly is very immature. May be Nick is the class clown in this office's dynamic. Hahha I prank all the time Edited July 8, 2021 by HopelessNick
ExpatInItaly Posted July 8, 2021 Posted July 8, 2021 (edited) 1 hour ago, HopelessNick said: Hahha I prank all the time Clearly, it’s getting tiresome. It’s immature at this point, and you need to learn where the limits are. If you’re not going to ask her out, leave her be. No more pranks, no more messages. Focus on improving your social skills and developing your emotional maturity until you feel like you can talk to a woman without behaving like a kid pulling the hair of the girl he likes. Edited July 8, 2021 by ExpatInItaly 3
Tinyjaguar Posted July 8, 2021 Posted July 8, 2021 31 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said: Clearly, it’s getting tiresome. It’s immature at this point, and you need to learn where the limits are. If you’re not going to ask her out, leave her be. No more pranks, no more messages. Focus on improving your social skills and developing your emotional maturity until you feel like you can talk to a woman without behaving like a kid pulling the hair of the girl he likes. Yeah, it does reek of school yard pulling tactics 1
smackie9 Posted July 8, 2021 Posted July 8, 2021 Being a woman, I know there are a few days out of the month...ahem, can make you a little edgy. So that added with the inconvenience of unsticking your desk items delaying your productivity, interrupting your day...ya I can relate to her reaction. Don't add more insult to injury...do not text her!!!. Be respectful and give her her space. When she kools off, and gets back to normal, she will talk to you again.
princessaurora Posted July 8, 2021 Posted July 8, 2021 I think initially she was interested but now she's just getting aggravated you're acting like a toddler and not an adult. There's nothing wrong with being a prankster. (My husband does silly things like steal my sandwich and hide it from me all the time. Lol) But you also have to show her that you're a man and not a little boy by recognizing when it's time to get serious and take action. You better hurry up too because you're about to be exiled to the friend zone for sure. Just ask her to have a meal or coffee with you. It's not rocket science.
Tinyjaguar Posted July 8, 2021 Posted July 8, 2021 44 minutes ago, princessaurora said: I think initially she was interested but now she's just getting aggravated you're acting like a toddler and not an adult. There's nothing wrong with being a prankster. (My husband does silly things like steal my sandwich and hide it from me all the time. Lol) But you also have to show her that you're a man and not a little boy by recognizing when it's time to get serious and take action. You better hurry up too because you're about to be exiled to the friend zone for sure. Just ask her to have a meal or coffee with you. It's not rocket science. Yeah, everyone loves a GSOH but there is a time to get serious and I think that Nick is pranking himself out of contention. He will eventually just become an annoying friend. BTW, your husband sounds like a hoot. 1
Author HopelessNick Posted July 9, 2021 Author Posted July 9, 2021 She read my apology but didn't respond
ExpatInItaly Posted July 9, 2021 Posted July 9, 2021 1 hour ago, HopelessNick said: She read my apology but didn't respond She's tired of your behaviour, Nick. You need to stop.
elaine567 Posted July 9, 2021 Posted July 9, 2021 I wouldn't bother asking her out, she likely detests you now. You took the "pranking" too far.
5x5 Posted July 9, 2021 Posted July 9, 2021 18 hours ago, HopelessNick said: Hahha I prank all the time Perhaps you will grow up, when she sensibly makes a complaint against you for workplace harassment. 2
Donnas Posted July 9, 2021 Posted July 9, 2021 You sound very young. How old are u? And they just joking about how I like her and she is joking back it seems nothing mean. You like her focus on telling her yourself and maybe ask her out. Instead of tryna imagine what she talking to her friends....
Donnas Posted July 9, 2021 Posted July 9, 2021 23 hours ago, Trail Blazer said: Why have you not asked her out yet? And why are you ignoring all the advice which suggests you ask her out. It's really strange. You just keep going off on a tangent, behaving like someone would in junior high. Dude, just ask her out, or walk away and forget about her. At this point in time your behavior is borderline dysfunctional. What are you waiting for? Life waits for no-one. Things only happen when people make them happen. Nice picture 1
Trail Blazer Posted July 9, 2021 Posted July 9, 2021 1 hour ago, Donnas said: Nice picture Agreed. The dude whose SM account I stole it from is a lucky guy.
Wiseman2 Posted July 9, 2021 Posted July 9, 2021 4 hours ago, HopelessNick said: She read my apology but didn't respond You're nothing but a bully who thinks your unfunny pranks are cute.
Tinyjaguar Posted July 9, 2021 Posted July 9, 2021 7 hours ago, HopelessNick said: She read my apology but didn't respond Are you surprised if your behaviour wholly consists of goofy stunts and annoying her? If you want to salvage anything with her, I would suggest backing off, giving her some space and being nice and considerate to her when you do talk to her. She might actually like you if you demonstrate that you can act like an adult. See, it's not that you can't be funny, humour is good, but when it is often at someone's expense, verging on harassment, it wears thin pretty quick. I get it that humour is a good armour against social awkwardness, but it is not good when it pisses people off. 1
Author HopelessNick Posted July 10, 2021 Author Posted July 10, 2021 Maybe I should have said she's pranked me too. Once, she stuck confetti all over my computer.
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