HopelessNick Posted June 15, 2021 Posted June 15, 2021 I snap chatted this girl a year and a half ago. Stopped since. I've been recently snap chatting her again because I noticed she moved states for college which is an hour away from me. I said in a video "What's been happening? We haven't snapped each other in a while. I reckon that's because you hate being in the presence of brilliance." She responded the next day with a video at the beach "You're definitely correct. Just kidding. How's life with you?" I said in a video "What do you mean? I'm always right. I wish I was at the beach like you though. I'm all rugged up where I am. Which beach is that by the way?" She responded with a smiling face selfie photo with the text of the name of the beach. I said in a video "Gees, what were you doing there? That is easily the worst beach in the state, if not the country. I've been there twice and both times, there weren't any seals! What other s*** places have you been to?" She responded with a photo of the forehead "hahaha no seals but plenty of whales. I'm living in (town) now so that's pretty wild." I replied with a photo of me looking unimpressed, "So basically, one hell hole to another. Must be heaps colder than (her old town) though. There's always a big debate about whether (her new town) and (my town) is colder. I'm a firm believer that mine takes the cake! What are you doing in (town) anyway besides finding new guys to perv on?" She responded with a smiling selfie sitting on the train "hahahaah I'm just at college there. Not there for the men, trust me." Is she trying to infer something? Thanks in advance.
ExpatInItaly Posted June 15, 2021 Posted June 15, 2021 (edited) You need to stop the sarcastic, cutting "jokes," dude. They're going to get annoying and rude fast. She doesn't seem that interested beyond having a Snap-buddy. Edited June 15, 2021 by ExpatInItaly
Wiseman2 Posted June 15, 2021 Posted June 15, 2021 (edited) She is not interested. Find real life women to date. Why are you sending her these bizarre videos? Seems like a waste of time, no? She'll just block you again because you're being a jerk. Edited June 15, 2021 by Wiseman2
introverted1 Posted June 15, 2021 Posted June 15, 2021 Is your default move to make sophormoric jokes/play pranks with women? I suggest you develop some conversational skills. The type of exchange you are having with this woman is unlikely to spur romantic interest. And even if she was romantically interested, it would be impossible to gauge from this type of exchange. 1
cleverusername Posted June 15, 2021 Posted June 15, 2021 You're doing banter completely wrong, not sure if you realize it. Banter is supposed to be fun and light. This is like borderline negging Example: Me: *suggests a playful and sarcastic idea* Her: "Perfect!" Me: "sounds like a plan. But don't tell anyone this was my idea. Can't have people thinking I'm a bad influence on you, we gotta keep it our secret ;)" Her: "hahahaha, Deal!" VS YOU Her: "I'm at the beach" You : "that beach looks like s***" Her: "I didn't see any seals but I did see whales!" you: "what kind of crappy beach doesn't have seals?" See the difference? 3
Vitaminka Posted June 15, 2021 Posted June 15, 2021 2 hours ago, cleverusername said: You're doing banter completely wrong, not sure if you realize it. Banter is supposed to be fun and light. This is like borderline negging Example: Me: *suggests a playful and sarcastic idea* Her: "Perfect!" Me: "sounds like a plan. But don't tell anyone this was my idea. Can't have people thinking I'm a bad influence on you, we gotta keep it our secret ;)" Her: "hahahaha, Deal!" VS YOU Her: "I'm at the beach" You : "that beach looks like s***" Her: "I didn't see any seals but I did see whales!" you: "what kind of crappy beach doesn't have seals?" See the difference? Totally agree! Look, do you have any female friends that you could practice talking to? Maybe they could explain how you come across to the women and give you some pointers of how not to act around a woman you like and tell you what not to say. Doesn't even have to be a female friend, could be a sister or a cousin or a girlfriend of your friend. Just find someone who could give you a totally honest and unbiased opinion of yourself and help you to improve your conversation skills with the women. 2
ShyViolet Posted June 15, 2021 Posted June 15, 2021 Your social skills leave much to be desired. Several things you said here come off as borderline rude. Not everyone appreciates that kind of humor. To answer your question, no I do not think she's "hinting" at anything.... this just sounds like inane, meaningless chit chat. Also, I was not aware that the quality of a beach is determined by whether it has seals.
Wiseman2 Posted June 15, 2021 Posted June 15, 2021 6 hours ago, cleverusername said: See the difference? Good example of fun/flirty vs creepy/juvenile. OP, frat humor puts women off, better learn that now. 1
Interstellar Posted June 15, 2021 Posted June 15, 2021 (edited) It’s tough being a guy sometimes isn’t it? you have to be funny but on the other hand your jokes have to be clean which nowadays, is very difficult because people get offended at all sorts of things nowadays but you can’t be a bore either; there’s a thin line between funny and not overdoing it. there’s an art to it plus it takes time to develop a personality. if anything doesn’t work out there’s always HBO max and Netflix....then you can study all the comedians and Cary grant films you can get ideas from. Edited June 15, 2021 by Interstellar 1
basil67 Posted June 15, 2021 Posted June 15, 2021 Your comments about the beach were indescribably rude. If she was hinting at anything, most likely it was that she was focussed on Uni.
dramafreezone Posted June 16, 2021 Posted June 16, 2021 (edited) Too much banter. Couple of comments then just shoot your shot if you like her. Also stop trying to be a comedian, you're not very good at it. The "funny guy" route is a much harder road to take. Occasional, well timed, off-the-cuff jokes are great. What you're doing is too much. Edited June 16, 2021 by dramafreezone
Author HopelessNick Posted June 16, 2021 Author Posted June 16, 2021 (edited) I like to call it playfully arrogant humour. I do it to everyone, not only girls and people crack up heaps. I'm not serious and everyone knows. I do give compliments too. I said "what are you looking so cute for?" to her last night. I keep it at 80% humour, 20% compliments. Edited June 16, 2021 by HopelessNick
Author HopelessNick Posted June 16, 2021 Author Posted June 16, 2021 Also, she has the option to stop responding. We've never met in person, so there's absolutely no shame. But she chooses to keep replying with selfies.
dramafreezone Posted June 16, 2021 Posted June 16, 2021 1 hour ago, HopelessNick said: I like to call it playfully arrogant humour. I do it to everyone, not only girls and people crack up heaps. I'm not serious and everyone knows. I do give compliments too. I said "what are you looking so cute for?" to her last night. I keep it at 80% humour, 20% compliments. It's just that humor doesn't always translate or hit the mark through texts or messages.
Author HopelessNick Posted June 16, 2021 Author Posted June 16, 2021 3 hours ago, dramafreezone said: It's just that humor doesn't always translate or hit the mark through texts or messages. I do videos of me talking
ExpatInItaly Posted June 16, 2021 Posted June 16, 2021 4 hours ago, HopelessNick said: Also, she has the option to stop responding. We've never met in person, so there's absolutely no shame. But she chooses to keep replying with selfies. You're increasing your chances of her losing interest with your poor attempts at jokes, Nick.
elaine567 Posted June 16, 2021 Posted June 16, 2021 And how well does this "playfully arrogant" humour work in attracting women? By your posting history here, it doesn't work well at all. We all know the wisecracker whose cutting humour raises laughs as "How could he be so nasty?", and "It is so unfunny it is laughable", but it is not endearing. They are probably laughing at you not with you. No-one will wants to get too close in case they get burned by your caustic remarks. People will laugh and play along to avoid conflict, but they will come away with a bad taste in their mouth. This put down humour is a lot easier to do than actually saying something creative and funny. That is sh^t, this is sh^t, he is sh^t, she is s***^, the whole world is sh^t, is easy, but whilst one can get away with a put down remark out of the blue to great effect, then if overdone, it quickly gets tedious and is seen as negative and depressing. even creepy and cringe worthy. Who really wants to date a guy like that?
introverted1 Posted June 16, 2021 Posted June 16, 2021 10 hours ago, HopelessNick said: I like to call it playfully arrogant humour. I do it to everyone, not only girls and people crack up heaps. I'm not serious and everyone knows. I do give compliments too. I said "what are you looking so cute for?" to her last night. I keep it at 80% humour, 20% compliments. How many women have you successfully romanced with this approach? Playful arrogance can work in small doses. Very small doses. As for why some women keep responding... all the usual reasons: boredom, desire for attention, etc. None of the reasons add up to investment in you.
Wiseman2 Posted June 16, 2021 Posted June 16, 2021 20 hours ago, HopelessNick said: I do it to everyone, not only girls and people crack up heaps. But you're not getting dates with this sophomoric humor, are you?
smackie9 Posted June 17, 2021 Posted June 17, 2021 Attention.....girls love it and will take it from anyone. It's all just for fun....no romantic interest there sorry.
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