ExpatInItaly Posted June 28, 2021 Posted June 28, 2021 I'm sorry he was an arse, yet again. Block this guy. Run from the ones who blow hot and cold. Don't give people like this chance after chance to hurt you. 1
Sun Seeker Posted June 28, 2021 Posted June 28, 2021 1 hour ago, Girlcapri said: We spend the week together, l met his friends and family and he’s gone cold again.. He said he’s not feeling it, he wanted to try and now he not feeling it. Lol Why the hell introduce me to anyone, why do this to me. I learned my lesson l let his messages sink to the bottom of my spam now.. Just so so hurt.. You chose to ignore everyone's advice. Next time when someone tells you they are not ready for a relationship (with you), believe them, and do not give them any second chances to change their mind. 1
Wiseman2 Posted June 28, 2021 Posted June 28, 2021 1 hour ago, Girlcapri said: He said he’s not feeling it, he wanted to try and now he not feeling it. l let his messages sink to the bottom of my spam now.. Exactly. He's on/off with his GF, so just block and delete flakes like this. 2
poppyfields Posted June 28, 2021 Posted June 28, 2021 (edited) 8 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: Exactly. He's on/off with his GF, so just block and delete flakes like this. I don't think he has a GF Wise, if he did, he surely would not have introduced OP to his friends and family who would have already known about the other girlfriend. I think it's what I posted previously, he's got some big time commitment issues/anxieties/fears. Such fears are very real for people who experience them. He broke up with you, then began missing and longing for you which tricked him into thinking he does want a RL. Then, after being back together a mere ONE WEEK, his fears re-surfaced, and once again felt the walls of a "relationship" closing in on him and he wanted OUT. The anxiety is not dissimilar to claustrophobia. One is fear of becoming "trapped" in enclosed space, here it's the fear of feeling boxed in and "trapped," by a committed relationship Don't beat yourself up for giving a second chance. If you had not, you would have always been wondering "what if." You would not have known how seriously effed up this guy truly is. So now you know! And you've learned something in the process, hopefully. Anyway, I am sorry you're hurting, it will pass, I promise you! And you will be a little bit stronger and smarter for having experienced it. Edited June 28, 2021 by poppyfields 1
Sarah123456789 Posted June 29, 2021 Posted June 29, 2021 13 hours ago, poppyfields said: I don't think he has a GF Wise, if he did, he surely would not have introduced OP to his friends and family who would have already known about the other girlfriend. I think it's what I posted previously, he's got some big time commitment issues/anxieties/fears. Such fears are very real for people who experience them. He broke up with you, then began missing and longing for you which tricked him into thinking he does want a RL. Then, after being back together a mere ONE WEEK, his fears re-surfaced, and once again felt the walls of a "relationship" closing in on him and he wanted OUT. The anxiety is not dissimilar to claustrophobia. One is fear of becoming "trapped" in enclosed space, here it's the fear of feeling boxed in and "trapped," by a committed relationship Don't beat yourself up for giving a second chance. If you had not, you would have always been wondering "what if." You would not have known how seriously effed up this guy truly is. So now you know! And you've learned something in the process, hopefully. Anyway, I am sorry you're hurting, it will pass, I promise you! And you will be a little bit stronger and smarter for having experienced it. He’s still trying to contact me and joke around. I am trying to ignore him. He said he’s not in to me, he doesn’t feel the spark, but he wanted this to work because l tick all the boxes lm seriously confused how someone send so many mixed signals..
stillafool Posted June 29, 2021 Posted June 29, 2021 33 minutes ago, Sarah123456789 said: He’s still trying to contact me and joke around. I am trying to ignore him. The only way to ignore him is to block and move on. He's basically saying you look good on paper but he's not feeling it. Let him go. He's sending mixed messages because he was trying to fit a round peg in a square hole. He likes who you are as a person but isn't feeling chemistry. Don't underestimate the power of an alcoholic mate. I've seen men really hold onto these women and their drama, especially when a child is involved. I doubt he's over her.
Wiseman2 Posted June 29, 2021 Posted June 29, 2021 41 minutes ago, Sarah123456789 said: He’s still trying to contact me and joke around. Are you the OP or is this the same guy?:
ExpatInItaly Posted June 29, 2021 Posted June 29, 2021 1 hour ago, Sarah123456789 said: He’s still trying to contact me and joke around. I am trying to ignore him. He said he’s not in to me, he doesn’t feel the spark, but he wanted this to work because l tick all the boxes lm seriously confused how someone send so many mixed signals.. Psst..you're posting from the wrong account. 1
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