SmilingMartin Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 I have this girl in my Biology Class..and there have been days where we have gotten into groups and had to work things out. Well theres this girl that i have been kind of eyeing out. At first it was just the physical attraction but when we got into groups and sort of gotten a feel of what shes like, i find myself thinking about her. My problem is, with past relationships i have had the luxury of girls coming to me and starting something. Which now i find myself in a pickle because i want to get to know her better but i dont know how to approach her about it. I am your average shy guy who doesn't open up until i am close to a person. But i want to change that...I want to be the one who makes the first moves! Can i get some help on this matter?
shyguy1126 Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 IM exactly the same ive been telling myself to just talk to the girl i like and wen i c her i cant do it anymore and all the people on this thing say just talk to her the worst she can say is no but its harder then that to make the first move let me kno if u got or get any good advice
Author SmilingMartin Posted October 18, 2005 Author Posted October 18, 2005 haha a sad sad a thing happened today! Anyways...I was gonna make the effort to say hi to her today. In class we have those seats with chairs..so im rolling the seat closer to say hi. In my head im saying "You can do this! You can do this". She turns around and looks at me...I freeze and purposely dropped my pen, and say to her.."I dropped my pen". She just smiled..and i felt like a dumbass! hahaha. I just go back rolling my seat to my desk thinking "DUMBASS". Can anyone help an idiot lol?
stjärna Posted October 19, 2005 Posted October 19, 2005 i think the first thing to assess are the signals she sent you during your group work that make you think she might like you. if all is well on that front, perhaps you have to ask yourself "what's the worst that could happen by making a move" especially compared to "what's the best thing that could happen?" if she is also shy, you're going to have to make the first move. how you ask? next time you're doing group work, towards the end of the class, casually say, "so, what's everybody doing this weekend?" this will give you an opportunity to potentially find out if she has a boyfriend (she would probably mention it after this question) and the opportunity to either get a group activity going on the weekend (seeing a new movie, etc.) or do get something going with her over the weekend. she says, "oh, i'm going to study, we have that big exam on monday," say "that's a good idea, i'm could use some help, too; do you wanna study together?" get the idea? this way it's very casual. if you get to this point, however, BE ABSOLUTELY SURE to get her phone number before you go. if she's not the shy type; you have to drop subtle signs that you're interested in getting to know her more and see what happens . . . give it a go; good luck!
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