Author HopelessNick Posted June 30, 2021 Author Posted June 30, 2021 Did I ruin my chances today? Throughout 8 hours today, I only interacted with her twice. First interaction, I asked a colleague a question and she butted in with the answer. I had no idea she was listening. 2nd interaction was when I asked a colleague if they wanted some lollies. They said "no otherwise I'll be bouncing off the walls". I said, no that's what pingas (drugs) do to you. My crush burst out laughing for 1 second. Once again, I had no idea she was listening. Her friend asked her what was funny and she said "Nick said pingas". I turned my head to look at her and she had a massive smile (teeth showing). Anyway, when she left work, she didn't even say bye!
CaliforniaGirl Posted June 30, 2021 Posted June 30, 2021 11 hours ago, HopelessNick said: Did I ruin my chances today? Throughout 8 hours today, I only interacted with her twice. First interaction, I asked a colleague a question and she butted in with the answer. I had no idea she was listening. 2nd interaction was when I asked a colleague if they wanted some lollies. They said "no otherwise I'll be bouncing off the walls". I said, no that's what pingas (drugs) do to you. My crush burst out laughing for 1 second. Once again, I had no idea she was listening. Her friend asked her what was funny and she said "Nick said pingas". I turned my head to look at her and she had a massive smile (teeth showing). Anyway, when she left work, she didn't even say bye! Just ask her out. 1
BeanCounter Posted June 30, 2021 Posted June 30, 2021 Yeah stop analyzing the hell out of literally every single interaction and just ask her to go out. You're driving yourself insane. The vast majority of small interactions are meaningless, and there is no deep insight or life-long "I ruined it" to an inconsequential 15 second interaction. 4
Wiseman2 Posted June 30, 2021 Posted June 30, 2021 12 hours ago, HopelessNick said: 2nd interaction was when I asked a colleague if they wanted some lollies. They said "no otherwise I'll be bouncing off the walls". I said, no that's what pingas (drugs) do to you. This is work chat? 1
Author HopelessNick Posted June 30, 2021 Author Posted June 30, 2021 1 hour ago, Wiseman2 said: This is work chat? Yes
Author HopelessNick Posted July 1, 2021 Author Posted July 1, 2021 On 6/29/2021 at 4:41 PM, HopelessNick said: That night, she followed me on Tiktok. So in early May I posted a tiktok of me playing the piano. She asked me today with a cheeky smile, "do you play piano". Do you think she was implying something?
Miss Spider Posted July 1, 2021 Posted July 1, 2021 Idk but that’s kind of weird to ask if you play the piano on a tik tok where you’re playing the piano
Miss Spider Posted July 1, 2021 Posted July 1, 2021 (edited) Sorry disregard the above. I thought you said she left that as a comment. She’s making conversation in reference to a tik tok she saw , wouldnt read that much further into it Edited July 1, 2021 by Cookiesandough
Author HopelessNick Posted July 1, 2021 Author Posted July 1, 2021 47 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said: Sorry disregard the above. I thought you said she left that as a comment. She’s making conversation in reference to a tik tok she saw , wouldnt read that much further into it She obviously strolled through my tiktok. And then asked the question when she already knew the answer. I can't help but feel like there's an ulterior motive. Not just that, but everything else she's done. But it doesn't always show through her facial expressions.
Author HopelessNick Posted July 1, 2021 Author Posted July 1, 2021 UPDATE: I posted a tiktok the other night and she shared it to the girls chat. Then another girl shared one of me playing the piano and singing. My crush replied "I can't even deal". She asked me later that day with a cheeky smile "Do you play the piano?" and then we talked a bit. ALSO There's this worker no one likes. I posted in the normal group chat "She's not working tomorrow! Yay!" The girls started giggling, my crush didn't. Crush responded with "I'll miss her." I responded "Marry her then." She replied "I'm available." I then wrote "All this dildo talk is making her annoyed!" (They started talking about dildos amongst themselves.) Crush responded "It's 8 inches!" I said "Gees, that would destroy you" and she responded "Exactly my thoughts!"
Tinyjaguar Posted July 1, 2021 Posted July 1, 2021 Why don't you ask her out on a date? Then do something like bowling or axe throwing (yes, it is a thing!) where you are always occupied so it minimises the scope for awkward silences. The worst that could happen is that she shoots you down or you go on the date and it doesn't go well and you done get a second date. Either way you can move on. The other scenario is that the date goes well and may be get further dates or a relationship. The fact is that, in asking, you probably will earn a bit of respect from her.
Fletch Lives Posted July 1, 2021 Posted July 1, 2021 6 minutes ago, Tinyjaguar said: Then do something like bowling or axe throwing (yes, it is a thing!) where you are always occupied so it minimises the scope for awkward silences. You're gonna get an axe murderer! (sorry, I could not help it!)
Tinyjaguar Posted July 1, 2021 Posted July 1, 2021 28 minutes ago, Fletch Lives said: You're gonna get an axe murderer! (sorry, I could not help it!) I know, I was surprised when I first heard about it.
princessaurora Posted July 1, 2021 Posted July 1, 2021 I think this girl likes you. Girls don't say things like "I'm available" and try to make convo with you if they don't. The last thing girls want with a guy that they're not attracted to is to pull him towards them. Unless she's desperate for an ego boost, this is the most logical explanation. You need to ask her to do something with you one one. 1
Miss Spider Posted July 1, 2021 Posted July 1, 2021 14 hours ago, HopelessNick said: She obviously strolled through my tiktok. And then asked the question when she already knew the answer. I can't help but feel like there's an ulterior motive. Not just that, but everything else she's done. But it doesn't always show through her facial expressions. Yes she did. I just don’t know if you can read anything more into it than that. I have said the same type of stuff to men I considered more friends. Some people flirt. She could like you though. Talk to her and shoot your shot
Tinyjaguar Posted July 1, 2021 Posted July 1, 2021 Exactly, it would take a horrendous game player to act like she likes you and not mean it. As old fashioned as it sound, as the guy, you need to be the one to initiate a date.
CaliforniaGirl Posted July 1, 2021 Posted July 1, 2021 4 hours ago, HopelessNick said: UPDATE: I posted a tiktok the other night and she shared it to the girls chat. Then another girl shared one of me playing the piano and singing. My crush replied "I can't even deal". She asked me later that day with a cheeky smile "Do you play the piano?" and then we talked a bit. ALSO There's this worker no one likes. I posted in the normal group chat "She's not working tomorrow! Yay!" The girls started giggling, my crush didn't. Crush responded with "I'll miss her." I responded "Marry her then." She replied "I'm available." I then wrote "All this dildo talk is making her annoyed!" (They started talking about dildos amongst themselves.) Crush responded "It's 8 inches!" I said "Gees, that would destroy you" and she responded "Exactly my thoughts!" ASK HER OUT. 2
Tinyjaguar Posted July 1, 2021 Posted July 1, 2021 1 hour ago, CaliforniaGirl said: ASK HER OUT. Please, please do this! In the long run, you will feel much better than you feel now. 1
Yosemite Posted July 1, 2021 Posted July 1, 2021 I think it's creepy that you're reading her messages in the group chat that you're not included in. 1
CaliforniaGirl Posted July 1, 2021 Posted July 1, 2021 6 hours ago, HopelessNick said: (snip) There's this worker no one likes. I posted in the normal group chat "She's not working tomorrow! Yay!" The girls started giggling, my crush didn't. Crush responded with "I'll miss her." I responded "Marry her then." She replied "I'm available." I then wrote "All this dildo talk is making her annoyed!" (They started talking about dildos amongst themselves.) Crush responded "It's 8 inches!" I said "Gees, that would destroy you" and she responded "Exactly my thoughts!" Bolding mine. She's starting to talk to you like she would to any of her girlfriends. You're becoming another BFF. Make a move, or be just a friend, which is what it seems like is happening due to nobody...well...making any actual moves. I wouldn't talk to a guy I liked, like this - no, not even when I was 19, LOL - I spoke to my girlfriends like this.
Author HopelessNick Posted July 2, 2021 Author Posted July 2, 2021 Sorry guys, I'm gonna let it die down. I couldn't talk to her all day. I feel paralysed, but thank you all for your input!
Tinyjaguar Posted July 2, 2021 Posted July 2, 2021 8 hours ago, CaliforniaGirl said: Bolding mine. She's starting to talk to you like she would to any of her girlfriends. You're becoming another BFF. Make a move, or be just a friend, which is what it seems like is happening due to nobody...well...making any actual moves. I wouldn't talk to a guy I liked, like this - no, not even when I was 19, LOL - I spoke to my girlfriends like this. I agree. She's probably been hoping to be asked out but is getting to the point where she believes you are not interested and only thinks you want friendship. Once this happens, it will become difficult to ask her out because you risk losing her as a friend if it goes wrong.
Author HopelessNick Posted July 2, 2021 Author Posted July 2, 2021 (edited) 1 hour ago, Tinyjaguar said: I agree. She's probably been hoping to be asked out but is getting to the point where she believes you are not interested and only thinks you want friendship. We're not even friends at the moment. Just colleagues Edited July 2, 2021 by HopelessNick
elaine567 Posted July 2, 2021 Posted July 2, 2021 I am not sure if she is interested. Hard to tell. The girl who actually found your piano playing video on Tik Tok may be the one more interested in you... 17 hours ago, HopelessNick said: There's this worker no one likes. I posted in the normal group chat "She's not working tomorrow! Yay!" The girls started giggling, my crush didn't. Crush responded with "I'll miss her." I know you are trying to be funny and court popularity with the group, but sometimes plain nasty comments do you no favours whatsoever... Also getting involved in the girl group dildo talk did you no favours whatsoever either, unless you want to be seen as another one of the girls... . Try to think of the implications and ramifications before you fire off for that quick fix giggle... Girl's can be "shocked" and giggling is a natural reaction. Girls can appear to be having a great time "bantering", but in reality they think "OMG what a jerk..." Try to rein in your more outrageous stuff. 1
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