jerrygordon3 Posted June 19, 2021 Posted June 19, 2021 I'm an american living in crete. I see a girl, instant connection, we talk, exchange numbers, start texting, go on a date. it's amazing. I never feel this way, she comments about how she likes me and wants to see me again and again "" after we kiss goodnight. I'm getting all good signals. For me one of those situations where I suddenly can't stop thinking about the person. Shes not overly talkative. but everything is goin good. last night she comes over, we have sex, it's great. and she starts in about how shes moving and ill probably be leaving too. I said if we continue getting to know each other and we connect I do have the possibility to live anywhere.. I work online.... She then proceeds to go in all directions and I quote : My dad was abusive and I will never trust another man. The only person I'll allow myself to love is my mother. I don't want to get attached or connected with anyone. I want kids someday but I run from people, every time I get close to them. I want to see you everyday, and i love that you're not a f*** boy. ( I look like a f***boy). She is giving me all the signals that she doesnt want a relationship on one hand, on the other shes clearly super into me. in my experience women end up getting the most attached when they talk about how theyll never get attached. so i dont know how to play this: move her into the "fun" category, or just take it slow and see how things play out. I like the girl, but that was a whole lot of red flags in 1 night. 1
Fletch Lives Posted June 19, 2021 Posted June 19, 2021 You would just have to see how it plays out over a couple of months and see if she really gets attached to you.
d0nnivain Posted June 19, 2021 Posted June 19, 2021 Stop thinking you have to address any of this now or that you can control / fix it. Tuck the abuse info into the back of your mind. Remember that she's fearful so go slowly. Slowly in this instance means not talking about it now. Let your actions show that you are reliable & trustworthy. Never tell her that you are those things. Just be those things. In time she should grow to trust you. She won't if you talk about it rather than live it. For now enjoy the present. In a few months if she hasn't moved & you are still together have a talk about where / what you are. Until then, don't worry about it. 1
Wiseman2 Posted June 19, 2021 Posted June 19, 2021 (edited) That's ok, it may be just another fling for you or for her. See what happens. Edited June 19, 2021 by Wiseman2
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